my SIL gets married this weekend and I was all set to go (baby dependant), but her daughter has come down with chicken pox and the pharmacist reckons it's dangerous for me to go in case I contract the virus and then baby is born imminently (I'm 39 weeks), trying to find out more info - any ideas? I had chicken pox when I was 7 so assumed I was immune - and if I can't go due to this, does that mean hubby won't be able to go either (he also had it as a child)??
I would phone your GP and ask if they can check your immunity. I was 7 months pregnant when DH got chickenpox (despite MIL insisting he had it as a child). I've never had it as the blood test confirmed. They weren't as worried about me because I was at the safest time if I did get it but I was still given the jab to boost my immunity.
From what I can remember my MW told me that as long as you have immunity you should be ok (I wouldn't sit her on your knee though just to be safe)... as while bubs is still comfy inside you your antibodies will be passed over.
However if you are unsure about your immunity then I wouldn't risk it as it can cause complciaions at delivery if you have the virus whilst you are giving birth.
Ps ..very brave going to a wedding at 39 weeks I am 39 weeks tomorrow and feel like a beached whale ... I have limited public outings to a minimum in case I scare small children
I wouldn't risk it unless the child is definitely at the 'past being infectious' stage.
Ds1 was born with cp (I must have been in contact with someone with it without knowing) and was very, very ill when born (5 days in scbu isolation, resuscitated twice). Wouldn't want anyone to go through that. I'd had it as a child too, so would have assumed I was immune.
Although would make more sense for the daughter to stay away, imo.
You need to stay away - one of my best friends friends has a little girl who has all kinds of problems due to contracting chicken pox inutero - her mother had had it and showed no symptoms when she came into contact with a child with the pox but her daughter was somehow effected.
Thanks everyone, I'd decided if there was the slightest risk I wouldn't go and from what you're all saying it sounds like there would be - unless she definately isn't contagious by the weekend. I wouldn't give her any cuddles or go near her but then other people will do and if it can live in clothes that means I would have to not touch anyone else there either...
but doesn't this also mean my husband shouldn't go in case he catches it? would be horrible for him not to, he's so close to his sister but then if it means him not holding his baby for the first few days of its life
I don't think there would be an option for SIL's dd not to be at the wedding, I certainly woulnd't want her not to go just so I could...ugh gutted though
It's not just for your benefit that her dd shouldn't go though - it's for everyone's, unless she knows for sure that everyone, including staff, has immunity. CP can be quite serious in older men. Dh had it in January, but was lucky to escape without hospitalisation or complications by all accounts.
You could be standing next to someone in a shop or the library or in the playground who is in the infectious stage of chicken pox RIGHT NOW ie just BEFORE the spots appear or when there are only one or two. You can't avoid it as you can't see it. You may not go to the wedding but decide to go shopping or for a meal out instead and pick it up there.
Children should be off school (and therefore also away from most/all other people) for 5 days.
If the wedding is within these five days then consider not going. To stop your husband going would (IMO) be a little over the top - UNLESS he has not had chicken pox.
I don't want to stress her out anymore - in fact I'm pretty sure that her dd will no longer be classed as contagious by Saturday (think spost first appeared this weekend).
I think I'll stay away just to be safe, really don't want to prevent DH from going but also want to make extra sure that there won't be a chance of him passing on the virus to me. It seems that just because you've had it as a child, doesn't mean you can't catch it or shingles as an adult....
DS had chicken pox almost two weeks ago and I was 37 weeks pregnant. Our Dr wasn't worried as long had definately had it before as I would provide immunity to the baby. The concern was more that baby would arrive while he was still contagious.
I was still very worried though and would rather not have been in that situation so if I could have avoided it completely I would have.