I've been struggling with depression and anxiety for years and am having a fairly rubbish time with it at the moment. It's reminded me what a lonely place it is. My friends mean well but they don't get it at all. My DP is very supportive but asks me too many questions.
Inspired by the thread about helpful/unhelpful things to say to bereaved parents, I thought it might help to share some do's and don'ts for those supporting people who are suffering from depression:
- Stay in touch - text often, sometimes a phonecall is too much but a text allows the person time to respond if they want to
- Don't keep asking the person how they are
- Don't ask the person why they are depressed
- Don't ask the person what they are going to do about being depressed
- In fact, just ease up on the questions altogether. It's unbelievably exhausting being asked questions when you feel like this
- Don't push the person to take antidepressants but support them if they choose to do so
- Support their choice to see a therapist and as above, don't ask a million questions about their sessions. Respect their right to not see a therapist if they so choose
- Good things to say: 'I'm sorry', 'that sounds really rough', 'it must be very hard for you right now', 'take time to feel what you're feeling', 'I'm here', 'Im thinking of you'
Please share your suggestions