DD6’s party, Jemima’s mother and the clownfairy part 2

The Fairy will be there.

But when they're in a classroom there's always going to be other adults (teachers and assistants etc) around to help in an emergency.
At home, there could be one kid needing help in the toilet, whilst one is being sick, one is falling over etc etc ..... and then there could be a real emergency occur on top. There'd be no one on hand to help in this case.

The way the outrage just escalated in response to you clearly not taking those chiding you seriously, and immediately changing your party to adhere to their preferences, really was something to behold. Whole asses were shown.

Another kiwi here, I found your 1st thread fairly entertaining with all the talk of child-adult legal ratios/lifeguards/anaphylactic reactions/emergency trips to hospital/pony allergies, not to mention the psychoanalyzing of your character!

Can also vouch for this being the normal NZ way, as once mine were at school parties were just drop and leave if they were at someone's home. I would always go in to say hi and make sure the gift was handed over - and i guess if at that point I discovered dad was a Mongrel Mob member who bred pitbulls I would have stayed, but generally I wouldn't expect parents to hang around at that age either (personally I wouldn't mind if they did tho!).

Ooh you're best to read the last thread to find out

Adore you OP @Endoftheroad12345 . My oldest is 30yo and youngest is 12yo . I didn'tt do baby parties, but did every other year from starting school. I met the parents at the door and they said "so pick up at 2?" and I said yes great. "come on in Hamish". Had them all ready at 2pm with lolly bags in hand. If someone had asked to stay I would have thought they were super weird. Nobody did. With 4 kids I can guarantee that staying at parties is very odd indeed. I rarely set foot in the door.
( One exception , a couple hired out an entire Italian restaurant and invited all the parents and supplied copious wine foolish mistake but a great party).

Oh and OP@Endoftheroad12345 I agree with you in every way and did love the pegging and internet jokes but "Yeah nah" is Australian. No copying please. 😉

And they were the same 5/6 yo’s who were dropped off at parties…. SEN aside (which is very different), parents do their kids no favours by never letting them sort things out for themselves. Parents are quite happy for one person to look after 30 of them in a class (whilst they are not there), but it’s an issue for one person looking after a dozen of them from the same class whilst they are fully entertained for 3 hours on a Saturday?

I feel that all of this could have been avoided if OP had put on the party invite ‘DROP OFF PARTY ONLY DUE TO SPACE CONSTRAINTS’.
you will know for next time OP 😉.

I know exactly who you were implying OP. I meant others, meaning apart from yourself. Never mind, there's no point in complicating things for you.

You do have a lot of, shall I say, confidence in your self OP, to be able to take the piss as you do. Just a little friendly advice, look at all the responses on your previous thread.
You started an AIBU, which basically means you're asking for people's opinions (in case you're not aware), but then tried to tear down posters (like myself) who didn't agree with you.
You came across as if you think you're superior (I'm a lawyer don't you know, which incidentally I imagine no one actually gives AF about, and a lawyer who not only can't have a reasonable debate, but can't even organise a child's party in time).

You been extremely aggressive to many posters and the worst of it all, you were nasty about a Mum who was purely enquiring about what the plan of action was regarding the party. Your reaction to her was completely over the top, unnecessary and cruel, especially as you thought of her as 'weird', amongst so many other negative comments about her.

You came across as paranoid too, and yet you have the audacity to mock me (amongst others), .... Wow, just wow .....

But you haven't answered the pivotal question either Daisy...

Are you a health and safety inspector?

Yes
No

Plot twist - the new fairy you've hired is Jemima's mum

My dear no nonsense Kiwi is back! You won't believe how excited I was!!

Can we be besties? Please?🤓

I am a philistine, clearly, as I wouldn't necessarily expect to provide cake to parents! For DS's party it's actually a joint one (felt that was unnecessary detail earlier) so we're doing cupcakes rather than one big cake - and I haven't ordered enough for parents, so they will be out of luck on this occasion! I have ordered enough extra that any siblings can have one, as I don't want to make a toddler cry. If it's a big cake and clearly loads spare after the kids then it gets offered round the parents. Maybe this is part of the cultural difference - I'd totally expect to have parents present for 6 year olds, but because of that no one would expect to be hosted as that would be a big ask for 20 parents.

@TorroFerney it's not a lie to be mildly flexible in order to be inclusive- you can say 'id rather just have kids without parents but if you need to stay then do'. its a kids party not the be all and end all of everything.

Ah yes, that comment by the OP was aimed at me.
I'm glad it made you howl with laughter, I mean, how could it not make you laugh?

I always howl at responses which are ridiculous and make absolutely no sense what soever, and which come from someone who can't answer a basic question.

Maybe you should get out more if you 'howl' at something like that 🙄

Some posters really need to read the room and lighten the fuck up

I think it might depend on how well the parents know each other. At our little village school everyone stayed for 5th birthdays, some stayed some not for 6th. 7th only those with additional needs seemed to have their parents stay. 8th not a single person, and it would have been thought really strange if they did, its generally a much smaller group by then. Those that stayed for 6th were due to the parents wanting to chat, rather than their children needing them at all.

From 6 my daughter was going away over night with her Rainbows group without us, so she could definitely manage a 2 hour party without me. And lots of her classmates are the same with Rainbows and Beavers, they are a really confident sociable group of children, and value that bit of independence from their parents.

We are in UK, for context. I know OP isn't. I wouldn't be anti a parent staying if they felt their child needed them, but it wouldn't be thought strange if they didn't.

The etiquette where I am is that normally if it's a hall or a your own home you'd give them tea or coffee, maybe some biscuits. If it's a soft play or other sort of venue where they can buy their own drinks then nothing.

But that would have been a lie, she didn’t want her to stay.

8 year olds are A LOT more able to look after themselves than 5/6 year olds.