Is this relationship doomed?

[ringaling]

Really really early days.
Been together 2 months now.
He lives 30 mins drive from me and is 31 with 1 child who is 11.
So far I see him twice a week Monday and Thursday.
I don't see him weekends as he has his son and it's still early days.
The thing is I don't think even after a while we can ever do anything together at weekends.
We both work Monday to Friday from 8 till 6.
The first few weeks we were going out for meals etc.
Now he says he is skint and would prefer to just come to mine.
So he gets to mine for 7.30-8pm then by 10.30 he is asleep.
Is it bad I want to go out for tea or just shopping or anything really.
Can it work?
Also he seems slightly lazy always in bed and he is on his phone on Facebook and that's even when he is with me.

[IMurderedStampyLongnose]

Run!way too early days for this behaviour.You obviously think that too or you wouldn't have posted.

[TurnipCake]

If he's this dull early on, it's unlikely to get any better. At least you know now before getting too emotionally involved

[Ragwort]

So basically he is visiting you for a (free) meal and sex ................... ?

And even though he only allows you 2 hours of his time he is still using Facebook during those two hours?

Get rid. Now.

[jules179]

2 months in is very early for him to be this boring. Why does he have his child every weekend?

[Marmalade85]

Run, run, run.

[Finola1step]

Ditch.

[ringaling]

He came over Thursday but no sex as he fell asleep and we went halfs for a Chinese.
He has his son from 5pm Friday to 5pm Sunday ..the first few weeks was fun but now it's like we are a old married couple.
He says he prefers staying in to going out ..probably because he can lie down and sit on Facebook.

[ElspethFlashman]

Christ, it sounds shit.

Dump. There are far more interesting guys out there than this dullard.

[Ragwort]

What are his good points ?

[justdontevenfuckingstart]

This sounds utterly pointless op. Knock it on the head and get back out there and find someone else.

[Allovertheworld16]

God what's the point in that?

I bet he would be the same on weekends even if he didn't have his son.

[expatinscotland]

FFS! What a loser. Bin now. He comes over to doss on your bed, get a meal and go on his phone. What a catch! Of course he prefers staying in, he's a lazy fucker.

[ringaling]

Honestly the first month was great,we went all over and now it's just blah.
I do like him so I don't want to be hasty..should I suggest maybe going for a meal?
Then again I always suggest things..tomorrow he said il come over after work,I want to go to the Christmas markets and Ice skating but he isn't keen..

[cottencandy55]

I wouldn't be happy with this so early on should still be fun actually even after years should still be fun . I would call it a day.

[ringaling]

I've just text him asking what he is up too and he is in bed ...I think his son might already be home.
We could be somewhere now..so frustrating

[ringaling]

I love doing things,going out.
Not even spending money just stupid things like driving to a nice little village and have some lunch etc but I don't think he is into that.
Shall I give it till after Christmas and see if he gets some life back into him?

[eggyface]

Why shouldn't he have his child every weekend?

[AttilaTheMeerkat]

Honestly what do you get out of this so called relationship?

Why is your relationship bar so very low to begin with if you have accepted this to date?

You seem to be trying to make a silk purse out of a sow's ear.

The man needs to be ditched; if this is what it is like after a couple of months then its not going to get any better.

[Allovertheworld16]

I've had one marriage and one long relationship with men who didn't want to do anything. I would rather be stuck in on my own than do that again. I don't think you're compatible op.

[ringaling]

I never said he shouldn't

[expatinscotland]

'I do like him so I don't want to be hasty..should I suggest maybe going for a meal?
Then again I always suggest things..tomorrow he said il come over after work,I want to go to the Christmas markets and Ice skating but he isn't keen..'

You're flogging a dead horse! This is who he is. He doesn't want to go to the markets or ice skating, and you'd be a fool to put those aside to couch this dosser in your bed on his phone.

[ringaling]

I thought maybe I'm expecting too much ..don't get me wrong I know yo can't go out all the time.
Maybe it's nice to stay in and get to know each other better ..without giving tmi even sex he likes me to do all the work

[Wonkydonkey44]

Dump dump dump ! It's not going to get any better , time to move on x

[MsGameandWatch]

Well now you know why he's single. If I can't even muster up enthusiasm to get out and about with you this early on what do you think it will be like in a year or two. You're basically getting nothing out of knowing this person, where is the reason to continue?

[ChuckGravestones]

What's the point?