(Would we be unreasonable!)
Hopefully one of you helpful people will be able to give us some unbiased advice...! DP and I really want to start a family. But we are both really unsure about if it's "the right time"- particularly financially.
I'm 29, he's 36. We are both quite senior junior doctors. If all goes to plan I will be a consultant in 2 years, he has longer to go as he's doing a PhD just now.
Our joint earnings are around 65k a year- I am in a job with on-call from home so lower pay, and he is "unbanded" while does his PhD in our local university, which will end in a year. No guarantee he'll be placed near where we live when he finishes his PhD. Earnings on reaching consultancy would be around 70k for me.
We bought our house 2 years ago. It's a nice 3 bed in a good-ish area but is quite cramped, 3rd bedroom is a study/box room. Big mortgage but it's gone up in value.
DP has debt of around £50k and my debt is around £12k plus we have credit card debt of £5k related to essential renovations when we moved in.
We would seriously struggle on less than half-pay for me. We are aware of high childcare costs and I'd probably go down to 60-80% PT after mat leave but we'd still need to pay for a few days childcare. Mat leave and PT would massively extend the time for me to make it to consultant level.
His family are abroad, mine are 2 hours away. We look after his nephews a lot and LOVE having them, but his widowed DB would struggle helping us with a baby.
If I waited 2 years, I could be a consultant with MUCH better pay (and associated mat pay) and could easily afford to work at 60% as a consultant. However I can't help feeling it would be a bit shit to get a new job, announce I was pregnant and leave. But then I'd be left waiting potentially til I was 32 to even start trying. It would also have more clarity about where DP was going to end up working if we waited a bit.
We have 6 months where we can't start trying anyway as we're just back from a wedding in central america (zika risk) so our current feeling is that we should work our socks off for 6 months, do as many locums as possible to at least try and eliminate the credit card debt then start trying. And obviously we know it won't happen straight away! But is this irresponsible?
We would just really appreciate some advice about others' experiences- when is a good time to get pregnant? Is there a good time!? Lots of our medical friends have started having babies but they are all from well-off families, most of whom have bought houses/helped them with deposits, and so our friends are a bit bewildered that we might even be concerned about money
This has been such a long post I'll be really grateful if anyone replies!
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NotJessica · 11/07/2017 11:49
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