We bought our first flat a year ago, and so did our downstairs neighbour. We have had problems with our downstairs neighbours since day one. They have been verbally aggressive and rude including threatening violence against someone who came to do work for us.
They have been doing building work on their flat for the whole year, the work has been going on late into the evenings (past 9pm) and late into the weekends and bank holidays (past 7pm). We have asked them a few times if they can stop doing work this late but it’s been met with denial that they are doing it (there is no other neighbour it could be as it’s one upstairs flat and downstairs flat). They use kangos and drills into they ceiling (our floor) in these late hours and we can’t watch TVs or talk on peace.
We have never had more then a couple of friends round in the evening for dinner because we are worried of the noise but we know the flat is very well insulated - can’t hear TVs or music or anything like that.
We had about 5 friends round for dinner and a chilled Friday night, music was no louder than we have the TV at night. We received a really nasty message that the noise was unbearable as it was getting late (just before 12am).
They always have friends round late and we can hear them talking outside and slamming doors but it is unreasonable for us to do the same thing but because our flat is above and you can hear more feet walking that we can’t do it (our kitchen is above their bedroom - this has always been like this)? This was the first time we had this many people round in the whole year and it was far from a party. But they are completely ruining the experience for us as it feels like they can do as they please but we have to walk on egg shells. We are much younger then them and they have made the comment before that we are kids (early 20’s) but don’t feel like we have done anything wrong? They have previously made complaints that we have breakfast too early in the morning, they can hear as walking into the kitchen.
We have friends and family who live in blocks of flats who say there are always parties and noise but it’s Normal?
Are we being unreasonable? We are at wits end and desperate to move out because of them but we love our home
AIBU?
Neighbour complaints
Homemum1 · 28/09/2019 09:55
@CottonHeadedNinyMuggins
I thought for a moment we had the same neighbours .. except in my case it's the woman that screams sings and swears every Thursday, Friday and Saturday until 3am. my neighbour also runs and hides if she ever sees me so I'm sure it's all drink related and she is either she is embarrassed or to much of a coward to apologise.
My complaints only make a difference for a day or two then she starts. I have given up trying to confront her when she has had a drink as all I get is a load of swearing and abuse 
No advice really OP but I do empathise. It is awful having noisy neighbours.
I’m so sorry that the are other people in the same situation. How can there be so many people in this world with no respect for others! Really hope it all gets sorted for everyone. Knowing that we can hopefully move in the next six months is the only thing getting me through at the moment.
We just came home this evening to him comparing us walking in our kitchen in the mornings to him doing loud building work at late in the evening and the reason why he will keep doing it until we stop walking in the kitchen ... not sure how this works!
Occasional party/building noise in a flat is just an occupational hazard of communal living, but that's too much OP. You have my sympathy.
Where I used to live was generally pretty good, I rarely had to knock on a door but it did happen, most notably when some bass-heavy music was shaking the very fabric of the building late into the evening from a flat upstairs. It turned out to be not the floor immediately above, but the floor above that. The young lady on the floor below me knocked on my door about 11:45pm because she was being disturbed by it three floors down.
They actually didn't do it again but I made sure I knew where their flat's main circuit breaker was in the meter cabinet, just in case they did 
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