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november90 Tue 12-Jan-21 21:42:05

Anyone fancy joining? ☺️
My second son was born in May, my eldest is 4. Single Mum as my husband walked out on me during my pregnancy.
Feeling so contented with my little boys but this lockdown is just relentless! I'm in a place of wishing time away so Covid is a thing of the past but also devastated that the days are passing by!
Anyone else feel the same? ❤️

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Bumble84 Tue 12-Jan-21 21:57:52

I’ve only just had my little girl a month ago but I already feel a bit sad that there are no baby clubs on to take her to. I’ve also missed out on the opportunity to meet new mums as well 🥲

november90 Tue 12-Jan-21 22:48:53

@Bumble84 hi there! It's so sad isn't it. I managed a few baby sensory classes... by the time they're back open he'll probably be crawling which is when they become difficult 🙈
How're you feeling after giving birth? Is this your first?

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Bumble84 Wed 13-Jan-21 10:17:05

This is my first yeah and not how I imagined things would be! I fell pregnant right at the beginning and thought everything would be back to normal by now. Who didn’t! It’s been great being at home and getting lots of cuddles but I feel my baby is missing out on meeting family and friends and the classes obviously. I feel great after the birth, had a section but my recovery is going well.

How awful for you that your husband walked out. How are you coping with that? Does he see the children at all to give you a break?

WhineyMineyMoo Thu 14-Jan-21 18:20:17

Meee! smile I've had my LO at the beginning of the very first lockdown so the last 10 months have just been a massive roller coaster! Not a single baby class, no mummy groups, playground, coffee mornings. Friends are in lockdown bubble with their own families / siblings so I do feel a bit left out and alone during this all. My family is really far and we have no support near us. My husband has been great but he's been working full time throughout so it's just been me and Buba most days. Bless him, I feel so sorry for him as he's missing out on so much but I suppose we just have to try and ride it all out and hope for the best. I'm not normally a Negative Nancy but I'm definitely feeling a bit burnt out and in need of a recharge! Currently trying to celebrate the small victories daily and find different things to do with a highly energetic 10 months old 💙🥰

WhineyMineyMoo Thu 14-Jan-21 18:27:34

OP - so sorry about your must have been hard dealing with this all during your pregnancy!

Hopefully84 Fri 15-Jan-21 05:25:24

Hi ladies.
Had my first in November. So pregnant the entire way through the virus and now shes here we are in full lockdown again. We had IVF so I really am so grateful that it worked out and we have our beautiful girl but can't help but feel a little resentful at all we are missing out on.
How's everyone getting on besides lockdown? Baby had her first jabs this week......was absolutely brutal, for me, she was mostly fine. 🤣
Started to diet this week after putting on an unholy amount of weight. Finding the late night/early mornings so hard without chocolate to make it bearable.
So sorry to hear about your husband @november90. Do you have any other support?

november90 Fri 15-Jan-21 09:08:22

Hello everyone!
I totally feel you all. I don't want to sound like an old winge bag because I count my blessing for these gorgeous boys everyday and every night, but I'm devastated that my maternity is coming to a close (April) and I feel like I haven't done anything sad
Thanks for all the kind words! He walked out a year ago now so I'm happy to sad the heartbreak days are a thing of the past. It didn't take long for me to realise I don't need someone who was so emotionally abusive to me! The hardest part is having to accept loosing time with my boys. I'm glad they have him as everyone deserves a dad, but I can't help but feel like the looser!
How had everyone's week been?

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MsMiaWallace Fri 15-Jan-21 09:13:49

Can I join? DS was born in June so 6 months now.
It's been so surreal this time. He's my 3rd. Other 2 are at home being 'home schooled'.
I'm back at work too end March.
Had a phone call with managers last night. Feel stressed to hell now...
we've been robbed this mat leave.

OP hope your ok x

WhineyMineyMoo Fri 15-Jan-21 12:00:25

@november90 Inknow exactly what you mean. I have such guilt every time I'm being negative because I have an awful lot be grateful for. But sometimes you just can't help it, can you? And I know what you mean by missing your boys. I guess it's being robbed of the family unit that you were used to. Not very much the person (who sounds like you are best rid of!) but just the fact that you were always together! But I'm glad you are doing ok. Onwards and upwards!

@Hopefully84 - IVF mama here too 🥰 Wow, what a badass you are! I attempted dieting 6 months post partum but only lasted a month! I was too overwhelmed with sleep regression at a time and just generally being pandemic low so I decided I was just going to enjoy myself. Food and wine that was haha!! Started again this month (new year resolution!!) as I want to look at least half decent on DS's 1st year pictures, but damn I miss the snacks (and wine LOL!)

@MsMiaWallace - Uggggh, I feel you! I'm back at work early Feb. On one hand I'm excited to have some kind of normality back as I used to live my job but on the other, I just can't believe I'm not going to be spending all my time with DS. Seems surreal and I think it's going to hit me hard! I'm only going back part time for the next couple of years though so I keep telling myself that we still have loads of time together regardless, and still have plenty of opportunities when the lockdown is eased! I just really miss my family and so heartbroken that DS has only seen everyone literally a handful of times 😭 Don't know what we'd do without FaceTime!!

Hopefully84 Fri 15-Jan-21 18:26:30

@WhineyMineyMoo I say I started the diet but chomped down a twirl during the 4am feed this morning so its not going 100% to plan. 🤣 Not going to put too much pressure on myself, just try and get semi back in the zone. Ah but wine, how i miss wine. And socialising!!!

How's all of your babies sleeping? My girl liked to sleep all day and party all night. Like her mum, before kids and life had me praying for sleep by 8pm. Slowly getting better, seems to have settled into sleeping from 9, dream feed at 11/12 then waking up for the day at 4ish.

WhineyMineyMoo Fri 15-Jan-21 19:40:36

@Hopefully84 Good for you, you totally deserve a choc at that ungodly hour haha!

Daytime naps have always been a challenge for us, he'd only sleep on me when he was little (Netflix marathons woohoo!!) but is getting much better now smile He did settle into a nice little night time routine by about 6 weeks, very similar to your LO actually. And then the 4 months regression hit. Oh and it hit us HARD! And then the 7 months too! So decided to co-sleep from then on, that seemed to be the only thing working. It works for now and it's a price I'm prepared to pay so that we all sleep well at night. Sleep deprivation is a torturous monster! Plus I do like our nighttime snuggles 🥰 He's now nearly 11 months old and sleeps from about 9.30pm to 8am on average. I do secretly dream about the time when everyone will sleep in their own respective beds and rooms...well, him in particular haha!

Hope all is well with your DD after the jab this week! Took us a couple of days each time to get back to normal. I've got the 1 year old ones to look forward to soon....ugghh

Jesskir89 Wed 20-Jan-21 23:32:27

Hi all, can I join? Had my ds 13th march right before first lockdown! I feel your pain! Also having trouble sleeping so sometimes co sleep although trying not to since he fell out of bed last week! Still feeling guilty incase I've nudged him in my sleep confused hoping we can celebrate his 1st birthday this March as I'm back at work next week and feel I need to celebrate having a baby let alone his 1st birthday!

No1duck Thu 21-Jan-21 09:14:42

Can I join?
I had my baby boy the week before the March lockdown, I had a traumatic birth so was kept in hospital until 2 days before!

I totally feel cheated, I’m due back in March and we’ve barely done anything in the past year.

I have symptoms of ptsd so I’m getting help for that. I think it’s the mix of not having the birth I expected then not having the ‘new baby’ experience either.

Vicky1y Mon 25-Jan-21 14:24:31

Hiya All

Had my first baby in July last year, spent my whole pregnancy away from friends etc. Nobody hardly saw my baby bump, didn't even get to have a baby shower. I just wish it was normal, take baby out with other mum friends without all this social distancing.

I just want to enjoy maternity leave.

CupcakesK Mon 25-Jan-21 15:15:10

Hi everyone [waves]. 10mo DS here, currently being very challenging due to his need for me to hold him standing up 90% of his waking hours, hair grabbing (I swear I have bald chicks now!) and lack of wanting to sleep. This last couple of weeks have been the hardest of all of the lockdown for us, at the end of my tether of how to entertain him without getting mauled

Thanks for starting the thread @november90

@WhineyMineyMoo snap! I feel I could have written all of your posts here (except no IVF for me)

Back to work in 8 weeks and partly can’t wait, part nervous (COVID has changed my job a lot) and part sad that my DS didn’t get the best mat leave with me.

november90 Mon 25-Jan-21 18:50:41

Hi everyone! Sorry for the delay in responding... it's been a rubbish week! No major reason just struggling with the lockdown. I justcan't do any more walks 🙈, I just want to go to a nice cafe/hotel with friends and have a cup of tea and dessert and then maybe a wander around the shops followed by take a way and gathering celebrating all of the lots lockdown birthdays! Oh throw a cheese board as well, why not!
Today I actually found myself walking around random streets out of absolute boredom of doing the same walks, that's when I knew I'd cracked!
My little boy is 8 months old and has been soooooo fussy these past few weeks. He's been such a dream baby so it's hit me like a tonne of bricks, hoping it's a phase 😰
I hear every single word of all of your replies. It's been such an overwhelming time for all of us sad

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