Would I be a crazy stalker or does this sound normal?

[skyofdiamonds]

I was in the bank last week sorting out some things which meant I had to come in on two consecutive days to see the same lad who works there.

He is my age. (early twenties)

Anyway, we seemed to hit it off quite well. I ended up finding out lots about him but I can't work out if he was just doing his job and being nice to his customers or actually having a really good conversation with me.

I found out where he lives
what he drives
what he used to drive
what uni he went to/what he did there
his holidays
his football team
what he did the evening before
where he goes out and how often
how he gets to work
whether he enjoys his job
the crap parts of his job
whether he socialises with any colleagues
what hes doing at the weekend
what hes planning to do in the future
that hes learning a new language
where he eats lunch
about his awful customers
his old job
where he grew up
his previous relationship ended
where he went to school/college
etc etc

He was comfortable enough to whip his phone out quickly to check an update on BBC sport that we were talking about!

At the end he joked that he would message me if I was right about my football prediction but obviously that would go against Data Protection Act etc so wouldn't expect him to! (I'd never do that to any of my patients as I'd lose my job and I'm sure would be the same in his situation)

Surely he wouldn't divulge so much about his customers/ job issues with everyone!

So, would it be really weird to message him on FB about our cheeky joke with the football? Bearing in mind, he gave me his work card with his name on so he was easy to find... or am I a stalker?

He was so lovely, normal and someone I'd love to spend more time with!

[UnrequitedSkink]

Doesn't his work card have his email address on? FB a bit stalk-y to be honest!

[UnrequitedSkink]

Whereas email address, if freely given to you, would be fine!

[likeatonneofbricks]

why would you want to find out this much about him after two meetings? he will feel weird about you, if you go on date and he senses that you know so much. Imo quite stalkerish.

[UnrequitedSkink]

No no, she already found all that out about him when she went into the bank!

[likeatonneofbricks]

you mean, he volunteeres all this info? in this case why OP thinks it may be stalkerish - just an fb message? I think it's better to email then, I agree.

[PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot]

Was there mobile or email? Agree would look better than face book which has that element of hunting him down!

[Houseofplain]

What would be against the data protection act? Him taking your personal number for pleasure? Yes. I'd say that was your cue.

[likeatonneofbricks]

if there is no email, you could see him at the bank again and give him your number as a hint, fb-ing is a bit intrusive.

[RillaBlythe]

I agree with others, using the contact info on the business card would be fine. FBing him would be a bit stalky.

[startlife]

Did you get to share similar info with him? Was he interested in your life? I think if a person is interested in you they want to know about YOU (rather than talk about themselves).

He could just be a chatty guy who is happy to be share info. I would not FB.

[mrsjs]

I know someone who met, married and are still together, almost 15 years later. She worked at the bank and he used to go in there. Not sure about the exact details but it certainly worked for them.

If he's give you his card then I don't see why you shouldn't email him.

Go for it and do come back to let us know!

[BertieBotts]

I'm 24 and I don't think it would be that bad to facebook, but clearly I'm alone

[MableLabel]

To be honest, I'm just impressed that you remembered so much info!!! Shows definite interest and that's worth pursuing. But think yep FB stalkery. Email like others said....

Also VERY good point above about him talking a lot about himself, but what did he ask about you?

[BedGirl]

I also think to contact him on face book would be a but odd (and I'm young )

I do think you should pursue it though I would pop into the bank and just ask him if he would like to go for a drink.

Did he mention data protection? Because if he did I agree with houseofplain, it would have been a hint.

Good luck!

[balotelli]

Speaking as a fellow male here , he would have only given away that amount of info ofr one of two reasons;

1. he is mildly autistic and has trouble with social situations not knowing when to keep things to himself
   

1. He fancies the arse off you.
   

Either way go for it.

Whats the worst that can happen? He wont speak to you again? in which case he wasnt worth it or he replies with a 'yes lets go out?'
Either way you cant lose.

[MushroomSoup]

Exciting!!

[MrsTomHardy]

Oh exciting!!!!!!
Keep us updated and email him now

[scentednappyhag]

Definitely fancied you, email him!

[Rindercella]

Bloody hell!! Pleased I wasn't behind you in the queue

He is definitely interested in you. Go the way of email though, and take it from there.

Good luck!

[jimmenycricket]

Turn up where he eats lunch naked

[skyofdiamonds]

lol. No He didn' talk about himself! He asked me all kinds of stuff and the conversation flowed. We have pretty similar lives so was just easy talking!

Will look at what details I have on the card (if I can find it)

Such mixed reviews. You guys haven't made this easier:p

[mostlyhappy]

Please go for it. I am VERY OLD (41 years old!!) and regret lots of times when I was too shy/indirect with blokes I fancied. Root out his email OR FB him if you can't and flirt away. You have to report back!!

[UnrequitedSkink]

Not very mixed - only one person thinks you should fb him. But she is younger and probably knows well the ways of youth today.

[whenyouseeitwaveorcheer]

I think fb is a bit stalky if you haven't discussed facebook with him.

I, personally, would leave it a couple of weeks then go in again and suss his reaction to you - whether he remembers you/whether he seems pleased to see you.

then take it from there, I guess.