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AIBU?

To feel like the biggest slag in the world?

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shouldbeashamed · 09/04/2017 22:08

Before I met DH I put it about a bit to the tune of 50+ sexual partners. When I go into my local town I often see past conquests.

Today I am at a holiday park 60+ miles away and see someone I shagged 10 ish years ago.

AIBU to feel like the biggest slag in the world? FYI I am female.

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ImperialBlether · 09/04/2017 22:09

Don't be daft! You've not been unfaithful to him, have you?

StealthPolarBear · 09/04/2017 22:10

Yes yabu
(I say that as someone with few sexual partners)
What does it bother you?
It doesn't define you

shouldbeashamed · 09/04/2017 22:12

No never have been and never would be I adore DH totally devoted to him

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OfaFrenchmind2 · 09/04/2017 22:13

Welll he should be glad that after all this testing you chose him, no?
Don't demean yourself OP, everybody has a past, and that is perfectly normal. As long as you were not hurt or forced during you previous relationships, there is nothing to be concerned about.

Doobigetta · 09/04/2017 22:13

That's a horrible word, don't use it. It shouldn't exist in the 21st century.

TheStoic · 09/04/2017 22:13

Do you think he would feel ashamed of himself, if he'd seen you?

treaclesoda · 09/04/2017 22:14

It's in the past and can't be undone, even a if you wanted it to be. I bet if you were a man you wouldn't give it a second thought. Think no more of it.

PortiaCastis · 09/04/2017 22:15

No you're allowed sexual partners just as men are

shouldbeashamed · 09/04/2017 22:15

He did see me. We were sat 4 feet away. AWKS.

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TheStoic · 09/04/2017 22:16

And do you think he felt ashamed?

FuckyNell · 09/04/2017 22:17

Slag is a horrible word.

You just had sex and there's nothing wrong with that

FABpMummy · 09/04/2017 22:17

But it would have been awkward if you'd only had 3 past sexual partners. Don't criticise yourself for this.

shouldbeashamed · 09/04/2017 22:18

Probably not. But it's different for men. There's a stigma attached to w

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shouldbeashamed · 09/04/2017 22:18

Women

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TheStoic · 09/04/2017 22:18

Why are you buying in to it?

Avioleta · 09/04/2017 22:19

Slag is a horrible word to use about yourself.

You unexpectedly saw an old sexual partner. And? What's the issue?

LoveMyLittleSuperhero · 09/04/2017 22:20

YABU, you are an adult, you are allowed a history. I don't know why society thinks it's ok to tell men having sex is good (stud) and women that it's bad (slut) but it's a load of bollocks IMHO. Hold your head up and move on, lifes too short

ThePinkOcelot · 09/04/2017 22:20

How did you feel about it at the time? Why do you think you feel like that now?

haveacupoftea · 09/04/2017 22:21

Fuck it, who cares? You didn't hurt anyone, you didn't commit a crime. You can't undo it now either so try to make peace with yourself.

Pollydonia · 09/04/2017 22:21

Yabu and very hard on yourself.
Be kind to yourself.

LostMyDotBrain · 09/04/2017 22:24

I've been around the block and I'm not the slightest bit ashamed by it OP. I've held my head high when I've come across previous sexual partners. There really is no reason not to.

And to reinforce what other posters have said, it's horribly sexist to be using the term 'slag' because of your number of sexual partners.

AlternativeTentacle · 09/04/2017 22:24

I went to a gig a few weeks back and there were 4 of my exes there. No shame at all.

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AdoraBell · 09/04/2017 22:24

YABU you did nothing wrong. Give yourself a break.

shouldbeashamed · 09/04/2017 22:24

Don't know how I felt really I was pissed

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shouldbeashamed · 09/04/2017 22:26

Very surprised by the reaction I thought you would all judge and say yes I'm a slag.

How many sexual partners have you all had?

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