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My husbands mental health isn't good I need to take him away Aibu to take him for a break in the uk?

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needtohelphusband Mon 01-Jun-20 15:18:25

I would just take the usual weekly grocery shop with me

I can't find anywhere to rent online until July 4th

Any ideas

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022828MAN Mon 01-Jun-20 15:21:14

I don't know how likely it is that you'll be able to camp yet but would that be a viable option if you're able to? The weather's been lovely and the outdoors and fresh air might be a real help. You could go on some big walks if that's your thing to clear his head, and no risk of contamination as there might be in hotels etc.
I know camping isn't for everyone though but I'd personally love that if feeling unwell.

CuckooCuckooClock Mon 01-Jun-20 15:22:19

If your husband’s ill then maybe get some medical help instead of going on holiday? A holiday is nice but doesn’t cure illness.

lydia7986 Mon 01-Jun-20 15:24:12

It’s currently illegal to spend the night away from your home address. That’s why you can’t find anywhere to rent - because holiday home owners aren’t legally allowed to rent them out.

needtohelphusband Mon 01-Jun-20 15:24:34


I will look into camping
We have tents it's a good idea xx

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needtohelphusband Mon 01-Jun-20 15:25:17

It's best to try other methods before medicine
There is no counselling available atm


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CoffeeRunner Mon 01-Jun-20 15:25:29

It’s not permitted until early July as far as I’m aware.

Even camping you would need facilities which are still closed (shower/toilets etc).

You can go on a day trip for now. Would that help?

lydia7986 Mon 01-Jun-20 15:26:02

Camping is illegal at the moment as well, and all campsites are closed.

ineedaholidaynow Mon 01-Jun-20 15:27:27

Why aren’t people getting you can’t go on holiday at the moment?

TorkTorkBam Mon 01-Jun-20 15:28:07

What's the problem with sleeping at home? What's wrong with day trips? What does your DH want?

YouAreTheEggManIAmTheWalrus Mon 01-Jun-20 15:29:26

It's best to try other methods before medicine

A camping trip isn’t going to fix anyones mental health.

Herecomestreble1 Mon 01-Jun-20 15:29:33

OP I'm sorry but no. You cannot spend nights away from your home address.

Quartz2208 Mon 01-Jun-20 15:31:59

If it has gotten to the stage where you are breaking the law/lockdown medical help is needed. Then other things used to wean him off any medications

What are the actual issues - nowhere is open at the moment - today its illegal to be in another house unless you have reasons

Igotta Mon 01-Jun-20 15:32:08

People are getting fines for camping overnight.

BrightYellowDaffodil Mon 01-Jun-20 15:32:43

I say this gently but - as someone who has suffered not insignificant MH problems - a camping trip isn’t going to fix it. Medicine doesn’t have to be the answer but it can be a short term fix until a longer term solution can be reached.

If NHS services aren’t available at the moment are you able to go private? Many therapists are working online and some I’ve heard of are meeting clients outside.

Cutangle Mon 01-Jun-20 15:32:52

Counselling is available online.

SomeoneElseEntirelyNow Mon 01-Jun-20 15:33:41

He needs actual help OP, not a camping trip. Get him an urgent GP appointment and a prescription for SSRIs, then on the waiting list for counselling.

needtohelphusband Mon 01-Jun-20 15:36:25

Ok points taken I didn't actually realise it was illegal to camp
Thanks all I will talk to him
I feel so upset for him

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catinb0oots Mon 01-Jun-20 15:39:26

Heard it all now

Dinosauratemydaffodils Mon 01-Jun-20 15:41:14

I nearly got sectioned early in lockdown. Counselling is ongoing via the telephone or video chat. I've been offered both. I'm also getting regular phonecalls and emails from my psychiatrist. I'm not on medication although I did try setraline briefly in the immediate aftermath. Is he getting any input from mental health services at all?

What about a day trip assuming you are in England.

PolPotNoodle Mon 01-Jun-20 15:46:33

It's best to try other methods before medicine

Yes let's treat cancer with some handwaving and feel-good thoughts in first instance.

Mental health issues are an illness and should be treated as such. If his doctor prescribes medication it is for a clinical reason. If there are issues with the environment then they need to be addressed, not just pop off on a weekend away.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius Mon 01-Jun-20 15:49:02

Has he tried taking St John’s Wort - that is a natural remedy that can help with mild depression - and I think there may be other natural remedies too. You can order these online from reputable sources, like Holland and Barratt and they might be enough to get him through this current depression.

There are also lots of resources online which can help him with techniques like mindfulness, or cognitive behavioural techniques that can be extremely helpful, and which he could practise at home.

Tinygem Mon 01-Jun-20 15:49:35

Hope you manage to get the help he needs. It's great that you're aware and there for him. Good luck.

TorkTorkBam Mon 01-Jun-20 15:50:01

What does he want?

Amber0685 Mon 01-Jun-20 15:53:42

I would start with a phone appointment with his GP. Has he a history of MH problems? It must be very hard for you.

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