Hi
I am new to this site. I hope no one is going to judge me.
I am typically a bit of a worrywart but since I got pregnant it's become ridiculous. I always suspected it would be - as it's the ultimate loss of control for me and I've run my personal life with immense control for years, in order to deal with some difficult personal stuff.
I was very surprised to fall pregnant as I was told I was perimenopausal (high FSH) beyond my years (40). However, the same month I got the diagnosis I got pregnant.
I should be happy - I am happy when I can access that place - but the preoccupation with worries is driving me to bad and dark places. At first I was sure I'd miscarry given that the supposed quality of my eggs is compromised. But I'm nearly at week 11 so although I know it's still possible, time has moved on...
So now I just worry about everything else. The list is endless. Most recently - and most obsessively - about things after the birth that I can't control. Like what if my age and my fertility problems create problems for my baby, like autism or related ASD. The idea of autism really terrifies me which sounds awful so please don't judge me. I go to terrible places with all these possibilies, spend ages on the internet look up stuff that feeds all my anxieties (I know I'm not helping myself but it's like a scab, I can't help but keep going back to the ineternet and the fact is that there is always some negative fact or posting to back up your negative thought process) and then I feel like I'm living the problem already - or the perceived, imagined problem.
I know I sound nuts, but I just feel scared that I'm going to be unlucky and this wasn't right.
I really want to try and relieve myself of all this as it's just horrible being in my head. And because I have the capacity for joy and I'm not experiencing it now. My boyfriend and I have a wonderful relationship. He brings huge relief to me, but I know I'm difficult. And I feel so guilty because it's meant to be his amazing experience too.
I hope this posting hasn't offended anyone. I just wanted to know if anyone has any advice or had similar experience.
Thanks for reading.
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A long post: intense anxiety over potential problems
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newdawn · 17/05/2010 08:58
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