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SAHP - BU to send DC back to school?

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Soopertooter Wed 20-May-20 21:56:12

Would I be unreasonable to send my Year R child back to school even though i am a SAHP?

DC is quite robust and adaptable so I do think they would enjoy being back despite the changes, and with two younger siblings to take care of at home we are barely doing any schooling.

However, I don't think we've had the virus and I worry about DS catching it and bringing it home. We are not high risk though.

I don't know what to do for the best.

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crispysausagerolls Wed 20-May-20 22:22:54

The issue of sending children back or not is, in my opinion, utterly personal and there is no black/white answer. You are not unreasonable if you do. Or if you don’t! Do what works for you

Dumbie Wed 20-May-20 22:29:22

There are so many different considerations, what's best for your child and family is different for another's.

Pinkflipflop85 Wed 20-May-20 22:37:42

Yanbu to make your own decision.

My ds will be going back to school.

ConnellWaldronsChain Wed 20-May-20 22:40:32

Not unreasonable at all if you think your child will benefit/ enjoy it

Frazzled2207 Wed 20-May-20 22:43:24

Yanbu. I am in a similar situation but also have a year 2 child to consider. I’d send both if I could but the older child will be lonely without his brother, so I may keep both at home until both can go. It’s an entirely personal and decision for each family - circumstances vary hugely.

underneaththeash Wed 20-May-20 22:45:13

Of course you're not. They should be back at school learning.
I wish mine were going back.

blubellsarebells Wed 20-May-20 22:59:08

Im not usually stay at home, currently furloughed, my ds will be going back as soon as he is invited to, i dont think its healthy for him not to see or interact with other children.

Stuckforthefourthtime Wed 20-May-20 23:03:43

Yanbu. You hear the loudest voices on here from people raising their concerns - which are understandable, but doesn't make them the majority.
It's hard to balance the needs of 3 small children at once, especially when you also need to clean, cook and try to keep up with some school - and all while not able to meet with friends or get a break with a grandparent visiting or head out to the park to play with other kids.

Nobody has full knowledge right now. Personally I'm holding on to see the infection rate, it looks like where we are in London it's dropping massively and I'll send my ds in, if it's rising then maybe not.

PickAChew Wed 20-May-20 23:04:52

We can't keep our kids locked up forever. It's not good for their development and we'll being.

PickAChew Wed 20-May-20 23:05:40

And autocorrect isn't good for mine.

upthewolves Wed 20-May-20 23:08:49

I'm in a similar situation and after some discussion we have decided to send our child back. I think she would benefit so much from the social contact and seeing her friends and, like you, with younger siblings and a DH working FT it is
hard to keep up the homeschooling and I worry about her falling behind.

MarcelineMissouri Wed 20-May-20 23:12:18

Mine are going back

TempestHayes Wed 20-May-20 23:12:48

There's no learning going on though. Teachers have admitted it's just bland 'activities' being handed out, the same disconnected 5-minute tasks they're setting the kids at home.

I want my kids back in school for the learning and the environment and community, not to sit at a desk for hours with a wordsearch unable to talk to or play with anyone.

If we had test and trace they could have some sort of normality, They've all been let down so much.

Rubyred24 Wed 20-May-20 23:16:14

I don't work and I'll keep mine home. I don't blame others for doing so especially if your working or ha e other children.

ToothFairyNemesis Wed 20-May-20 23:16:32

and with two younger siblings to take care of at home we are barely doing any schooling. so no different to school then, it will just be childcare

Pinkflipflop85 Wed 20-May-20 23:16:51

There will be learning at DS's school when they return in June.

OliviaPopeRules Wed 20-May-20 23:18:04

YANBU you should do what is best for you and your child.

ToothFairyNemesis Wed 20-May-20 23:20:26

There will be learning at DS's school when they return in June. *@Pinkflipflop85 please come back to the thread to tell us about the learning.

ProseccoBubbleFantasies Wed 20-May-20 23:23:40

It's a decision for each parent.

But, OMG, school is going to be grim fuck all learning and completely miserable

SuperMumTum Wed 20-May-20 23:29:50

It won't be grim why do you think the teachers will be trying to make the childrens lives miserable?

Our primary has fields, several separate play areas, two large halls, a huge separate fenced off area for reception kids. My DC are currently having a lovely time at school. Lots of playing and lots of learning. I have no reaso to think that they'll suddenly decide to make all the reception kids sit in silence at desks doing meaningless time filling tasks. It's not a prison.

SuperMumTum Wed 20-May-20 23:37:24

How come every thread about school ends up being hijacked by some parents who have chosen to keep their children home explaining how awful it will be for them?

OP if your school is offering a place and you think it will work well for your family, or you'd like to try it out then don't feel guilty. None of us know how this will pan out but if you think it will work then go for it.

My personal opinion is that we have to try these things and start to live our lives again. I know some people aren't ready for that and that's up to them but I am.

DamnYankee Wed 20-May-20 23:37:27

^ What she said.
I don't think it will be grim. What adult in education is going to make it grim? Children are very resilient.

Pinkflipflop85 Wed 20-May-20 23:41:55

Well said super mum.
My ds is looking forward to talking to his friends in person.

Tootletum Thu 21-May-20 00:04:57

They're so hugely unlikely to get seriously ill, it's like keeping them home in case they get meningitis. But whatever you want really.

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