I found out today that DS1 (year 8) broke a window of a staff member's car on Wednesday.
He was mucking around throwing acorns and one hit the window which broke.
He didn't own up. Somhow the school found out it was him so he did then admit it. He didn't tell me.
The first I knew was a phone call from school.
What do you think a suitable punishment would be? He will be paying for the window (£194!) from his own money.
He will be writing to the owner of the car.
I am most upset that he didn't own up to the school or me. I guess he thought he might not be found out by the school, but then when the school found out, he knew they'd tell me. I suppose he was delaying the inevitable.
The actual incident itself was foolish rather than malicious and I think having the pay to replace the window is punishment enough for that.
He knows how upset I am to recieve a phone call and not know whether it's because he's been picked to represent the school for something, or that he's been misbehaving. He is academically doing very, very well, as he is in sports.
I have told him that I feel betrayed (that he could snuggle up with me yesterday telling me about his day). It makes me feel like not doing stuff for him, so I suppose that's a good punishment - though it gets difficult when he's letting other people down by not going to Scouts etc.
There is a Scout event next weekend which he's been looking forward to for a year so I've a good mind to cancel that.
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12 YO DS broken car window at school
bonkers20 · 30/09/2011 18:35
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