I'm in my 20s, and having spent the better part of the past year online, I'm starting to feel like things are way worse for women now than they were, say, 5 years ago.
Hop on to your local Facebook page for uni students, and there are tons of posts talking about how 'sex work is work' and that camming or doing OnlyFans can even be 'empowering' for women. Below those posts? Men talking about how lucky women are to be able to earn a 'fortune' from such endeavours. Should I feel lucky that I can take my clothes off for the internet?
These guys swear up and down that they are progressives and that they respect the hustle but when they're rating all these women and giving them descriptive, derogatory nicknames and compiling them into lists based on what sex acts they perform on camera, I just can't see the respect.
Hop on to one of the biggest forums on the internet and the whole place is filled with men my age saying it's a women's world. You'll see posts claiming how good women have it by being able to monetise their bodies via camming, OnlyFans, sugar daddies etc, how women can get promoted just by sleeping their way up, how things like anal/choking/spitting are 'baseline' now and that not liking porn is a sign of insecurity.
It's not just a small group, but thousands and thousands of posts everyday regurgitating variants of that. You can't tell someone's gender on that forum, of course, but a lot of self-proclaimed women seem to vehemently agree with all those points too.
Has it always been like this? When I was graduating from sixth form the predominant message was that women are not men's playthings, but their equals. What happened to that?
Am I the only one, of my generation at least, who sees the power imbalance that inadvertently follows the normalisation of all that? Logically I know I'm not but it doesn't always feel like it. It's certainly not something I can mention to some of my friends as I can already imagine the names I'd be subjected to behind my back if they knew I held such views.
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Are things worse now than they were 5 years ago?
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OptCmdEsc · 27/04/2021 01:53
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