Help please; abortion and morning sickness(23 Posts)
I've been reading this forum the past 2 weeks and could really use some advice.
Before I start, please don't judge me. I'm only 22. Me and my boyfriend have been using protection, but this has somehow happened. I'm almost 6 weeks pregnant. I'm not only unable to afford it financially, I am on a very high dose of antidepressants and am in no position to keep/raise a child. I am frequently having breakdowns - plus I am aware being on antidepressants can affect a foetus. I have also recently become estranged from my family and the only person I have in my life right now is my wonderful boyfriend who has been so supportive. I would never be okay with having a child and giving it up for adoption either - that is just out of the question for me.
I've had my abortion consultation and am due to start my first abortion pill on wednesday, having the second lot on friday. I'm really scared of the pain and effects that will happen afterwards. On top of that, I've had the most horrible morning sickness and it is starting to worry me. My urine was a very dark orange/brown colour this morning as I can't keep anything down. Water makes me vomit, lemonade makes me vomit and juice makes me vomit. I've been eating then trying to drink and have had no avail. I have eaten hula hoops, plain toast, salty foods, etc, I've read a lot of threads on here with advice but nothing I am eating or drinking seems to be working. I've also tried ginger - nothing. I feel so thirsty right now but am just vomiting everything up. It's starting to burn my throat when I'm sick due to stomach acid and hurts quite a lot as I'm bent over being sick a lot. Part of me wants to go to the hospital but am worried they may just thob me off with morning sickness and tell me to drink more. To make matters worse I can't even stomach my antidepressant tablets so I'm feeling very low. I just want this to be over with.
The only thing that has remotely helped the past week was a mcdonalds burger and chips that my boyfriend bought me - I haven't eaten maccies for about 4 years - but he read online the salt would help my stomach (though I know it'll make me more thirsty) and help keep fluid down, which it did. Plus apparently it has an anti vomiting agent in. Whether that's true I don't know, but after eating it was the best I have ever felt. That was 3 days ago though. I know I can't have it everyday. I've lost about 4 pounds in the past few days from hardly eating and drinking.
I know some people may say I just need to suck it up for the next few days before my abortion, but my nurse told me the sickness will or could last even after that because my body will take time to go back to normal. I guess what I'm asking is does anyone have any advice to help the sickness or anything I haven't tried yet to keep me hydrated? I'm dehydrated beyond belief at the moment and don't know what to do, even little sips of water/fizzy drinks are making me vomit. Whenever I stand up I feel dizzy and everything goes black for about 5 - 10 seconds. Can anyone who has been through an abortion before with the pills tell me how it is as well? I'm so worried even more about throwing up and the pain that comes with it because I just feel really weak and tired at the moment.
Thank you for any help, I really really appreciate it.
Absolutely no judgement here - only support and sympathy.
Don't want to read and run but no advice .
Can you ring a Marie Stopes clinic? Or your local surgery?
I'm so sorry you are going through this, while I've no experience on the pills I do hope things will get better for you afterwards.
As for advice on drinks, the only thing i could drink were coke and lucozade. Sip it really slowly.
Can you phone the clinic and see if they'll bring your pill forward to today? It sounds like you're very ill
Try tiny sips of water at room temp. If you want to have MaccieDs all week then just do that - although I'd be concerned about the salt making things worse. Stand up veeeerrrryy slowly, in stages, so you sit, then swing your legs over, then stand supported - it sounds like your BP is low. Poor wee thing, take care x
For the sickness yours sounds exsessive and could be hg, which ideally you should be on a drip when it's at its worst. For the abortions pills, the pains after the second lot are bad, a lot of back back then usually blood will begin to gush out, you will pass large clots. You must stay in hospital until you have passed everything. Often things done come away and you will need them removed surgically. The bleeding can be very heavy and you are prone to infection so must be very careful after wards.
If you're urine is dark orange, you're extremely dehydrated.
In your situation, I would present at A&E (and I'm not one to go for every small thing) you need fluids, most likely in a drip.
It doesn't matter that you're planning an abortion. What happens is your health right now. They won't fob you off, you sound extremely unwell. Please do go and get seen.
Eat and drink what you can
Don't bother trying to stay healthy
Absolutely go to A&E if you feel that bad
I was admitted to hospital with severe vomiting in pregnancy
Couldn't keep anything down and I had no energy at all. Lifting my head was hard work
I got admitted and put straight on a drip
No judgement from me. I wish more women would face reality instead of trying to force themselves to have a baby they don't want
Thank you so much for the kind and none judgemental replies, it really means a lot.
I've rang the clinic but they take blood tests before any abortion these days to see if you are anaemic. My results aren't through yet and so they can't bring it forward until they have them. I've tried lucozade and took small sips through the night. This morning I ended up throwing up lucozade along with stomach acid. The morning before was tropicana. My boyfriend is commenting on how pale I am and how my lips are slightly blue which is worrying him too. He has just gone out to work for a few hours and is coming back round later. I am tempted to ring the NHS 111 if it persists or my GP as even trying to sleep is too hard due to the thirst and sickness. I'm just one of those types who don't like to bother people if I need help, silly, I know.
I will keep trying to take small sips of lemonade at the moment and hope it doesn't come back up. Thank you for that advice : )
Thank you, I thought it would be stupid to go to A&E, but seeing the replies has helped me get rid of that notion. I may just go once my boyfriend comes home from work as it doesn't seem to be getting much better.
Call 111 yourself NOW!
They may advise you go straight to A&E
No judgement here
I suffered with hyperemesis in my first pregnancy and my symptoms were just as you describe - I actually ended up in hospital on intravenous anti-emetics four times during that pregnancy due to severe dehydration caused by the excessive vomiting pretty much every time I put anything in my mouth.
The only advice I have for you is to sip any liquids you can manage very slowly but regularly, and don't worry about what you're eating - eat whatever doesn't make you sick at that moment. If that's a McDonald's burger, have a McDonald's burger - the nausea will feel a lot worse when your stomach is completely empty, which is probably all the time at the moment!
If none of those things make any difference, please go to your GP/ring 111/go to the hospital. Don't think you're bothering anyone, you're health is still paramount regardless of this situation, and severe dehydration is a very slippery slope that can end up with you getting extremely poorly
Try lolly pops. I would also go to a&e hopefully they will help.
Like lots of other I'd go to A&E you do sound really ill and you shouldn't be getting blue lips from dehydration.
And there is no way I'd ever judge anyone for having an abortion,it's your body so your choice,you have to do what you know's right and you've made a very brave decision to do what you know is best for you.
I hope the hospital helps,with the abortion I don't know about the tablets,but I do know quite a few people that have had an abortion,I had to have one myself for medical reasons,I wasn't in any real pain afterwards,I did feel very tired and very emotional but i expected that.
For me I just made sure I took it easy for a few weeks afterwards and I had support around me as well which helped alot.
Blue lips = straight to A and E. TBH I'd even phone for an ambulance if your boyfriend isn't going to be home within the next hour.
I hope you have followed pp's advice and have contacted 111 or A&E.
I have had to terminate a past pregnancy due to hyperemesis. I was admitted for IV fluids a few days before the procedure (the tablets) and then was also given IV fluids and anti sickness meds on the day of the termination, before they would do anything else. The clinic/hospital did everything they could to get me into a fit state to cope with the procedure, and hopefully yours will too. It CAN take a few days for the sickness/nausea to pass, but the clinic should also be able to prescribe you some medication to manage this, such as cyclizine or prochlorperazine. In my case, the nausea and vomiting were gone immediately after passing the pregnancy, and I was eating and drinking as normal by teatime. I was by no means "well" immediately afterwards, but the relief from nausea and vomiting cycle was immense.
Please be kind to yourself and be honest with the health care staff about how poorly you are.
I had hg in my first pg and ended up in hospital a few times, the only things that helped were coke and McDonalds.
It sounds like you need to be seen , when I was that bad a went to the gp who got straight on to the hospital. It meant I didn't have to sit waiting in a&e
I would say the sickness will need to be dealt with before you take the pills. You might not keep them down otherwise which would be awful.
Yes to 111 or at least contact your gp, anti sickness tablets can be prescribed and usually work quite quickly. Sports drinks can help with hydration and there's plenty which arent fizzy which might be kinder on your stomach.
It sounds like you've made the right decision for you and your circumstances, no one would judge you for your choice.
Can't comment on the sickness. Sorry. Re abortion though. Send your boyfriend to a Boots to get some Nurofen Plus. It has some codeine in it and I took that as frequently as I could and felt much better. I didn't have back pain, just awful period like pain and kept feeling like I needed to push something out. I would have said it was more like a constant trickle of blood with clots but I expected the bleeding to have started much earlier than it did.
If it were me I'd go straight to a&e - dehydration can be very serious. The blue lips sound even more alarming like your body is trying to shut down to lack of nutrients.
I'm pretty sure you'll need IV fluids.
Try No to morning sickness tea. This decaf and preservative-free herbal tea is great that was a great help during my pregnancy sickness.
No experience lovely, but you really need to go to A&E because your symptoms suggest extreme dehydration. You really need IV to get some fluids into you.
Also, they may give you something for the sickness which you will definitely need as you could very likely end up vomiting up your abortion pills which I can imagine would not be pleasant. I can imagine this is very difficult for you and you do not need the added worry of "did the pills work" etc.
Call 111 at least and get some sound medical advice. They need to get you as healthy as possible. Especially before your pills as I can only they will also take a toll on your body.
Again, no judgement here. Call 111, they are best placed to advise. But it certainly sounds like you need iv fluids and a decent anti-emetic. You poor love
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