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Oh for heavens sake, please remind me that two Inferiorettes is enough!

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motherinferior Mon 01-Aug-05 13:07:11

I am very, very bad at pregnancy - hate it from start to finish, not including the SPD. I am also appalling at dealing with small babies. They reduce me to a snivelling wreck on the constant brink of ringing Social Services. I find parenting a constant struggle which is only negotiated by dint of constant whingeing on-line and in person to everyone I know. Now that my younger daughter has turned two - and I indeed have turned 42 - I am finally reclaiming some sense of my life As It Was Known Before.

Please remind me that I don't want another baby and that my current broodiness is just a pre-menopausal blip of insanity!

ScummyMummy Mon 01-Aug-05 13:08:39

It is as you say, MI. Madness, I tell you. Madness.

Waaah! I feel broody as a broody thing too.

Toothache Mon 01-Aug-05 13:08:45

MI - Must be something in the air! Nobody is going to convince you not to.

Just go for it!!! Whats 3 when you've got 2 already,

bossykate Mon 01-Aug-05 13:08:46

i hope you get some good advice because i'm broody too and no, we just can't, can't, can't!

wilbur Mon 01-Aug-05 13:08:52

But the dds are soooo cute MI, surely one more would be even cuter.... [sneaking away now, before you clout me]

bossykate Mon 01-Aug-05 13:09:18

2 eyes, 2 arms, 2 parents... 2 kids?

dinosaur Mon 01-Aug-05 13:09:44

ummmmmmm.....

CountessDracula Mon 01-Aug-05 13:09:53

<snurk>

MI you madwoman

Go for it!

bossykate Mon 01-Aug-05 13:12:52

do you feel you spend enough time with the two you've got as it is? i know i don't with mine - so with another the slice of the pie would be even smaller. how has having kids affected your relationship? will you still need to work if you have a third? what about increased childcare costs?

aloha Mon 01-Aug-05 13:15:56

Money. Money. Money.
Enough reasons?
Um, and lack of sleep?
Look, babies are bloody lovely, ds wants another girl baby and it would be lovely, but dh is vehemently opposed, and we Don't Have Enough Money.
So, unless we win the Lottery on Saturday, that's me done.

Kaz33 Mon 01-Aug-05 13:16:41

When I suggested 3 you responded with a I am definitely sticking at 2 ! Whats happended to that resolve !

motherinferior Mon 01-Aug-05 13:16:45

Good points, BK. AND our childminder has no free places.

And really we should enjoy the fact that DP is just about to start a massively better-paid job, shouldn't we, not fritter it away on offspring.

bossykate Mon 01-Aug-05 13:17:33

i don't think i could face another if i had to go back to work - or rather i don't think i could face going back to work if i had another!

throckenholt Mon 01-Aug-05 13:17:41

may this would help - as you get older you are more likely to have twins (or more) - so do you want another two babies ?

Although as the mother of twins - it's not as bad you as you think !

bossykate Mon 01-Aug-05 13:18:31

actually, if i were guaranteed twins, i'd do it. i must be completely howling!

Blu Mon 01-Aug-05 13:18:32

MI you have been having this hormonal blip on and off for over 6 months now!
Either you are suffering from sleep-induced lack of decision-making ability, or some kind of madness is setting in. BK is doing a good job of talking the pair of you out of it...I think the thinly-sliced-pie is a good argument, and as for the MONEY....
BUT if she doesn't manage it, well, just go for it.

What are the things you really enjoy, and what is it about having another one that you hanker after?

Have you got enough bedrooms?

Blu Mon 01-Aug-05 13:19:29

Er, MI, your cm WILL have a free place when the Infanta starts school, won't she?????

throckenholt Mon 01-Aug-05 13:20:25

I must be howling too - I was only musing this morning - I would only have another baby if I could be sure it would be twins again ! Reason - I don't want a tail end Charlie - and I couldn't ever face being pregnant two more times ! So being sensible and sticking with the 3 I have.

Twiglett Mon 01-Aug-05 13:21:21

nope .. want 3 ...

Twiglett Mon 01-Aug-05 13:22:28

DH however subscribes to the 2 parents, 2 kids theory

dinosaur Mon 01-Aug-05 13:23:45

Actually, to be brutally honest, although I love having three and I love them all to bits, I have to admit that I have been so seriously knackered and exhausted this time around that there have been times when I have been almost unable to function in any meaningful sense. I've been much more tired than with the other two. I know that I've been unlucky in that DS3 has been such a bad sleeper, but nothing to say you wouldn't be unlucky in the same way...

I'm also finding just the sheer physicality of it hard going - you know, wrestling with wriggling baby who is spreading poo everywhere, all that stuff. Very very hard going.

And much as I love DS3, this time around, whenever it's been the "last time" for anything, I've heaved an enormous sigh of relief.

aloha Mon 01-Aug-05 13:24:03

Ok, MI why do you want another? What does dp think? Can you project yourself forward five years when the Inferiorettes will be ten and eight (ish) - how does that feel? Or do you look at the picture and think 'where is my four year old?"
Look, I don't know! Do you want a bloody baby or not???

wilbur Mon 01-Aug-05 13:24:15

Actually, I think the "enjoy dp's pay rise" argument is the best one so far. (You see - you always know the best reasons for yourself!) Easing the purse strings makes family life so much better and think of all the places you can visit now the adorables are older and don't need so much baby kit. Exotic holidays, trips to the theatre, all are within your grasp.

batters Mon 01-Aug-05 13:24:55

You are mad woman, utterly barking !

And so are the rest of you posting on this thread! Why do I get the feeling that a lot of you who have posted on here will soon be posting on the antenatal threads?!

But having said that if you want another baby, inspite of hating pregnancy and the first months of having a new born baby then I reckon you must really be desperate for a third child. And if that is the case.......go for it.

Twiglett Mon 01-Aug-05 13:25:11

the thing that always makes me almost agree with DH is that I don't actually want another 4 year old .. another baby yes .. but not another 4 year old

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