to be spiralling into actual depression, because of the rain? Is that pathetic?

[sadpapercourtesan]

It's just been unrelenting, filthy grey skies and pelting rain, for days

It doesn't seem to have got light properly since at least last Thursday. I realised this morning (when I woke up and was assailed by black thoughts, always a warning sign) that I'm on the brink of a proper depressive episode. My tried and tested strategies for pulling myself out of it (going for a long walk in nature, meeting a friend for a chat, gardening) are all off the table. I can't settle to anything and am feeling tearful, short-tempered and panicky. I'd made an early start on gardening this year which I was feeling really positive about - now my trays of little plants and cuttings etc are drowning in the rain, and my garden is a mass of weeds.

It's a bit pathetic isn't it, to be falling into depression because it's raining? Is anyone else feeling this bad?

[sadpapercourtesan]

Just me?

[Toilenstripes]

Not just you! I’m also struggling with the rain. Trying to tell myself that a bit of wet weather now will set us up for a lovely summer of sitting in the garden. It’s just so hard because it’s a continuation of winter and lockdown.

[Movinghouseatlast]

Not just you. I'm feeling low because of the rain, cold and wind.

I haven't planted anything out yet. I'm finding it really hard to motivate myself to do anything at all.

[AnneLovesGilbert]

I’m not depressed but I’m feeling pretty narky, frustrated, restless and after a thing on the radio about variants more than a bit ragey. We’ve finally got into gardening too, found tiny carrot shoots yesterday and now they’re drowned. I have a super active toddler I’m going to wrangle into a puddle suit later so we can get some fresh if watery air.

Much sympathy and a hand squeeze from me.

[GravityFalls]

It's not stupid, the weather has a massive effect on people's moods.

It's sunny here now (so hopefully where you are soon!) but I remember during February half-term, the height of lockdown, when it had been freezing cold, grey and dark for what felt like forever, I felt as low as I ever have. You can deal with bad weather on its own but combined with everything else in the world...it feels like there's no escape.

[WhatTheFlap]

It's not at all pathetic.

My DM suffers from depression and anxiety which can be triggered massively by seasons and poor weather. This last winter was the worst I've ever seen her (for obvious reasons), but the weather for the past week or so (feels like a lifetime) has been almost as bad.

Doesn't help that every time I look at the forecast, there is no let up in sight. Just rain and grey constantly.

At least we can go inside pubs/restaurants next week.

I hope you feel better soon, OP

[Hortimulcher888]

It's not pathetic at all op.

I work outside a lot and my motivation is definitely affected by the weather. But I'm taking a holiday today and the difference even inside the house when the sun is out, to when the sky is grey and overcast, is massive.

Also, in current circumstances, I think we are all a bit more vulnerable to outside circumstances affecting our sense of well-being.

[sadpapercourtesan]

Thank you

I think it must be the lack of proper sunlight as much as anything, that and the inability to go outside for more than a few minutes without getting soaked. Exercise is one of the only things that lifts my mood every time, but it's not happening in this weather.

RIP your carrot sprouts my sunflower seedlings have gone the same way. It must be the shittest May on record, surely?

[BeastOfBODMAS]

Commiserations OP, it’s is grim out and my garden is also soggy. I’m waiting for it to start raining indoors again as our roof needs partial replacement and as soon as there were long dry spells in April our roofer announced there was no felt to be had anywhere, probably all held up in the Suez canal. It’s making me anxious, I have dreams about ceilings falling down!

I am seriously debating getting the Christmas lights back out to cheer up the house as it’s so dark!

[elliejjtiny]

Yanbu. I hate the rain and it's been going on for days. I'm struggling to get the washing done and it's mucking up everything else too.

[VeganVeal]

I cant stand the rain on my window pane

[niceupthedance]

Longest winter ever.

My lawn looks like a jungle

Everything is blah

(Accidental haiku 😂)

[the80sweregreat]

Im not a lover of hot weather at all but I know people are more miserable when it rains or is cold. I can see why and I sympathize but I also am a bit smug deep down as when it's baking hot I'm the miserable unhappy one then!!
I'm sure it'll cheer up and be warm soon.

[wishthiswasreallife]

I feel the same it's even more draining every day.

Just want some sun!

[afaloren]

I am the opposite and get very panicky and depressed when it’s hot for days on end so I do understand, although from the other side. The weather definitely affects people seriously. I’m sorry OP

[the80sweregreat]

Every single person I know loves it hot ' hotter the better ' it's only on mn do I find the hot weather haters! Of which I am one.
We had a heatwave last august and i felt ill for a week.
Rain is good !!
It weird how the weather affects our moods though.

[User566666]

Not just you this weather is awful for mid may.

[Damnloginpopup]

Sunday crippled me. First depressive episode in a couple of years. Proper deep and overwhelming day. I couldn't do a thing about it but I recognised it and accepted it. Thankfully I was ok by Monday night. It's not just you

[honeybuns007]

I'm the same. I suffer with seasonal affective disorder and I find that after a few sunny days, sudden onset of greyness can plunge me down. It abates as soon as the sun comes out. I hate it but I've learned to just allow the feeling and know that this too will pass

[the80sweregreat]

Some people swear by those SAD machines ? Or a light box?
Might be worth looking into maybe?

[LadyCatStark]

YANBU at all. It’s not just the rain, it’s the wind and the cold too. I’m seriously struggling too, I can’t get motivated to do anything, I just want to stare at my phone and eat. I do have SAD though at the best of times but this year just tops it all off. I literally couldn’t finish my morning run today, I had to give up and walk home, I just couldn’t do it.

[sadpapercourtesan]

I have considered those SAD machines or a light box, maybe it would help. I've always been too mean to buy one

I do think the punishing year we've all had, with all the usual support networks/ways of staving off depression curtailed by covid, has made everything worse, a shitty wet dark May is just the crowning insult really. I just want to be able to sit in the garden and hear the birds sing

[ShrikeAttack]

Solidarity OP, I don't suffer from depression but this weather is unrelenting, I'm a keen gardener and everything is weeks behind, lots of my perennials have taken a hammering as they got all hopeful in April and then we had snow and weeks of frosts, it's mid-may and the trees here in the Peak District have only just started to show their leaves. It's usually getting to white and frothy hedgerows at this time of year but things are only just getting green. My tulips haven't even flowered yet!

Can you get out and tackle the weeds in the breaks in the rain? The fresh air will do you good and you'll feel righteous for dealing with the buggers.

I reckon June's going to be a scorcher and the garden will burst forth!

[the80sweregreat]

Honestly, I tried the sitting on the garden thing last year as couldn't do much else and was bored after less than half hour ( even in the shade I can't hack it )
People despair of me and my winter loving ways ( although I appreciate it is meant to be spring now)
Love getting the clothes dry though. It's good for that.

[the80sweregreat]

IN the garden, not on!