To want to skake the 'post and piss off' posters?

I need a CF allotment thread update 😭😭😭

A lot of them are wind up and go trolls.

I'm guessing, with some of the CF and parking threads, that word gets back to the miscreant - with some of the very detailed and identifying information that's given.

Entertaining as it is for the rest of us, it must be quite 'awkward' continuing to post about the misdeeds of Linda at number 16 once you know that she's on here reading every word.

I suppose you can understand someone retreating when they get lots of responses that disagree with them/ tell them they are crazy etc
It's the ones where an interesting post is written and valid questions are asked that would shape advice given in a constructive way and there's zero response.

I have just read one about being rejected for a job but being asked for the presentation, only the original post so far but more context is needed, I understand people are busy but if you start a thread then surely you do it hoping for responses and at a time you are available to reply.

One that I was totally invested in recently was the OP's DH meeting up with an old friend he's never mentioned before.
Can understand why OP eventually disappeared if her marriage was genuinely in tatters as it played out but what did pickle my head was in spite of the fact the OP obviously wasn't coming back hundreds of people continued to post for days afterwards when there really was nothing that hadn't been said multiple times.... why ?

I'm glad when they leave because if they don't it usually because they're really upset. I think mumsnet can be a bit toxic in that respect, it's just bullying.

Not specifically but now you mention it, quite apt.

Totally agree

More than 50 posts and op ain't back is just rude

You mean like this?

I agree OP

I think a lot of posts are made up jobbys.

I also think that most people who start a thread about a complex CF situation and return with frequent updates are probably making it up . Especially those that go into multiple threads . I imagine after a while they get bored hence not informing of the final outcome .

I made a post on my first account. Mumsnet decided I was a troll (I’m not) and suspended the account but left the thread up. I was unable to respond to any of the posts.

I think that most posters who don't return to a thread which sparks a divisive debate have posted just to wind people up. Particularly if the post is about dogs!

There was one recently where someone let their kid climb on out of bounds school equipment after school. The kid had an accident, so they went to the school office for first aid and were annoyed the school didn't write an accident report as they were under the mother's supervision, not the school's. People agreed with the school not the OP, so OP got the thread deleted as people didn't agree with her 🙄

I don't use mine as it's far too restrictive as a system - in the unlikely event that anybody wants me, they just have to type my username three times anywhere on MN.

I'm assuming the title was a typo for 'shake', but I am genuinely now wondering whether 'skake' is a new word that the young folk are using - maybe meaning 'to reprimand soundly' or possibly whatever the online equivalent of giving somebody a pointed Paddington stare would be?!

@VestibuleVirgin@LakieLady There is indeed a third thread. https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5049200-cf-allotment-thief-part-3-the-plot-thickens-and-auditions-begin-for-the-west-end-musical

Look for the See Next link on the original post. If there isn't one the OP hasn't responded. Worth doing before investing into a thread.

Yes this annoys me too! Especially when it’s an AIBU and it’s 98% they are BU so they get grumpy and then leave. Why ask the Q if you don’t actually want to know??

The other is people who have dramatic situations and then never update the thread. There are 10 pages of people getting invested! The ones I can think of are the crow lady, clock chime lady and recent rat lady. Just tell us what happened ffs 😂 (I seriously need more hobbies 😆)

This is true.

But similarly, they are not owed an inner calm acceptance of their behaviour or threads from us

It's the OPW's that wind me up.

Start a thread and don't ever come back to it. Surely an acknowledgement of thanks for your comments would do.

There are quite a lot of people who enjoy goading posters. There are also people who seem to feel that posters should disclose a great deal of personal information - to the point where there's a risk of they/their family becoming identifiable.
(If questions are answered civilly, then accusations of 'dripfeeding' may also follow.)

Sometimes I have started a thread just to see what people think. Some responses genuinely astonish me. I try to sift out the responses that appear to have been made in a spirit of genuine helpfulness and think them over.

There comes a point where it's really not worth returning, because the conversation has become both absurd and acrimonious.

Yeah, I generally assume if it’s a post that people have become really invested in and then the OP stops responding but HAD been responding and it’s grown into a huge thing, then one of two things has happened: either they’re sick of being accused of being not real, which happens a lot when a story sounds strange and a thread gets that big, and they are real, OR they’re really not real and get bored of it. I don’t know which. I guess it depends what you want to believe about people. If they never responded after the first post, it was never real. These people are almost always first-time posters (surprise, surprise) and that single comment is their whole Mumsnet history and if you report the thread to MNHQ, it’ll sometimes end up removed for previously-banned poster or because even they can’t contact the OP.

I mean, there are people elsewhere boasting of starting popular threads on Mumsnet, not actually the rabbit thing but like the rabbit thing. So obviously some are not real.

Yes there is one at the moment where a woman is complaining that she isn't getting support over her impending marriage. People kept asking how long she'd known the guy and it turned out she only met him in October. She shut up after that.