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To think this is an odd birthday request off DD?

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etonclean Sun 24-Nov-19 17:51:16

DD's birthday is in 2 weeks, she has asked for one of those DNA tests. She will be 19. Just in case someone asks I'd like to clarify it's not a "who's the daddy" test. You spit in a cup, send it off to the lab and then they get back to you telling you which areas of the world your ancestors are from and what diseases you have a genetic predisposition to.

I've said I'll get her one but I think it's a bit odd. There's no family secrets, me and DH are both definitely her biological parents (!) and both families are very healthy. We also both have family tracing back to Ireland.

AIBU in worrying she thinks there is some secret we are keeping from her about who she is? Or am I just being paranoid? She usually asks for makeup. DH got upset when I told him what she had asked for as he thought she must think he's not her dad, managed to reassure him though.

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CFlemingSmith Sun 24-Nov-19 17:52:29

YABU. I think it's a great gift and she is probably coming to an age where the history of her family interests her

StoorieHoose Sun 24-Nov-19 17:53:11

I wouldnt buy it for the reason of why would you willing give your DNA to a company to harvest.

If she wants it she can buy her herself

RusholmeRuffian Sun 24-Nov-19 17:53:13

Loads of people do these just because they are interested in their genetic make up, where they come from. It's totally normal!

Finfintytint Sun 24-Nov-19 17:54:11

I think she is just fascinated with genetic history. Very interesting to find out which part of the world your ancestors may be from. Just natural curiosity I think.

MrsJoshNavidi Sun 24-Nov-19 17:54:47

I had one last year. It confirmed what I already knew - 89% Welsh with some Cornish for good measure - but I loved it.

It helps you identify relatives too, although you have to pay more for that.

Lulualla Sun 24-Nov-19 17:59:08

These things are just total gimics.

Have her read this and then decide if she still wants one.

now.tufts.edu/articles/pulling-back-curtain-dna-ancestry-tests

flouncyfanny Sun 24-Nov-19 17:59:14

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OnlyFoolsnMothers Sun 24-Nov-19 18:00:48

YABU I don’t think it’s an odd gift- id love to do one

BrexitMakeItStop Sun 24-Nov-19 18:01:50

She probably watched the Ant and Dec thing the other week. It was full of ads for the company.

ohwheniknow Sun 24-Nov-19 18:03:42

They're really popular right now,I think you and you husband are both overreacting.

That said, there are enough questions about them for me to hesitate. Never mind the people who've received (sometimes inaccurate) distressing medical information in their results without any proper support.

Wildorchidz Sun 24-Nov-19 18:04:46

I wouldn’t for privacy reasons.

misspiggy19 Sun 24-Nov-19 18:05:35

Pretty sure there was a documentary on these companies. They sent the same DNA to several companies and each one said different stuff. All in all was deemed inaccurate and not reliable

Practicalmagico Sun 24-Nov-19 18:06:57

I’d love to do one of these but worry about the information they’ll receive

JasperRising Sun 24-Nov-19 18:09:04

I asked my mum for one of these. Never occurred to me she might think I thought she was keeping secrets from me...

adaline Sun 24-Nov-19 18:13:33

It's basically data harvesting - why would you volunteer to give your DNA away to some random company?

Aridane Sun 24-Nov-19 18:20:32

YABU - they are great fun. Finding,out about your ancestral ethnicity. And genealogy if you're into that.

And if you,don't want your data viewable (anonymously), you don't have to

mumonthehill Sun 24-Nov-19 18:24:26

My ds 19 has asked for one for Christmas!!!

SirVixofVixHall Sun 24-Nov-19 18:25:29

I have loved mine. I am doing the family tree and it has been v helpful.
I have not had a disease risk one done, just the standard ancestry.

diddl Sun 24-Nov-19 18:27:14

Is that all she wants?

I'd rather someone look into the family tree for me-I cba!

Why would your husband get upset & think that she must think he's not her dad?

Doesn't say a lot for what he thinks of you!

81Byerley Sun 24-Nov-19 18:29:42

I did it because I wanted to trace my family history. It may be that it will be the start of a fascinating hobby for her.

FurnitureAndBackgammon Sun 24-Nov-19 18:30:02

It's basically data harvesting - why would you volunteer to give your DNA away to some random company?

What do you think they would do with it? confused

SusieOwl4 Sun 24-Nov-19 18:30:26

probably watched ant and dec DNA journey that's all

Thoughtlessinengland Sun 24-Nov-19 18:32:38

There are huge issues around data, security and platforms monetising and surveilling DNA amidst of course other things. I work in this area for my bread and butter but not sure the data/platforms aspect is “seen” by people usually in these things, as with google nest, the one ring doorbell etc.

Thanksgiving2019 Sun 24-Nov-19 18:33:20

My son asked for one for his 13th Birthday! We got it for him and it was fascinating. I also did one so now he can look at his results and see which relatives are from his mothers side and which from his father’s side.

We did 23&me and have discovered relatives we had lost touch with. The fact we knew who they were and it linked us shows these work to a certain extent.

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