A year ago I found my husband messaging flirty messages to a person from work and he admitted to being flirty with her at work but nothing more happened which I do believe. The texts were just flirty nothing sexual from what I seen but I dont know what went on at work. We were going thru a crap time and weren't talking but even before that when he started he would come home and say she had been telling the guys at work sob stories about being cheated on and looking for comfort which did ring alarm bells with me about her but didnt ever think this of my dh. I later found out(before I found out about the flirting) that she does go about sleeping with guys with partners and doesnt care so I know she was fishing for attention and what her motives were. My DH says he regrets it but it was just nice to get attention off someone as we were bearly talking.
I class this as cheating he doesnt. What would you class it as? I constantly think how long or how far would it have gone if I never seen the messages. I wasnt even snooping. I was using his phone to sort out something to do with our son(with his permission) and the message popped up from her so I was in complete shock.
I have tried to forgive and forget but it's all resurfaced and I think about it constantly again. I really love him and am trying anything to stay because I do want to but it's so hard. Am I being unreasonable? Has anyone went thru anything similar?
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TaraW20 · 29/06/2020 05:32
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