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Virtual Reality Porn - The end of relationships?

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Followyourart Wed 06-Jul-16 20:29:52

https://m.facebook.com/fightthenewdrug/posts/10154277754076756

Don't know how to post links but, what are people's views on this? Some of the comments on Facebook are reassuring, most people agreeing with me - in that it's sick. Someone described this on Reddit as "the biggest shit storm society has seen". I was visiting family the other week and my younger brother told me about his VR headset. My first thought was - it won't be long before this is used for porn. In fact, I believe it was always going to be used solely for porn, but it has been marketed in the guise of "gaming".
I think this is the beginning of the end for real, human relationships. This VR is supposed to be so immersive, it is designed to seem infinitely more intense than reality.
I realise that some of the middle aged - older generation will reject this, most probably the ones who never watched porn in the first place. However I worry for the younger generation (my brother is 20. Not suggesting he will use it for this purpose, but all of his friends have headsets)
Depressingly I think it will be a considerably more intense and involving version of porn, which real life human beings cannot compare to in any way shape or form. I think there will be nothing more unattractive than walking in on your OH - not in front of a screen, but moving around the room with a headset on!? This will be a world you can escape to, in which your partner is entirely removed.
I believe VR will blur into reality, when you can act however you want with whoever you want in an almost real setting, what's stopping you in reality?
This is about making more and more money and getting people more and more addicted. On the one hand I hope people will wake up to how disgusting and corrosive this will be, however I think many will embrace it.
Is this a question we are going to need to ask on first dates; so... Are you a VR porn user? Yes? Next!
I can say with certainty now, if this takes off which it absolutely will, of I become single in the future I am staying that way. Relationships are doomed.

Followyourart Wed 06-Jul-16 20:31:45

Perhaps came across a little dramatic.. Sorry :-/

if I become..

MummyBex1985 Wed 06-Jul-16 21:29:02

I have an HTC Vive VR headset and it's more immersive than I thought it would be. Indescribably so. So much so that last night I wanted to relax so I just sat on the carpet watching the stars, lol.

I don't think VR porn would be the end of relationships though. It's just fantasy at the end of the day, albeit quite a real fantasy!

Fomalhaut Wed 06-Jul-16 21:53:17

Hmmm... But there's more to relationships than just sex. Vr isn't going to give you a cuddle and a lemsip when you're in bed with the flu. There are too many other aspects to human relationships that can't be replicated easily and to be honest the mundane stuff is important.

It could certainly create issues around sex though - current exposure to online porn is creating a generation exposed to pretty extreme acts far too young. I don't dispute that. Certainly issues there.

I think immersive vr will be great. It'll have big implications for data visualisation as well as gaming.

Redisthenewblack Wed 06-Jul-16 21:57:47

Porn is already VR.

I watch porn. I enjoy it. I can watch scenarios I would never be in and get off over it....Because it's not real.

NOTHING can compare to the feeling of my partners hands on my body though. The way I can smell, taste and feel him is second to none.

If people become hooked on porn, whether VR or 2D, that's their issue.

VR can't hug you when you're sad, can't have your children, can't marry you, can't play board games, can't hold the door open, can't cook you dinner, can't run you a bath....

Human relationships will always come first.

Followyourart Wed 06-Jul-16 22:04:57

I'm not sure I meant that it will replace relationships, more that it could destroy them, how many people would realistically be ok with their partner using VR porn? I don't agree with porn at all, but this is different by quite a long way, and if I had a "choice" 2d porn would be more "acceptable"..,
What about more introverted people - would this prevent them from seeking real life relationships?

Fomalhaut Wed 06-Jul-16 22:52:19

I'm very introverted- certainly hasn't stopped me from having relationships.

I think it'll be similar issues to the current ones surrounding porn - unrealistic expectations/sexualisation too young/normalisation of submission and violence and objectification of women.

Redisthenewblack Wed 06-Jul-16 23:01:03

Just re-read your OP and reply and I now think you sound a lot bit like a journo. So I'm bowing out of this discussion.
and the daily mail are cunts
Hope you get your rocks off without VR porn wink

Ineedmorelemonpledge Wed 06-Jul-16 23:04:07

It'd definitely put me off a relationship..catching someone in the middle of the living room in nothing but their socks and glasses thrusting themselves in to fresh air and honking their hands on two non existent knockers...

Redisthenewblack Wed 06-Jul-16 23:07:38

And the PH ad was shit. XVids wink

Eekaman Thu 07-Jul-16 01:42:23

Interesting article...

''The illusion that she was a real human broke when she got even closer. My body was so confused by the lack of heat—no warm breath on the nape of my neck, not even a single heartbeat—that I felt it as a phantom sensation.''

Yeah, all relationships are bound to be doomed aren't they? :/

daisychain01 Thu 07-Jul-16 06:55:37

Virtual reality has been around for at least 20 years.

The world hasn't come to an end in that time.

Don't worry, it'll probably be OK....

GrimmauldPlace Thu 07-Jul-16 07:00:36

I think you're over thinking this. It's probably on par with when Internet porn became so readily available and the dirty mags became useless.

1DAD2KIDS Thu 07-Jul-16 07:05:31

Sex is only one aspect. VR could make sex so ordinary if any sexual fantasy could be acted out on demand. It could highten the value of other aspects of a relationship.

It's when you get VR conversation, banter, loving, caring, nuturing, cuddles, companionship. Then we need to worry about real world relationships.

Ineedmorelemonpledge Thu 07-Jul-16 09:01:36

Well said 1DAD.

CherryPicking Thu 07-Jul-16 09:19:48

Sounds like the end of relationships for sad, nasty men. Good. It'll make it a lot easier for the rest of us to avoid them.

Followyourart Thu 07-Jul-16 09:23:41

That's a really good point 1dad ..

Riddick123 Thu 07-Jul-16 09:37:57

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GrimmauldPlace Thu 07-Jul-16 12:53:00

Did you just sign up to post a link to a porn site Riddick?

TheDropBear Thu 07-Jul-16 13:09:46

Anyone remember the futurama episode where Fry dates Lucy Liubot?
vimeo.com/12915013
I clicked this thinking that VR has a long way to go before it can replicate sex well enough to make it preferable to real sex and relationships. But then you see on here some people with partners who are porn addicts choosing regular porn over them so I'm not so sure =/

TheNaze73 Thu 07-Jul-16 14:16:38

If it became as good as real sex, I agree with the OP's concerns. Why would people put up with a load of crap that you get with a relationship & almost pick & choose the bits you want. Won't obviously suit all but, can see this working for a lot of men as well as women

1DAD2KIDS Thu 07-Jul-16 17:44:20

I can see VR porn being really powerful at providing stimulation. We don't need to have physical contact for strong pleasurable experiences. Look at how many people achieve climax through phone sex without seeing or touching the other person. The power of awesome sex is phycological not physical. This technology provides instant mental stimulation. It definatly raises questions about the future of sexual gratification. But for me I don't see it replacing the touch of warm skin on skin, the embrace of someones arms or the feel gentle kisses on naked skin. I think there is more to fulfilling and nuturing in human sex that nature has designed in us. So this is just a more interactive porn film in my opinion than a replacement.

My main concern is the effects that the possibility of being able to act all your sexual fantasy will have on the way we see sex and each other. I see possible fun but also possible emotional and psychological risks.

MojitoJo Thu 07-Jul-16 17:46:51

Never heard of these but from what I've read here it seems that Woody Allen wasn't so far off it when he devised the Orgasmatron in Sleeper!

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