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AIBU to want my spare room back

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NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 Wed 07-Feb-18 12:19:11

DH and I have been together for years and he plays music. He has a huge piece of music equipment that has dictated us having an extra toom wherever we rented or bought even though he went through large peiods of not using it.

We bought a house 2yrs ago and it has sat in the corner of the spare room untouched for these 2 yrs, rendering the spare room useless for anything else.

I have asked him on numerous occasions to set it up or put it in the attic, I have even tidied the room so it's easy to set up but all to no avail.

We have quite a lot of visitors so I would love to put a bed there or put my clothes horse in there as it clogs up my kitchen.

We are planning to get our kitchen done up in the next few months. Aibu to ask him to get rid of it so I can put my clothes horse in there or use it for something else. It's doing my head in angry

Cath2907 Wed 07-Feb-18 12:24:12

Put it in the attic yourself? He likely won't notice!

NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 Wed 07-Feb-18 12:25:44

Cath I'm very tempted but he would lose the plot

VladmirsPoutine Wed 07-Feb-18 12:28:51

If he would lose the plot over something like this then I suggest to you that you have more serious problems in your marriage than the use or otherwise of a spare room.

NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 Wed 07-Feb-18 12:32:39

Vladamirs he would go bananas if I removed the equipment and say he'd planned to use it soon.

WhatchaMaCalllit Wed 07-Feb-18 12:32:56

Start using it as a clothes horse.
Start leaving things on top of it. If it's a piano or a mixing desk or a drum kit then leave stuff on it, draped over it and stop making space for it.
If your DH wants it to have a proper place, he'd better decide to use it or lose it.
Have you tried saying "DH, about that X bit of kit you have in the spare room - have you any idea what one of those would sell for? I'm just wondering how much to advertise it on Ebay for?" and see what he says. If it were a person renting the room, how much income would you have accumulated since it went into the spare room??

DriggleDraggle Wed 07-Feb-18 12:33:49

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NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 Wed 07-Feb-18 12:35:24

Watcha things are thrown on top of it because it just gets in the way. I have mentioned eBay but he just loses his cool.

Bloomed Wed 07-Feb-18 12:36:32

What on earth is it?

NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 Wed 07-Feb-18 12:37:15

Driggle it's a box bedroom so very small. It's an awkward space but the equipment takes up a good portion of it. There is a desk in the room too but no room for a clothes horse

NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 Wed 07-Feb-18 12:38:02

Bloomed electronic drum kit. That hasn't been used for at least 2 years

pastabest Wed 07-Feb-18 12:39:14

so he loses his cool... then what will happen?

Sounds like he needs to grow up.

Bloomed Wed 07-Feb-18 12:40:19

That would drive me mad too! I agree with a pp to calculate how much this storage is 'costing' you.

Jammycustard Wed 07-Feb-18 12:40:39

Maybe time for you to ‘lose your cool’ op. Why’s he such a nob about it?

Urubu Wed 07-Feb-18 12:40:48

Just say "you have had the use of the box room for 2y, now it is my turn for the next 2y"
Simple, fair.

NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 Wed 07-Feb-18 12:41:01

Pasta he'd stomp around like a toddler shouting and blaming everyone else for why it wasn't set up and then promise to set it up this weekend, then blame me and the kids cos he has no time

MilkTwoSugarsThanks Wed 07-Feb-18 12:41:26

Have you tried "losing the plot" at him?

DriggleDraggle Wed 07-Feb-18 12:41:36

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DriggleDraggle Wed 07-Feb-18 12:42:11

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NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 Wed 07-Feb-18 12:42:11

Jammy I think he doesn't want to admit that he no longer plays them. It has dominated very move.

NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 Wed 07-Feb-18 12:44:14

Urubu that's actually a great suggestion and I'm going to say it. Thanks

Driggle I'm not having it in my bedroom. I've had to have that monstrosity in my bedroom in a load of rentals. If he used it I'd have no issue but it's just there in the way

Wellfuckmeinbothears Wed 07-Feb-18 12:44:50

I would move it yourself, ignore his tantrums! He can stomp about the house like a man child as much as he likes and it'll be bloody annoying while he does but surely he'll eventually get over it and if its been there unused for 2 years he'll probably be too bloody lazy to get it back down himself! If he shouts or blames just keep reminding him it hadn't been used for two years and you have been asking him to either set it up or move it for that whole time.

Men who constantly procrastinate irritate the hell out of me!

GrowThroughWhatYouGoThrough Wed 07-Feb-18 12:45:20

I'd tell him I had binned it and move it to the attic! How relived he will be when he finds it there 😂

NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 Wed 07-Feb-18 12:45:39

Milk I can stand up for myself alright but he just always makes me feel that he's no time to do anything with them.

Driggle he's a complete dick

chickenowner Wed 07-Feb-18 12:45:46

Is he ever nice to you OP?

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