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Announce I'm pregnant to friends at their house warming?

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Angelina7 Fri 03-Nov-17 12:36:20

Hi,. I am pregnant with my 2nd child and I'm just wondering how to tell good friends. My friends are having a house warming as they just moved to a beautiful house and lots of our friends will be there but not just our friends, is it suitable to tell them then in person as I will be seeing them? I wouldn't want to take anything away from their house warming and their beautiful new house though....what would you do?. ...its either then or over the phone before then x

nic14271213 Fri 03-Nov-17 12:37:22

I would probably do it before then so to not steal their thunder . Congratulations. 💐

AngelaTwerkel Fri 03-Nov-17 12:38:18

I don't see a problem with telling them at their house warming, in what way would your pregnancy detract from their event? I'm sure they'll congratulate you and then just get on with their party.

feelslikearockandahardplace Fri 03-Nov-17 12:38:39

Congratulations but as it's not your party to me it's not the right time even with it being a housewarming rather than a more personal occasion. It may be a big deal to them.

livefornaps Fri 03-Nov-17 12:39:14

I would just let them have the party for them.

If you only knew them, then okay, fair enough... but if loads of your mutual friends will be there and they've finally got their hands on the house they wanted after the ballache that entails then maybe just let it be their night.

Bluntness100 Fri 03-Nov-17 12:44:16

If they are indeed good friends, then I’m not sure why you’re wondering how to tell them. Text them or tell them on one of your phone calls. Congrats but it’s really just a big deal to you not for others. Waiting for their party is a bit precious.

Blackcatonthesofa Fri 03-Nov-17 12:46:59

Please don't because that would make their party about you.

DryHeave Fri 03-Nov-17 13:03:20

Do you usually drink? If so, just go and don't drink: people will be onto you but you can't be accused of thunder-stealing.

2014newme Fri 03-Nov-17 13:09:25

Reminds me of the scene in friends when Rachel announces she's pg at Monica's engagement 😂

I didn't announce my pregnancy I just told people but I know that's old fashioned and people like to 'announce' nowadays 🤣

Uptheduffy Fri 03-Nov-17 13:13:25

It doesn’t need to be an “announcement” to friends. I know you say you’re close, but I bet at least one couple at the party is ttc/havibg problems conceiving. A party isn’t the best time for this.

PinkHeart5914 Fri 03-Nov-17 13:14:11

Please don’t! It will end up over shadowing the party, just let them have the party

Angelina7 Fri 03-Nov-17 13:35:33

Ok thanks all ...I'm didn't mean announce, I'm not a showy person at all believe me ...I don't even like to have a birthday party for myself! It was only difficult for me to judge as it's nicer to tell people in person and that's when I'm seeing them next and if it was my party I wouldn't mind at all coz I don't particularly like the limelight on me! But yes you have confirmed my doubts about doing it then so I will either chat or message them before their do. Thanks all x

Uptheduffy Fri 03-Nov-17 13:36:35

Oh and congratulations on your pregnancy smile

redfairy Fri 03-Nov-17 13:39:24

Congratulations on your pregnancy. I think you're right to drop them a text or call beforehand with your lovely news. I'm sure they'll be thrilled for you.

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar Fri 03-Nov-17 13:40:07

God, please don't hmm. They're throwing a party to celebrate their new home; not to provide a convenient stage for you.

london123987 Fri 03-Nov-17 13:41:19

I always find it a bit peculiar when people don’t tell you they are pregnant until they see you in person. I am pleased for other people when I hear good news, but like a new job or other stuff, it doesn’t need to be a big thing. I always find it rather indulgent.

I think a good rule is that if you have to ask yourself if something is appropriate then there’s a good chance it’s not. You can just text your friends after the event or whatever. You don’t need to reveal at someone else’s party.

Angelina7 Fri 03-Nov-17 13:49:39

😂😂😂 god I don't want a stage that's not how I intended it at all!!!

Heatherjayne1972 Sat 04-Nov-17 18:11:03

Why on earth do you need to 'announce' it
They'll guess anyway when you're not drinking and have a bump
If you must make a big deal out if it leave it until a week or two later
Don't hijack their party

Twoo Sun 05-Nov-17 15:46:32

Congratulations OP . No I would not tell them at the party, it's their party with their friends. Either tell them before party day or after party day.

Tinycitrus Sun 05-Nov-17 15:50:06

Why on earth would it overshadow a Party?
Pregnancy is lovely but pretty unremarkable and people will wish you all the best and then move on...

Unless you think everyone is going to stand about awestruck that a woman is pregnant confused

AngelsWithSilverWings Sun 05-Nov-17 16:01:13

The only thing II would be mindful of is the possibly that one of your group of friends is struggling with infertility.

I went to a very posh New Years Eve party with a group of friends. We were all staying together in a big hotel. It cost a fortune and we were all looking forward to it.

We all met in the bar and one couple immediately bought champagne made a big announcement about them expecting.

I had been TTC for 4 years and had had three lots of failed IVF. I had to go back to our room with DH to compose myself and the party was completely ruined for me.

JoJoSM2 Sun 05-Nov-17 16:21:09

If you’re not after a ‘stage’ and being a bit precious about it, then why do you want to do it at the party and in person? If you’re excited to share your news, then tell people when you speak to them, ie on the phone or when you meet up for a coffee.

TinselTwins Sun 05-Nov-17 16:25:27

While it's USUALLY nicer to tell people your news in person, that does not apply to pregnancy! It's much nicer to tell people by phone/message/email so that if it kicks them in the guts they don't have to explain or fake smile!

You never know which friend this'll effect even if you think you know their circumstances!

Message your friends with your news before the party so they're not reacting in a fish bowl

Pacificly Sun 05-Nov-17 16:26:17

Text them beforehand or wait til after housewarming.
DH and I found out we were pg with 1st child month before his sisters wedding we weren't sure what to do we waited until after wedding to tell anyone we didn't announce as such just told new Gps to be and great grandfather at dinner before he returned home after extended stay after wedding. Apparently even this was too soon for SIL hmm

FinallyDecidedOnUserName Sun 05-Nov-17 16:27:47

No. It's stealing their celebration

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