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It speaks volumes about the kind of person you are

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Baddancingbackintheday · 31/05/2024 19:58

What do people think of this comment, in this context

I met a dad at the playground around a month ago, my Dd was playing with his Dd and we sat chatting, he was a very nice guy, we really seemed to click in a platonic, friends way. We exchanged numbers for the girls to play together, he wants his Dd to improve her English and I think it would benefit my Dd to learn more of the language of the country we’re in (not U.K.)
We’ve exchanged messages back and forth, but unfortunately haven’t been able to meet up, this is due to our side as Dd has been ill or we’ve been away/busy.
I felt bad for turning down so many invites and was due to possibly meet after school today, but Dd has been ill, so I messaged him to apologise and explained the whole situation about school, as Dd has been not wanting to go to school recently.
He was very supportive and said if it would help to get the girls together, he’d be there and that I didn’t owe him any explanation of course, but that he appreciates me taking time to text him and that it speaks volumes about the kind of person I am.
Is this a really nice thing to say? It’s been a while since someone’s said something like that to me.

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Baddancingbackintheday · 31/05/2024 20:16

@Busbusbusbusbus I have, that’s why I’m querying it a bit I think? I haven’t met up so far and have always had to say no and felt a bit guilty for never meeting up, then he texted that, is it weird?

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5128gap · 31/05/2024 20:15

Baddancingbackintheday · 31/05/2024 20:12

@5128gap But we met once…is that a bit weird?

Its a bit intense I guess. Are you both single?

Busbusbusbusbus · 31/05/2024 20:14

Have you posted this before, sounds familiar a thread where exactly the same about a woman meeting a man in the park and asking if she should text him both have DDs and both not in the uk... I believe you are both not single?

Baddancingbackintheday · 31/05/2024 20:13

@Sue152 I’m not sure, I don’t think so, I was just a bit surprised, seems a lot? I’m just not used to people saying things like that I suppose!

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Baddancingbackintheday · 31/05/2024 20:12

@5128gap But we met once…is that a bit weird?

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5128gap · 31/05/2024 20:06

Yes it's a very nice thing to say. Quite gushy in fact as he's stretched quite a bit in order to pay you a compliment. If you're confident his intentions are platonic then I'd say you've made a very nice friend. He obviously thinks a lot of you.

Sue152 · 31/05/2024 20:05

Yes it's a nice thing OP. What are you thinking here exactly. I'm not sure what you're getting at? Do you think he might want to be more than friends?