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DH and I agreed to do role play - I did mine now he's refusing
(136 Posts)This is so typical of him, gets what he wants and then refuses to do his part. We've been having problems, things getting a bit stale so to spice things up we agreed to try a little role play. I said I'd go first and he asked me to dress up as a sexy nurse. Pretty easy since I am actually a nurse so I just adjusted my uniform slightly and played out a silly nurse/patient scenario. It was successful and we had a good time. However now that it's his turn he's refusing to do it. I have asked him to dress up as a character from Star Wars (pretty normal cliche stuff!) and he's saying he doesn't think it's working - now that he's had what he wanted. Is this normal for role playing that one person stops once they've had what they wanted?
do you want him to be chewbacka
doesn't sound fair and balanced, no.
In what other ways is this "typical of him"?
arf at Roger, although Chewbacca does have a certain allure.
Wookies, however... I think he would be perfectly justified in refusing that role.
Yoda?
R2D2?
I think we cannot assess wiwbu unless we know.
she wants him to be Princess Leya
Gotta be Darth, all that heavy breathing
Princess Leah?
I think it is a bit mean and I would feel like shit. Its kind of in the same league as climaxing before you and then turning over and going to sleep.
(I of course meant Ewoks, not Wookies, in my 17.44 post btw)
<hastily posts and hopes no Star Wars pedants are about>
Learn he must, Jedi he will become.
He's acting very selfishly.
he's saying he doesn't think it's working What isn't working? Once he's got his Star Wars outfit on, are there moveable parts that are refusing to obey his commands?
Or is he now claiming that role-play isn't working for him?
I am role playing as the person who can't spell tonite
Well unless he dresses up, then he's not likely to get you playing nursey again, is he???
his light saber will not obey his command, obviously
well unless he is <scratches head> ...
Nah it's Ja Ja Binx (sp) with that tongue
In all seriousness, he's being selfish. Unless he's actually really uncomfortable with what you suggested, but then should have discussed it before your turn was taken.
I think he means it's not revitalised your relationship enough for him to feel confident dressing up as Han Solo and thrusting his lightsabre at you. (sorry)
it's all a bit Eddie Izzard
It is Chewbacca. I can get the costume etc yet he insists it's too much hassle, even though I said I'll sort it out!?
Raymus Antilles
it's too abstract, you need to be more transparent.
7/10
nice try
good tea time topic!
did you both discuss and agree to the parts you were going to play beforehand? I'm not surprised you're hacked off but I'd also draw the line at asking dh to be r2d2 so it does depend on your roleplay scenario
Chewbacca? Really?
well, if you are also agreeing to get the costume sorted, he is being very very unreasonable. I suggest you try s & m next and sort him out good and proper
How are you planning to shag Chewbacca?
<can't work out the logistics of this one>
Really?
so are you going to be Harrison Ford? <swoon>
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