Looking for some advice or guidance please:
In short I have been split up with ex for nearly 3 years, we have 7 year old son
After we split ds has always slept in the same bed as his mum
In my house with ds we sleep in same room but in bunk beds
For the last couple of months ds has now been wanting to sleep in my bed, which I have said no it’s better to sleep in your own bed son
The reason he says this is because he likes to have some one next to him
It’s gotten worse over the last few weeks where he is crying now at night and doesn’t want to stay with me because I won’t let him sleep in my bed
I went to pick him up recently from ex and he wouldn’t come with me unless I promised he could stay in my bed, ex was not being particularly helpful and supportive and was in fact trying to encourage it
I waited outside almost an hour and could hear ds crying about not wanting to come with me, it was pretty heart wrenching stuff
I felt I had no choice but to promise ds he could sleep in my bed otherwise I wouldn’t have had My son that weekend
Obviously now that’s made matters worse for the both of us
I’ve been trying to get him to talk and open up to see if there is anything else behind it but nothing so far
I have also tried to encourage my ex to see if she can try and get him back in his bedroom at her home but no joy on that front
My ex also stays round her mums a lot and sleeps over which I don’t think is helping ds and his routine, he’s effectively staying in 3 houses over the week which must be confusing for ds
I’m trying to think of the best way to take this forward for my ds, I don’t want him to feel like this About staying with me but I also don’t want to just let him do as he wants
Should I just let him stay in my bed or would that be setting up further problems down the line?
Your thoughts would be most welcome
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Crowne · 08/11/2019 22:18
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