Posters you still think about

About 20 years ago, when I was just nosey-parkering at MN because it had been on the news, there was a lady who was having a hard time with young kids and a DP struggling with his mental health. A few things she said made me think she came from my home town. I posted on one of these threads a few years later and someone knew her and said she was doing ok. I still think of her from time to time and hope she's ok.

Can't remember any of the details but there was a woman in Relationships who had a kind of hippieish vibe who was living in Portugal with some younger guy who sounded like a but of a cocklodger. Then a more appropriate man came onto the scene (solvent, closer to her age, responsible) and she couldn't figure out what to do. She had this kind of overly wordy purple passages style of writing I found quite entertaining. Anyone know who I mean?

I don't know if she's already been mentioned but one that I think about frequently when I put my children to bed and is incredibly sad.

It started as a handhold as her young (maybe 3 years old?) daughter got rushed to hospital, I think with RCV or tonsillitis or similar. Her daughter was treated and came home and seemed to be getting better, then I believe maybe two days later the poster's husband went to wake up her daughter in the morning and she had passed away in the night.

I remember her saying that the paramedics had said she wouldn't have felt anything or known she was dying as she was found in a starfish position which meant it was just a peaceful passing.

I think about this a lot, and still cry about it sometimes. I always make sure the last thing I say to my children before I leave the room at night is 'I love you' just in case that's the last thing they hear, because of this poster's experience.

It was just so terribly sad.

I also think about MoreLegsThanMe. Hope she’s doing well.

Yes that's the one!

A few of these will be lost in the mists of time, but I have often thought of Lovely2012 (I think) over the years. A woman in a gilded-cage abusive situation with a chillingly controlling and sexually-coercive man. Hope she is free.

Of Magnetictiger who was seen as annoying and maybe was, but sometimes treated rather sharply.

Of a woman who was rendered stood-still around town because she saw a man who had been sexually inconsiderate at best. Jackhammering at her and the headboard, in one instance of their time together, if that jogs a memory. Clearly something was up about how he treated her, but the vibe was is that all? or to pull herself together, instead of 'That was shitty, have a deep dive on that for yourself'. Probably on AIBU 😒(I'm not her!)

Of Onitlikecarbonnet (sp.) - many threads I've lost, but I'm vaguely sure she and hers are fully free and clear of the sod.

from what I remember it was in front of the husbands mother, I can’t remember the exact reason why. A few people have mentioned it. Just found the thread https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/3290749-He-made-me-eat-paper

Utterly creepy, plus the link to a recording of her voice on her deathbed.

I remember Scottishmummy and La Queen, I remember Talkinpeace and Garlic

GentleOtter, she also had a blog about her life as a struggling tenant farmer in Scotland. She stopped updating, I'd love to know if she's OK.

I remember that thread.. it was taken down on OPs request. Apparently there was someone in the village who was interested to buy the house OP bought so they were trying to spook them off.. OP and her DH thought there were people in village who supported him and were reading of what OP was going through from the thread on MN. I think (not 100% sure) OP sold that house and moved.

Thanks you @dapsnotplimsolls . I was dubious as at a similar time I was posting on what was the Australian version of Mumsnet. That website is now closed. It sounded exactly the same as what my family was going through. Lots of Aus mumsnetters will remember it. I was very honest, included lots of details and have met some of those lovely ladies IRL. Seems there were 2 of us in Australia suffering from the same thing!!
A warning for all you mums of sons to keep an eye out.

Ive been here since (all this was fields) my hulking teen was a shock pregnancy.

i do often think of the poignant ones like Emin and Cupofteaplease.

but is also reallywant to know what happened to that poor woman and her idiot husband who was convinced he’d been offered a football coach’s job in somewhere like Benin. He wasn’t particularly qualified and didn’t speak French but was adamant it wasn’t a scam (it totally was a scam) and was about to send a ‘registration fee‘ to the scammers.

hope she’s ok.

OMG yes me too! Why on Earth didn't she update or did she just become crow dinner?

LittleJennyWren, her posts were so sad.
Cath - the lady whose dd Pippa died. I hope her and her sons are doing well.
I often wonder what happened to Oddsocks.

😂🤣🤣🤣🤣

KendrickSmilled? not sure now about the KetteringSmilled??
loved her.

Sorry if someone’s already answered but it was purple lampshade and I don’t think she’s updated for ages

Actually I think I remember the name, begun with an E or LH. Might be completely wrong. If it was them, the posts/account seem to have been deleted. I hope she is doing well.

The crow lady. I think about her all the time.

Too many to mention and certainly the RL friends I made here during the epic saga of my divorce that spanned 3000 posts, have been the best thing to come out of it all. So many name changes but particularly WellWhoKnew. An absolutely amazing woman who I am grateful to have as a friend. I really miss Somerville. We used to chat privately and she was such a lovely lady. She had lost her husband but found love again and had another baby who I think became ill. Then she name changed. I think of her often and I hope she's ok!

The thread was deleted.

Yes, I remember this one and wonder what happened. When written out like that it doesn't sound like it could be real but I'm sure it was a longstanding poster. Quite a few years ago probably?

That thread about the Scotland move is still going. She's been there for a year and is really happy and settled.

Fairly recentish one last year - a young mother who'd been offered a flat near Glasgow, but had no knowledge of the area or contacts there.
She posted after moving and it seemed to be going really well for her - she was just so optimistic and delighted with the new opportunities.

& the first thing I ever read on here - a woman that had just had shellac nails done, but hadn't bought the CND cuticle oil; from her posts and the replies you'd have thought it was a matter of life and death; she seemed convinced her nails would fall out by the next morning.