i have been with my dp for over 4 years with him. we are soulmates. he loves kids and so do i after a year we chatted and we went through various tests and it was discovered that he has a high sperm count and very low mobility about 2 per cent thanks to a childhood accident. im in the other hand overweight and have very low progestrone about 2.9 and the avg is about 30.
im in my 30s so after waiting and scraping we where finially granted a slot for ivf all free paid for my the irish goverment as we are having both have problems cant afford as we have medical cards to qualifly its a golden opportunity and im so gratefull for it.
are appointment is coming up in may and i have dont all the test and im still waiting to do his end he hasnt been able to provide a sperm test as he is under stressed. time is getting on. he been horrible he had a terrible accident a few months ago and our lease was up on the rental apartment so he moved in with his parents and im moved with my mother. thats all well and good i made the effort to see him reguarly but he gone all cold. his family hates. me and my dp hasnt given a christmas present or a my valentines card and he knows that upsets me. i was there for him. at every way.
things between me and his family have reached boiling point and to be honest i want nothing to do with them thanks to them telling my friends and the world about their dislike for me but of course i being blamed for this row and im not welcome in their 'home'
its been nearly 7 months from his accident and he should be able to get his last operation and take his plate out. and be 'normal' he should be out and about and he would stand to gain a lot of money from his accident perhaps in the region of 140 grand eurs now
he derserves the money but i rather not the accident if you get me. i waited for him for nearly 7 months gone through some seriously hard shit with him and his family
i could tell my dp is backing off . no contact with me. he is only sweet to me when he had a hospital appointment this week and wanted me to attend with him and i refused saying i want nothing more with the hospital appointments because im sick of all this shite. when you brought your mam out for dinner you never asked me to come. he hardly spoke to me since.
and our appointment is comming im under terrible stress trying my best to lose weight. i fat and im 15 stone and i wondering what to do
if i dump him tomorrow what to i do. i dont do one night stands i feel like i gave him my best years but in the last year i regretted waiting for me and i can imagine he would find some else and be with them and get a load of money and the 2 of them would have a good time on it while i was the drained sad loser that stuck by him and got all the crap
another things is we break up tomorrow i know in my heart it would breake me if i saw him with another woman however im in my 30s and i want to have kids even if he doesnt do his side of things i will go to my appointment and see whats the story with me if im got no chance of having kids that i stay with him but if do well i know i cant risk that
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dont know what to do im all over the place and my dp is a wierdo
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presario1 · 11/04/2014 16:10
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