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DH sulking, I've had enough (possible TMI)

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AlwaysDancing1234 Sun 15-May-16 15:25:35

We've had a really busy couple of weeks and weekends with kids party and DS activities/clubs etc.

Came home from taking DS to a club this morning then DS stayed home with DH to do supposedly do his homework while I took the toddler out with me to grab some shopping.

I said we could all go to park when I got back but DH said no as "hay fever playing up" (it was ok yesterday when he spent hours in his parents garden messing about with power tools hmm)

Got back and DD was asleep in buggy.
DS hasn't even started homework, slumped on sofa watching telly.
Loads of housework/laundry to be done and the garden is badly in need of attention so I said to DH I'll get started on garden but can he help with chores/homework.

DH started sulking because he wanted me to go in the bedroom with him and (no delicate way of saying this) give him a blow job.

He threw a strop and stomped off mumbling how he was too far down list of priorities.
Admittedly we don't have sex hardly ever but that's due to issues he's aware of.

I just feel it's the last straw today when I've been rushing about the whole weekend trying to look after everyone and everything.

I've left him to sulk and tended the garden. I just came in and realised He's been sitting in the bedroom ever since. DS was left alone watching tv and still hasn't started his sodding homework.

I'm beyond fed up now and just want to tell him to go away and not come back sad

AlwaysDancing1234 Sun 15-May-16 15:26:47

Sorry that was a ranty rambling mess

UptownFlunk Sun 15-May-16 15:27:18

He sounds horrible and I would tell him to get to fuck - but I'm not very patient and can't bear sulkers and people who pester for sexual activity.

AnyFucker Sun 15-May-16 15:27:51

He's waste of space, isn't he ?

And just ugh at the expectation you service him with kids in the house.

PacificDogwod Sun 15-May-16 15:28:19

I'm beyond fed up now and just want to tell him to go away and not come back

If this is how you feel and he has form for this behaviour, send him packing.


Goingtobeawesome Sun 15-May-16 15:28:31

Blow job when the kids are about? Good try pillock.

Obviously you won't have time to cook his tea or iron his shirts as you are too busy doing chores and homework.

ImperialBlether Sun 15-May-16 15:28:56

Hang on, he wanted a BJ on a busy Sunday afternoon when both children were around?

Can you IMAGINE a woman demanding oral sex from her partner (with no reciprocation) under such circumstances?

AlwaysDancing1234 Sun 15-May-16 15:29:10

In his defence (although why I'm defending him fuck knows) we have only had sex/sexual contact half a dozen times in the last 2 years but that's due to many issues (both mental and physical) that he's aware of and says he understands.....but....

PacificDogwod Sun 15-May-16 15:29:11

Oh gawd, I missed the BJ suggestion - what a creepy prick!!

Get shot.

Shakey15000 Sun 15-May-16 15:30:00

Ye Gads that sounds vile.

AlwaysDancing1234 Sun 15-May-16 15:30:46

Yes toddler DD is asleep in the buggy in the hall and older DS watching tv in the lounge.
His reason for asking during the day is that DD sleeps practally on me at night.

MilkTwoSugarsThanks Sun 15-May-16 15:31:06

"Grow the fuck up, you fucking pathetic child, or get the fuck out. You've done nothing and you're a useless piece of shit."

But then I am in a bad mood.

I have no helpful advice, except my ex was similar and it is possible to break free. Life is a lot easier with one less child to deal with.

Good luck flowers

runnerselbow Sun 15-May-16 15:31:32

He sounds like a big demanding kid.

Shakey15000 Sun 15-May-16 15:32:25

DH and I are very lax in the bedroom due to my recurring medical conditions but no way would he be expecting a blow job while DS was around, certainly not on demand and would definitely not be sulking like a twat about it.

Costacoffeeplease Sun 15-May-16 15:32:27

I don't think there is any defence for him - he's a lazy twat who thinks you're there to cook, clean, raise the kids and give him a blow job on demand - he's sounds a real peach

AlwaysDancing1234 Sun 15-May-16 15:33:07

If I had just got home and he'd not done the housework/laundry/homework I would have been posses off but was biting my tongue and not said anything.
It was only when he mentioned the BJ I told him to get lost, he then sulked so I shouted at him to grow up and he stomped off throwing his hands in the air in dispair
God it all sounds so shit written down sad

Goingtobeawesome Sun 15-May-16 15:34:14

Do his share of the chores, for more than five minutes, nights out having booked and paid for the babysitter, show love and compassion, be a good father and husband. More chance of a shag. Carry on as he is. Not a single chance so no point being together if you want different things.

AlwaysDancing1234 Sun 15-May-16 15:35:12

I'm very close to marching into the bedroom and giving him your speech milktwosugars

AlwaysDancing1234 Sun 15-May-16 15:36:01

Exactly awesome
He cleaned the bathroom easier but now I feel like it was only to get on my good side...

AlwaysDancing1234 Sun 15-May-16 15:36:12


Pipbin Sun 15-May-16 15:38:24

So he sees sexual activity as something that is purely for his benefit?
What a cock end.

I would be inclined to only do the washing for you and the kids, when he complains that he doesn't have any clean socks or pants then tell him that he decided that sucking his dick was a higher priority.

BitOutOfPractice Sun 15-May-16 15:53:27

It never ceases to amaze me how many men fail to understand that when you act like a pig and treat your partner like shit, they are less, not more likely to want to have sex with you

and any person who sulks or strops to try and get sex is an abusive arsehole in my opinion. Yuck

JonSnowsBeardClippings Sun 15-May-16 15:53:43

He's a massive bellend. How unappealing.

PregnantAndEngaged Sun 15-May-16 15:53:51

Wow. Could he not have just had a wank in the shower or something? What a tosser!

JessicaJumpingUp Sun 15-May-16 16:01:19

I always got sex refusal sulks and stupidly often gave into them just to keep the peace. It's such an ugly trait.

Go with your instinct and tell him to go away and not come back.

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