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Were you told you're having a boy, but it turned out to be a girl?

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AnnieBeeBee Tue 06-Sep-16 11:42:06

I am pregnant and was told at 20weeks that we're having a boy. I felt pretty convinced that they can't be wrong, but then someone told me a reverse story (they were told a girl, but the baby was a boy). I generally think: if they say boy, they see penis, so it must be a boy, right?!

The only reason I'm asking for your experiences is because I've told DC that they're getting a baby brother, the baby brother's name, etc.

I'm just wondering if I should stop doing that in case it's a baby sister and they get very confused!!!

So: anyone told a boy at 20 week scan, but out came a girl?!

AnnieBeeBee Tue 06-Sep-16 11:42:59

Ugh, sorry about my crap grammar! Typed that in a rush
*they see a

twinkletoedelephant Tue 06-Sep-16 11:47:18

35 years ago my mum was told it was a boy.... She had twin girls :-)

I would assume things are better now I don't know anyone in real life who didn't get what they were told. Check at your next scan but they always say they will never be 100% sure

Soubriquet Tue 06-Sep-16 11:49:54

Scans will never be 100%

There's always a room for error but they are pretty good at getting it right

Both sexes of my children was guessed right and a late scan showed their genitals very clearly. Was no room for error on that

AnnieBeeBee Tue 06-Sep-16 11:49:55

Haha wow that must have been quite a shock for your mum, twinkletoedelephant!

I don't get another scan (only the one at 20 weeks). I don't mind either way, just wonder if I should stop saying "your baby brother" to DC and just say "your new baby" instead! This baby is the only one I've found out the gender beforehand of, so prob why I'm wondering!

Soubriquet Tue 06-Sep-16 11:50:39

If you're that worried could you afford a 3D/4D scan later on in the pregnancy?

ClockMakerSue Tue 06-Sep-16 11:53:42

Happened to someone I know!

AnnieBeeBee Tue 06-Sep-16 12:03:16

shock clockmaker!

All my newborn / first few months clothes are gender neutral, anyway, as my other DCs were "surprises"! Haha

I could do a late private scan, soubriquet, but the end is closeish now so I feel I may as well wait and see!

PotteringAlong Tue 06-Sep-16 12:04:53

They can definitely be wrong - they should have told you that they can't be 100% certain. I think it's more likely that they say girl and it turns out to be a boy than the other way around though.

AnnieBeeBee Tue 06-Sep-16 12:07:17

They pretty much said "if we say it's a boy, we're never wrong," Pottering. I mean, I'm sure they weren't. Just when my friend told me the reverse story I started wondering!

haggisaggis Tue 06-Sep-16 12:07:42

We were told "boy" - but that was just based on heartbeat sound. The 20 week scan didn't show anything - even had a scan at around 34 weeks but even then dd didn't give it away!

GoldenWorld Tue 06-Sep-16 12:13:47

I do know someone who was told she was having a boy and she had a girl! But it's very unusual. I'm a midwife and all the people I've looked after where they've found out the sex, which must be hundreds, only one was wrong. And that was the other way round - they were told it was a girl, had got all these lovely pink, floral outfits ready and it was a boy.

JuicyMouth Tue 06-Sep-16 12:16:45

I was pretty obsessed with this subject through my last three pregnancies.

My experience reading up on gender prediction from about 12 weeks tells me that experienced sonographers very rarely get a boy guess wrong. But it does happen more often the other way around (a 'girl' in fact being a boy).

In my personal experience I have never been told the wrong gender. I was told 'boy' from 13 weeks with my 3 boys. With my daughter it was not certain until 16 weeks.

Bellaposey Tue 06-Sep-16 12:23:57

It was rare enough that it made the news when it happened to Clockmaker's friend. Chances are you'll be fine.

DavidPuddy Tue 06-Sep-16 12:39:08

I know someone who was told boy at an early scan (not sure when, though), but a later scan revealed she was a girl.

Apparently the sonographers can see what they think is a penis, but are actually mistaken. I still think it is not very likely, however.

ThePortlyPinUp Tue 06-Sep-16 12:41:51

I went to antenatal classes with a couple of girls I went to school with. One of then was told she was having a boy but had a surprise when she delivered.

ThePortlyPinUp Tue 06-Sep-16 12:43:51

Also within the last three years I have know two others (my cousin and a family friend) have been told it was a boy at an earlier scan for them to suddenly be told it was a girl at later scans.

BexusSugarush Tue 06-Sep-16 12:58:21

I have heard of it happening a few times, to be honest. In the same way a penis-shape doesn't mean a boy, likewise the 3-lines don't necessarily mean a girl. If you want reassurance then you can consider paying for a private scan. They are pricey but a lovely experience, and if you've already told your other children one thing, it might be worth finding out sooner rather than later.

ayeokthen Tue 06-Sep-16 13:02:09

Only reason we knew for sure our youngest was a boy was that the angle of the scan left NO room for doubt 😂 (The scan caught the pic as if he was sitting on top of the scanner legs akimbo)

OiWithThePoodlesAlready Tue 06-Sep-16 13:05:00

I was so paranoid about this happening! I could have coped with the change of sex but dd1 was so so excited about having a little sister that I was worried about it for her benefit.

I paid for a private scan after my anomaly scan just to double check.

With dd1 I didn't even find out the sex so didn't have the stress. Think I'll do that again when the next dc comes along.

Nickname1980 Tue 06-Sep-16 22:40:03

I know someone who was told a girl but it was a boy - but not the other way round!

I think boys are probably easier to spot!

earthmoon Wed 14-Sep-16 14:36:22

Sister-in-law was told her second born would be a girl and she had a boy.

BabyBumpHopeful Thu 15-Sep-16 01:12:05

My "yep it's a boy" photo I wasn't convinced but the second, zero doubt. He's in the pike position so his bits are hanging out for all to see. I've had another scan since and still not shy about showing his bits!

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