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Easiest way to run away from home.

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11122aa · 18/04/2017 23:07

Hi. Im 20 and with autisum which means i cant quite dress and wash myself . But i cant stay at home any longer. My parrents will always claim they not abuseive so i cant just get housing anymore. What do i do.

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Yukbuck · 18/04/2017 23:09

Hi op. I did not want to read and run. Are you saying that your parents are abusive? Is there anyone in real life that you trust and are able to talk to?

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 18/04/2017 23:10

Do you have a social worker?

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 18/04/2017 23:10

Oh OP It's you again, I thought it might be. how do you propose to live if you can't wash and dress? And aren't you at uni?

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 18/04/2017 23:12

Billy - please see if you can get help through uni

11122aa · 18/04/2017 23:13

I am at uni which doesnt help matters. I wish i wasn't then i could disapear one day and never come back. I dont know. I get told they are social accommodation to help but my parents will just presuade them i am not being abused so i will be classed as interntionaly homeless and not eligable.

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11122aa · 18/04/2017 23:14

My Uni wouldnt believe me. They ask my mum and she would persuade them im a fantasist. I really only see prison as a way out.

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LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 18/04/2017 23:14

If you are at uni, how do you manage if you can't do self care? Do you have a carer/support during the day?

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 18/04/2017 23:16

I have reported the thread - I don't think saying prison is the only way out is terribly rational

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 18/04/2017 23:18

What I mean is you need specific help to get out of the situation

HopelesslydevotedtoGu · 18/04/2017 23:19

You need to speak to Adult Social Services.
Explain briefly that you have autism and your parents are abusing you and as to arrange a meeting with a social worker.
Write down examples of the abuse in advance.

HopelesslydevotedtoGu · 18/04/2017 23:20

I remember your previous threads btw. I really do think you should contact Social services

AndNowItIsSeven · 18/04/2017 23:22

What are you studying at uni?

snorymcsnoreson · 18/04/2017 23:22

Pls contact social services

11122aa · 18/04/2017 23:24

Im stuying Law.
Ill try and contact social services but im not able to get out of my my house and i just fell like disapearing. I totally hate my life at the moment. Im emotional child really in an adults body.

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LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 18/04/2017 23:25

How are you studying law when your needs are so complex? I studied law for a couple of years and struggled tbh so far play

11122aa · 18/04/2017 23:28

Because they not that complex. My parrent just havent shown me how to do them and now its too late to learn.

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yellowfrog · 18/04/2017 23:29

Just a thought, but you sound pretty intelligent and capable - are you sure you are not assuming you are less capable than you really are because that's what your parents have told you?

Try to contact social services if you possibly can, and tell them what you have told us.

yellowfrog · 18/04/2017 23:30

And it's never too late to learn, I promise! If a thing can be done, someone can teach how

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 18/04/2017 23:30

So do you see what they do when they are helping you wash or dress?

Silly question but if it's a case of not knowing how, can you google it?

TrollTheRespawnJeremy · 18/04/2017 23:30

Have you posted before OP about your lack of a social life and your parents getting in your way because of risky behaviour?

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 18/04/2017 23:32

He has - and trying to organise a birthday meet up

11122aa · 18/04/2017 23:32

Dressing i do but washing i really would struggle with. I cant hold a towel arround me or wash my hair. An hostel wouldnt work for me it only make me worse. I think i really need to somewhere where i can be formally looked after.

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LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 18/04/2017 23:34

You have just said that you just haven't learned How to do these things - it makes a difference whether you need to be looked after or whether you could learn how to do the self care stuff as to how you would go about fixing things

Jux · 18/04/2017 23:34

It's not too late to learn. You need someone to help you, though. Can you talk to your tutor? If you could write it all down it might be easier? If we ask you questions and you try to answer them, would that help you get it all down?

TrollTheRespawnJeremy · 18/04/2017 23:35

Self care is NEVER too late to learn Billy.

If you were really serious about being able to get on without your parent's intervention you'd be putting the same amount of work as you do with your studies into yourself.

You are a logical being. The easiest way out of this is to apply the logic to yourself.

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