confussed about my weight, opinions please.

[skinnybutnotrich]

Have had issues with my weight for a long time.

I'm now 6st 12 & 5'6''.

DP knows about my problems, but he says I look really good at the moment. Yet my BMI states otherwise.

Thing is if I put on weight, acording to DP I won't look as good as I do now. But he also says if I lose any more I'll be too skinny. I know he has my best interests at heart but how thin is too thin? what's acceptable? is this BMI stuff a load of rubbish?

[ledodgy]

With your weight and height i'd say you were dangerously underweight. I would advise seeing a dr and going through an eating plan with him. I am concerned that your dp things you look good now as you must look really, really thin.

[ledodgy]

*thinks

[stayinbed]

bmi is just an average calculation and your body type may be something else.

how do you really look? is your skin grey or is it nice and healthy coloured? are you generally cold or is your body temprature quite stable? those are the things that matter.

its very hard to do, but try to ignore your dp and concentrate on how you feel and want to look. my dh loves thin women, recently we saw a girlfriend of ours who is having marital troubles, she has always been thin but she looked deathly ill-thin. after we got home i said 'did you see so and so?' he said' yes she lost weight, looks great!'
i couldn't beleive it, she looked like she was dying.
so after i pointed that out i think he thought about it and agreed

anyways, listen to yourself

[differentWitch]

you have a BMI of 15.5- that's unhealthy. Does your dp realise that?

[Sexonlegs]

Way too little. I am 5' 5" and 8 stone 3 pounds, and people say I am thin.

How do you feel? Are you eating? I am worried.

[stayinbed]

i am 5'6.5'' and usually weight 47-48 kilos (dont know what that is in stones)

am usually very very thin and have always been that way no matter what i eat (am now pg)

[ledodgy]

That's about 7.5 stones stayinbed.

[stayinbed]

differntW my bmi has been about 15 since i was 16 years old.

you say you have always had issues with your weight so either way, you should really seek some help

[stayinbed]

well, i guess 6st 12 is a little too thin then...

[skinnybutnotrich]

I'm not ready to get 'professional' help...I think I could do with maybe losing a couple of more pounds, but no more than that.

DP does prefer skinny women. Thinks BMI is a load of rot.

I think I look OK, I'm v v cold, but always have been.

[ledodgy]

Ok by the sounds of it you need professional help. What are your friends and family (not dp) saying about it?

[EdithsMummy]

Have you always been thin? Or is this something that you 'work at' to please DP? Do you actually like being thin?

[MerlinsBeard]

have YOU dieted to get this thin? or has your DO MADE you?

are you happy like this?

[NotQuiteCockney]

Um, you're really quite thin. Being underweight can be very bad for you, and it sounds like you're a bit in denial about the whole thing, if you think you could do with losing a couple more pounds.

[MerlinsBeard]

DP not DO

[littlelamb]

Very unhealthy but ime when you are this thin even putting on a few pounds can seem very scary. I have a friend who was extremely skinny for years and who is now much happier in herself, and weight has crept on. From being a small size 8 she is now a 12-14 and it does bother her a bit, because when you have been that unhealthily skinny it is odd to see yourself at a normal weight and easy to convince yourself that you are now 'fat', even thou0gh she looks miles better and much healthier now. You do need help with this. And your dp sounds like he has issues himself tbh if he is happier to have you skinny than healthy.

[AnotherFineMess]

Sorry but your DP doesn't sound like most helpful person you could have around.

YOu say he only has your best interests at heart - do you really believe this?

Don't mean for that to sound harsh, but if you're hoping to be free from the weight issues you describe, it might be a lot harder with a partner who is as concerned about your weight & appearance as you are.

[skinnybutnotrich]

I'm not losing weight to please DP.

I am happy like this - a bit thinner would make me happier.

The only comment I have had about my weight is when I walked past a pub last week & a bloke shouted 'oy, fatty'.

Oh and another - dc3 said 'mummy's skinny' & DPs mum said 'not compaired to Aunty ...(DPs sister)'

[skinnybutnotrich]

I truely believe DP does have my best interests at heart.

[AnotherFineMess]

Sounds like all of your DPs family have weight issues then! And I am quite sure the man in the pub was being ironic.

You know that we will all tell you that you need to put on weight, not lose any, so what is it really that you want to hear or talk about?

[squeaver]

Don't know too much about BMI but I am the same height as you and 2 stones heavier and I am a size 8 so you mus be absolutely tiny.

I'm not sure where your Dp is coming from - is he saying what he thinks you want to hear? But you certainly shouldn't be setting so much store by what other people say/shout in the street.

[skinnybutnotrich]

OK - does anyone else (TMI warning) chew food & spit it out (when people are not looking)??

I do this for maybe a 1/4 of food 'intake'.

[littlelamb]

Yes, when I was in the middle of a SEVERE EATING DISORDER. Get help

[AnotherFineMess]

So you are wanting to create the impression that you are eating more than you are? Who is that for?

[beanieb]

I am 5ft 6 and lost over a stone in weight when I went through a stressful time. Even then I never dipped under eight stone. I would say you are too thin.