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To think ODFOD used to be allowed?

119 replies

DirtyKit · 11/05/2024 18:07

It did right?

but now it isn’t?
what happened?

IABU - it was never allowed
IANBU - it was allowed

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GentlemanJohnny · 12/05/2024 09:00

drusth · 11/05/2024 18:09

If you can’t express your opinion without telling people to fuck off then you shouldn’t be here, OP.

Back when I first came to MN (10 yrs + ago) there would have been howls of derision at this statement.

This place has changed out of all recognition.

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 12/05/2024 08:56

PineappleTime · 11/05/2024 18:11

It wasn't ever allowed to tell someone to fuck off and everyone knows what is stands for.

I had absolutely no idea! Learn something new…

Sammysquiz · 12/05/2024 08:55

I don’t mind the fuck bit, bit do mind the ‘dear’. Have enough of men putting us down with this type of patronising shit without doing it to each other. So can we change it to ODFO?!

HayFeverFun · 12/05/2024 08:49

DirtyKit · 11/05/2024 19:06

Thanks for the replies.

Maybe the difference I’ve missed is we can say it about other people who are not on the thread (OP’s boss / DH / MIL etc) but not to the OP? Would that be it?

it’s either that or MN is becoming a bit more snowflakey I think.

At the risk of being told to fuck off isn't it you that's being snowflaky for caring so much about a deletion that you've started a thread about it 😅

Mumsnet is a moderated thread and it's clear personal attacks are not allowed. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Original poster
DirtyKit · 12/05/2024 07:23

@MNHQ please could you let us know what’s changed or if it is allowed?
thank you

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INeedToClingToSomething · 12/05/2024 05:26

I don't think MN should delete ODFODs. Often completely justifiable. Can we start a "keep the ODFODs" petition?

ODFOx · 11/05/2024 23:35

Well that makes my 'it might be you but it might not' username a bit useless <cackles and Googles the blueprints of the tunnels 'neath MNHQ>

WrenNatsworthy · 11/05/2024 23:33

AlanBrendaCelia · 11/05/2024 23:28

This feast you talk of - will there be cake?

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Ginger cake!

WitchWithoutChips · 11/05/2024 23:30

I am another proponent of the ‘it was always deleted if reported’ theory. It certainly doesn’t have an automatic block like some terms, eg some ableist slurs.

AlanBrendaCelia · 11/05/2024 23:28

WrenNatsworthy · 11/05/2024 18:13

Let's all meet up in matron"s office at midnight for a feast, and take it turns to go under the table and say it.

This feast you talk of - will there be cake?

WrenNatsworthy · 11/05/2024 23:20

40 minutes until the midnight feast! Bring ginger beer and tiptoe past Matron's bedroom.

For me and the 4 posters who thanked me.

BIossomtoes · 11/05/2024 23:16

I didn’t realise it was now deletion worthy. Sad because it’s sometimes definitely merited.

Pin0cchio · 11/05/2024 23:07

Ddraig bingo

DdraigGoch · 11/05/2024 23:05

Sugarcoatedalmonds · 11/05/2024 20:05

Depends on the context I think. Tbf i absolutely hate that phrase, it's so patronising

Also, are you seriously posting a thread complaining because you're post was deleted?! 😅

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Of course it's patronising. It's often used to rebuke posters for being patronising. Fight fire with fire.

Pin0cchio · 11/05/2024 23:05

Been here yonks, seen it loads, used appropriately.

DdraigGoch · 11/05/2024 23:04

DirtyKit · 11/05/2024 19:57

But what if my opinion is simply that they should fuck off?

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ODGFAMD

Oh Do Go Forth And Multiply Dear

Optimist1 · 11/05/2024 23:01

CountingCrones · 11/05/2024 18:12

Mumsnet is where I learnt it, so it must have been allowed at some point. I'm not here often enough to catch deleted posts.

Me too

Mummyoflittledragon · 11/05/2024 23:00

Doyoumind · 11/05/2024 22:58

I hadn't realised but it's definitely been a while since I saw it - until this thread - and I used to see it on here all the time.

Just another way in which MN is so much less fun than it used to be.

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Agreed.

Tanyahawkes · 11/05/2024 23:00

Justlovedogs · 11/05/2024 18:08

Oh do fuck off dear

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I had no idea what this meant either and thought you were telling the op to fuck off 🤦‍♀️🤣

Mummyoflittledragon · 11/05/2024 23:00

NeverDropYourMooncup · 11/05/2024 20:13

Bluntness seemed to have the monopoly on saying it and not being deleted.

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Was she banned? I forget. I miss having people like her around and some of her posts did make me chortle tbh. I do think the moderation is somewhat more robust these days, maybe a reaction to the influx of younger users not so well versed in the pithy discussions of longer term posters?

I always thought ODFOD and FOTTFSOF were allowed. A fair chunk of posters used these acronyms in years gone by.

Doyoumind · 11/05/2024 22:58

I hadn't realised but it's definitely been a while since I saw it - until this thread - and I used to see it on here all the time.

Just another way in which MN is so much less fun than it used to be.

FunnysInLaJardin · 11/05/2024 22:54

MN used to have a ODFOD mug. Surely it is still allowed?!

MaryFuckingFerguson · 11/05/2024 22:54

People used to say it all the time on here.

StormingNorman · 11/05/2024 22:53

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