Playdate? A single dad here...

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ZoomingOut2 Tue 16-Jan-18 14:18:13

First, apologies if this is the wrong section.

Second, my daughter, 6, wants to invite one of her friends over. The problem though, I'm a man. Previously, a mum was uncomfortable leaving her daughter at our house. She only did that when my DD's grandma was here. I understand why it may seem a bit awkward...or do I?

Now, I want to invite the other girl over and not sure how to approach the mum without putting her in an uncomfortable position? She's got a partner, but he's hardly available.

Any suggestions?


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Mookatron Tue 16-Jan-18 14:19:56

Is it a different mum? Sorry, I'm not clear. If so just ask her. There's no reason she would say no. Maybe before it was because the kids were younger or something.

Rollercoaster1920 Tue 16-Jan-18 14:20:56

Invite the mum too. And the dad in case he thinks there are shenanigans. Probably best to also invite a chaperone and inform the police.

You are over thinking this. Kids with both parents also have play dates when just the dad is looking after them.

SleightOfMind Tue 16-Jan-18 14:22:49

Could you arrange their first get together somewhere like soft play or cinema instead of at home?
That way they can get to know you a bit before coming to yours.
Or invite mum and any siblings over for the first time too.

ZoomingOut2 Tue 16-Jan-18 14:23:08

@Mookatron Yes, a different mum.

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ZoomingOut2 Tue 16-Jan-18 14:23:57

@SleightOfMind Inviting the mum or both parents is fine by me.

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OhNoGroken Tue 16-Jan-18 14:25:38

Oh blimey, if a dad asked me this I wouldn’t think twice about it. Just ask.


Mookatron Tue 16-Jan-18 14:27:01

I can imagine it's a bit tricky, even though it shouldn't be. Just start with 'dd is nagging for a playdate' and make it clear it's about the kid not you.

I reckon it'll be fine.

SleightOfMind Tue 16-Jan-18 14:38:56

Fwiw, I wouldn’t mind my DD going to a friends’ house with Dad in charge but some people are very paranoid. I’m sorry you’ve been made to feel awkward about this. It’s very unfair.

Hope your DD manages to have fun with her friend.

ginteresting Tue 16-Jan-18 14:50:02

I wouldn't have a problem with this at all. The children are friends. An overly paranoid parent wouldn't put me off inviting others for play dates, or having a child for tea as they used to be called, they're a fun aspect of childhood. Invite them, and say 'youre welcome to stay for a cup of tea if you wish' if it would make them feel more comfortable. Presumably, you have met the parents of your kids class before at kids parties, school drop off, sports days etc.

TheHobbitMum Tue 16-Jan-18 14:58:46

It wouldn't worry me having a male only at a house for a playdate in fact DH does ours and all club/school runs for our kids & friends. DD has also gone to male single parents houses without issue, if your DD friends mum has an issue then invite her along but I wouldn't over think it too much smile

PeaceLoveAndDixie Tue 16-Jan-18 15:17:07

My dd has been going for play dates to a single dad’s house for years. Totally fine with it.

Enirroc Tue 16-Jan-18 15:20:37

It wouldn't occur to me to say no... But as a single mum, feel free to invite me too... 😉


ZoomingOut2 Tue 16-Jan-18 16:33:00

Thank you!!

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MIDEB Tue 16-Jan-18 19:31:36

We are a married couple who have a 3 and a half year old son who is looking for a playmate in his local area Eggbuckland, plymouth and has no family or friends nearby. After bad experiences at nursery doesn't settle, looking for someone in a similar position who would meet at a soft play, park or home.

ZoomingOut2 Tue 16-Jan-18 20:23:41

Ah well, I asked. But apparently their kid is too busy at the moment. Spring time was suggested as an alternative. Not sure whether this is genuine or just a polite rejection.

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Enirroc Tue 16-Jan-18 20:35:37

Aww... It could be either. But let us know where you are and we'll all offer instead! Lol

ZoomingOut2 Tue 16-Jan-18 20:39:13

@Enirroc Well...

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Enirroc Tue 23-Jan-18 11:38:26

How're things going now @ZoomingOut2 ?

ZoomingOut2 Tue 23-Jan-18 12:30:45


Nothing much changed really.

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Enirroc Tue 23-Jan-18 13:19:26

Oh that's a shame

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