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DH and I agreed to do role play - I did mine now he's refusing

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HornySwoggle · 05/10/2011 17:42

This is so typical of him, gets what he wants and then refuses to do his part. We've been having problems, things getting a bit stale so to spice things up we agreed to try a little role play. I said I'd go first and he asked me to dress up as a sexy nurse. Pretty easy since I am actually a nurse so I just adjusted my uniform slightly and played out a silly nurse/patient scenario. It was successful and we had a good time. However now that it's his turn he's refusing to do it. I have asked him to dress up as a character from Star Wars (pretty normal cliche stuff!) and he's saying he doesn't think it's working - now that he's had what he wanted. Is this normal for role playing that one person stops once they've had what they wanted?

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RogerMelly · 05/10/2011 17:43

do you want him to be chewbacka

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ItsMeAndMyPuppyNow · 05/10/2011 17:43

doesn't sound fair and balanced, no.

In what other ways is this "typical of him"?

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ItsMeAndMyPuppyNow · 05/10/2011 17:44

arf at Roger, although Chewbacca does have a certain allure.

Wookies, however... I think he would be perfectly justified in refusing that role.

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Blu · 05/10/2011 17:44

Yoda?
R2D2?

I think we cannot assess wiwbu unless we know.

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RogerMelly · 05/10/2011 17:45

she wants him to be Princess Leya

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Sausagesarenottheonlyfruit · 05/10/2011 17:47

Gotta be Darth, all that heavy breathing

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Sariah · 05/10/2011 17:47

Princess Leah?

I think it is a bit mean and I would feel like shit. Its kind of in the same league as climaxing before you and then turning over and going to sleep.

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ItsMeAndMyPuppyNow · 05/10/2011 17:48

(I of course meant Ewoks, not Wookies, in my 17.44 post btw)

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HotBurrito1 · 05/10/2011 17:49

Learn he must, Jedi he will become.

He's acting very selfishly.

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izzywhizzyletsgetbusy · 05/10/2011 17:49

he's saying he doesn't think it's working What isn't working? Once he's got his Star Wars outfit on, are there moveable parts that are refusing to obey his commands?

Or is he now claiming that role-play isn't working for him?

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RogerMelly · 05/10/2011 17:49

I am role playing as the person who can't spell tonite

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ChitChattingWithKids · 05/10/2011 17:50

Well unless he dresses up, then he's not likely to get you playing nursey again, is he???

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RogerMelly · 05/10/2011 17:50

his light saber will not obey his command, obviously

well unless he is ...

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SquishyCinnamonSwirls · 05/10/2011 17:51

Nah it's Ja Ja Binx (sp) with that tongue Wink

In all seriousness, he's being selfish. Unless he's actually really uncomfortable with what you suggested, but then should have discussed it before your turn was taken.

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heggertyhaggerty · 05/10/2011 17:51

I think he means it's not revitalised your relationship enough for him to feel confident dressing up as Han Solo and thrusting his lightsabre at you. (sorry)


it's all a bit Eddie Izzard

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HornySwoggle · 05/10/2011 17:52

It is Chewbacca. I can get the costume etc yet he insists it's too much hassle, even though I said I'll sort it out!? Hmm

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RogerMelly · 05/10/2011 17:52

Raymus Antilles

it's too abstract, you need to be more transparent.

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heggertyhaggerty · 05/10/2011 17:52

7/10

nice try

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mercibucket · 05/10/2011 17:53

Grin

good tea time topic!

did you both discuss and agree to the parts you were going to play beforehand? I'm not surprised you're hacked off but I'd also draw the line at asking dh to be r2d2 so it does depend on your roleplay scenario Grin

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lovelydogs · 05/10/2011 17:54

Chewbacca? Really?

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mercibucket · 05/10/2011 17:54

well, if you are also agreeing to get the costume sorted, he is being very very unreasonable. I suggest you try s & m next and sort him out good and proper

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ScarahStratton · 05/10/2011 17:55

How are you planning to shag Chewbacca? Hmm

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RhinoKey · 05/10/2011 17:55

Really?
Hmm

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RogerMelly · 05/10/2011 17:56

so are you going to be Harrison Ford?

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HornySwoggle · 05/10/2011 17:56

We did kind of discuss it, he said he's always found the nurse thing sexy so that was a no brainer really. We toyed with the idea of doing a doctor/nurse scenario but that again was more him than me IYSWIM?

My other ideas was a policeman (arrest me and shag me scenario), Hagrid and Chewbacca. He said he was happy with any of these so in a way he did agree before hand.

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