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AAAAAAGH! Brother and sister-in-law have first baby... doing it Gina-style!!!

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justnally Mon 07-Jul-08 14:43:58

Met new teeny tiny bundle yesterday. Very cute. Then they announced that they are following Gina Ford's book. I know I should respect their decision on how to look after their baby, but I felt like screaming "NO!" !!!

PrettyCandles Mon 07-Jul-08 14:45:14

Tin hat. Popcorn.

(Might have to wait a while - it's school collection time.)

AMumInScotland Mon 07-Jul-08 14:46:21

Well, I don't suppose they'd take that too well, but politely saying "See how you find that, and remember there are other ways of doing this" might be worthwhile...

beaniesteve Mon 07-Jul-08 14:47:22

can someone explain to me - what is it that Gina FOrd Suggests which is disliked so?

constancereader Mon 07-Jul-08 14:48:08

But you didn't say anything, did you?
Well done for not interfering.

It is my experience that those who follow a routine are far more likely to lecture you than the other way around.

FabioTheWhisperingCat Mon 07-Jul-08 14:48:23

<awaits the brave mner who will answer bs's question>

constancereader Mon 07-Jul-08 14:49:23

Yes fabio, I thought about it for approx 2 seconds then gave up the idea.

Morloth Mon 07-Jul-08 14:49:52

Their baby, their method.

All of my friends parent differently to how I do, once again as long as it falls somewhere in the middle between neglect/smothering then it really doesn't make much difference.

Now, if they ASK you what you think about GF then that is a different story. Otherwise keep your opinions to yourself - as a AP type parent people sticking their noses in uninvited was very annoying and I am sure that people at the other end of the spectrum feel the same way.

misdee Mon 07-Jul-08 14:50:24

hmm

PussinJimmyChoos Mon 07-Jul-08 14:50:48

Beanie - google it and you will see what is advocated...

<tactful avoidance>

grin

Kewcumber Mon 07-Jul-08 14:50:51

I think a lot of people dislike the rigidity of her system because we are a bunch of slatterns and many people just can't leave their baby to cry or at least not until they are much older (dc's not Mn'ers)

itati Mon 07-Jul-08 14:51:51

Why on earth?

Not your business.

Be happy you are an aunt, not criticising their choices before the baby is even a day old!

greenelizabeth Mon 07-Jul-08 14:52:09

wELL, LET THEM get on with it. I hope they have 'text book' baby. I had a 'spirited baby' and the next baby was 'even more bloody spirited' so neither of them would be "ginaforded' but good luck to them.

PSS this thread will self-destruct in about four minutes grin

MN will pull it!!

Kewcumber Mon 07-Jul-08 14:53:05

IME very few people follow any "gurus" slavishly but end up picking the bits that work for them. the only time to step in would be if they tell you they are struggling to deal with it. Quiet suggestion that they can do what they want to because they are teh parents now is all that is called for. Otherwise tightly buttoned lip is best.

andiem Mon 07-Jul-08 14:53:43

well done for not grasping it to your bosom flinging it into a sling and running from the room shouting make eye contact with it you buggers [grin[]

constancereader Mon 07-Jul-08 14:54:30

Yes it could work well for them - which is more annoying. (Another like greenelizabeth with a 'spirited' baby).

greenelizabeth Mon 07-Jul-08 14:54:32

Beanie steve, her methods just about possible with dc1, but with dc2, you need to leave the house!!! baby2 can not be in a darkened room if you have to drop dc1 off at playschool, pick him up, go shopping etc...

Possibly if you have a very placid easy going first born, could work well. But for subsequent children and 'spirited baby' as she herself calls them.... harder work.

morningpaper Mon 07-Jul-08 14:55:23

I tend to make my opinions on the matter delicately felt

FabioTheWhisperingCat Mon 07-Jul-08 14:55:28

<admires Kewcumber>

<passes her phone no of top lawyer just in case>

PussinJimmyChoos Mon 07-Jul-08 14:55:59

Roffles at M.Paper...

andiem Mon 07-Jul-08 14:56:00

grin doh

morningpaper Mon 07-Jul-08 14:56:02

('cos I do think it's VERY IMPORTANT for new parents to know that It Might Not Work and It Might Not Be The Best Thing For Your Family)

morningpaper Mon 07-Jul-08 14:56:45

I usually start shrieking about 2 minutes into the discussion

justnally Mon 07-Jul-08 14:56:57

I know, I know. I just wanted someone to tell me I should butt out. Luckily I did not say anything to them. (She is 2 weeks old).

Although I am surprised also.. last time I was on here, everyone was slagging Gina off, left right and centre! There was the prog on tv about her, mentioning mn's disapproval of her ways.... times have changed!

Kewcumber Mon 07-Jul-08 14:57:02

I am fearless because I don't have form unlike MP who is a big scaredy wuss.

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