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I don't love the name we finally chose

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littlemissmoomoo · 26/06/2019 05:01

My son is 2 weeks old. I've had a couple of threads on here and with everyones help, we finally announced the name on Sunday to everyone - Micah.

But... I'm just not feeling it. It's a lovely name but I'm struggling to accept that its his name, if that makes sense?

What makes it worse is my great-auntie visited yesterday with a beautiful cross stitch picture that she has made with all of our names on, and was waiting for us to announce the name so she can add it. I'd feel terrible if we decided to change the name.

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FixItUpChappie · 26/06/2019 05:23

Probably won't help but it's a lovely and not overused name but of course you can change it if you feel you must. Congrats though Brew

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dalmatianmad · 26/06/2019 05:37

How do you pronounce it?

Congratulations Flowers

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ThroughThickAndThin01 · 26/06/2019 06:04

Tell your great auntie to wait.

The trouble is yours and your dp tastes are very different in names so someone, probably both of you, will have to compromise.

Micah is fine. But i preferred Otto/Otis!

Keep looking if you haven’t found the one yet.

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LittleKitty1985 · 26/06/2019 06:23

He'll grow into his name. Of course it feels odd to you now, he's only 2 weeks old, you don't even know him yet. Try using his name a lot and explaining to him why you chose that name for him and how much you like it.

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BarryBarryTaylor · 26/06/2019 07:06

Oh I remember your thread.
Wasn’t your dad Michael and it was meant to be a nod to that? Or am I thinking of someone else...
Children do grow into their name but you have to like it.

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Callistone · 26/06/2019 07:11

Some names don't work as well on babies as they will for the rest of their life. In the end I let DH use a family name he was desperate for, I really struggled with how much it didn't suit a teeny baby (traditional D Scottish name). But then we shortened it (kids TV show) and it 100% suits him as he's turned into a sturdy toddler and I wouldn't change it for the world now.

Micah is a lovely name. It might seem a little unusual now but it might just be a name he needs to grow into a little.

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Matleavemadam · 26/06/2019 09:25

I think its a lovely name, its sounds both soft and strong. It took me about 6 months to get used to my baby's name.

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Deadringer · 26/06/2019 09:32

Oooh I love it! They do grow into their name. I didn't pick the names of my youngest two and I actively disliked one of their names, (bit of a stripper name) but I have got used to it and now it's part of who she is. (She is not a stripper)

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Cookit · 26/06/2019 09:32

Honestly I think all names seem ridiculous on babies for a while. They grow into them.

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Cookit · 26/06/2019 09:34

I love both our children’s names but struggled to say them for a few weeks. I also know someone who just called her baby “baby” for 9 months. She also loved her daughter’s name it just felt odd to her attached to a baby.

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riotlady · 26/06/2019 09:35

I love it!

I think sometimes it takes a while to adjust. We had a pet name that we called my daughter while I was pregnant, and once she was out it took me a while to adjust to calling her by her real name instead of the pet name.

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MeanMrMustardSeed · 26/06/2019 09:40

It sometimes takes a while for a name to bed in. If it was your preferred name, then that’s the best option you have!

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AverageMummy · 26/06/2019 09:44

Micah is lovely but I have two things to say really:
1: If you don’t like it, change it - it really isn’t as huge a deal as it feels - I did it with my baby & am relieved I did
2: Name regret can be highly associated with PND as something to focus on - so it’s worth really thinking about how you’re feeling & doing generally

But I think you weren’t ever sure on your name choices so if you need to change it - change it !

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AverageMummy · 26/06/2019 09:45

@ThroughThickAndThin01 I think it’s too late to tell great auntie to wait - she has now added the name on & visited with her artwork

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Watersnail · 26/06/2019 10:21

I think Micah is a great name.

However if you decide to change it, don't worry about the tapestry, You can always pay a professional to re-stitch the thread (or identical thread) into the new name.

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CarrieBlu · 26/06/2019 10:27

I love the name Micah - it’s unusual but not silly. Easy to spell. I can’t think of any shortenings or nicknames that would be teasing material for other kids at school.

I didn’t feel like my DC1 name fit her for a long time, despite that name being our clear front runner all the way through my pregnancy. I had post natal depression though. Once that lifted (after a year or so), her name suddenly felt ‘right’ and I could see that she was who she was meant to be and we had chosen the right name for her. Though she also has a lovely middle name if she wants an alternative. Does your DC have any middle names OP?

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lovemeorleaveme · 26/06/2019 10:29

I think it's lovely and unusual. I really like the nod to your dad Michael. But you must feel happy about it too xx

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dimdarkashian · 26/06/2019 11:44

I really like the name OP

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diddlediddle · 26/06/2019 12:03

I think it is hard to attach any name to your baby to be honest. I just felt baby was my baby for ages even though I liked the name we chose. Micah is nice and hell grow into it.

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Mac47 · 26/06/2019 12:59

I couldn't call dd by her name for weeks, it felt really weird to have just produced a tiny person then have randomly given them a name. She was known by lots of different names for ages, it took a long time for me to feel it belonged to her.

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MikeUniformMike · 26/06/2019 13:04

Could you call the baby Michael. It's less trendy than Micah, and is a classic name that surely should be due a comeback.

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fedupandlookingforchange · 26/06/2019 13:14

You've got a few more weeks to register the birth so just try the name for another week and see how you feel about it.
We got the letter about registering the name because it took me so long to be sure I'd picked the right one but I'm glad I took the time. DP let me have to final say on the name.

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Owlbert · 26/06/2019 13:57

I agree with others that say it takes a while for the name to belong! It's hard to describe but stick with it for now, try and use it out loud even when it's just talking to your gorgeous newborn. If you still aren't sure you can always change it further down the line.

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TurquoiseAndPurple · 26/06/2019 17:29

You have till 12 months to change it on the birth certificate. Micah is a beautiful name! Stick with it a bit longer ❤️

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MissDai5y · 26/06/2019 17:44

I felt the same about the name we picked for our dd. I loved the name and it was right for lots of reasons but it didn't seem to fit her.

I didn't use her name for quite a while, using random nicknames instead or just baby to refer to her but as she got older and other people used it it grew on me more. It helps she looks more like a little girl now rather than a baby William Hague (she had cradle cap). I can't imagine her as anything else now, her name definitely suits her and will work in any scenario.

Micah is a lovely name and unless you've discovered another name that you feel would definitely suit him I'd give it more time and not worry about it too much at the moment.

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