DD has just turned 3. She has been going to nursery a couple of days a week since she was 9 months. She is quite bright and is very outgoing most of the time. Myself and Dh were both quite shy as children and were brought up to be good children, who spoke when we were spoken to (to an extent). We are pleased therefore that dd is outgoing and friendly. She often looks after the younger children in nursery, and brings them a toy if they are upset etc, and loves to go to soft play etc with her friends. Occasionally she can be a bit shy, and sometimes if she doesn't know people, she can be a bit quiet, but as soon as someone speaks to her, she opens up and is very chatty. We have never used the word shy around her, as DH is convinced that his parents calling him shy, made his shyness worse.
Anyway, just recently, I have had the thought that she is perhaps becoming a bit overconfident. We were at a soft okay centre a couple of weeks ago and she started talking to a lady who was there with her ds of similar age. She was telling them all about her favourite things at home and what she likes to do. The boy was quiet and didn't really say anything. Another example is at nursery, when I drop her off in the morning, she sometimes goes straight over to children and starts talking to them, wanting to hug them and play with them, but on occasions, the other child will just kind of stand there and not really react to dd at all. I've always been really pleased that she is sociable and honestly, without bragging, her speech and communication has always been advanced for her age, so she has always tried to interact with other children when they perhaps don't or can't interact back in the same way. But just recently, I have started to wonder whether other parents (eg the one at soft play) see her as a bit over confident and even precocious. She's only just turned 3 so is still very little, but am I right to worry or am I being dramatic and over the top? Apologies for the essay, I would just like to ensure as much as I can, that she grows up confident but not too much. When our children are starting to talk etc, as parents, we do spend a lot of time saying "Freddie, tell grandad what you did at nursery, show grandma that,lovely picture you did" etc etc. I'm worrying that by doing this, I'm making her want to talk about herself a lot. Am I being silly or not?? Thanks
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Difference between confident and over confident child
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Eenie · 03/06/2014 15:50
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