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To think the tone of these texts was a bit threatening?

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thedaisymeadow Sun 04-Sep-16 19:54:12

I was signed off work before the summer holidays with an injury rather than an illness. I'm starting back on a phased return soon.

I'm still in pain when I sit down for long periods and moving is actually the best thing for me.

So this morning dp and I plus two of our friends (a couple) and their children went to a beautiful country park. I took a couple of photos and uploaded them to facebook.

At midnight last night my phone went and I was still half asleep but looked at it in case it was an emergency. It was an ex-colleague from work telling me 'I don't think you should be doing that' (uploading photos.)

Then, five more texts came through in about a minute saying things like 'do you understand? You must not post on Facebook when signed off'

She then sent me one saying she could tell I was reading them. I then relied and said she'd woken me up.

Would you feel a bit weird about it?

ImperialBlether Sun 04-Sep-16 19:55:10

Was she telling you in a nice way, do you think, as in "Be careful as they might be misinterpreted"?

ImperialBlether Sun 04-Sep-16 19:56:04

I think the one saying she knew you'd read the messages was threatening, tbh. Why would someone say that?

puddlejumpingqueen Sun 04-Sep-16 19:56:07

That is very strange indeed! I too would see them as threatening. When you say ex-colleague does that mean she doesn't work there anymore? If so I would just block her and ignore her, what the fuck has it got to do with her?!

QueenLizIII Sun 04-Sep-16 19:56:14

Restrict all of your ex colleagues so they cant see what you post.

ElspethFlashman Sun 04-Sep-16 19:56:28

6 texts in a minute on a Saturday night?

She wasn't being threatening, she was pissed!

ImperialBlether Sun 04-Sep-16 19:57:33

I would put something like, "For those who are concerned about me, doctors recommend I walk as much as possible while I'm off work." Leave it up a few minutes, then block her and anyone she's friends with.

thedaisymeadow Sun 04-Sep-16 19:57:53

None of my other ex colleagues would to my knowledge ever send me messages like that!

Obviously she was telling me that I shouldn't be seen to be 'out and about' while signed off but I'm injured rather than unwell which everyone's well aware of.

It really took me aback! confused

sooperdooper Sun 04-Sep-16 19:58:00

Just because you're signed off you don't have to hide indoors every day!! As long as you're not paragliding or rubbing a marathon I don't see what's wrong with posting everyday pictures and your colleague sounds a bit odd

gamerchick Sun 04-Sep-16 19:58:38

Delete her from Facebook. Job done.

TwentyCups Sun 04-Sep-16 19:59:11

Bit weird. However, an an ex colleague could it be that she got in trouble previously for the same thing? Or maybe someone has gossiped about it and she wanted to warn you to take them down?
Bloody weird time to text though.

I wouldn't worry about her. However, I happen to agree that you should err on the side of caution when it comes to posting on fb when you are off sick, because it does attract negative attention. You know your limits with your injury, and clearly s day st the park was not painful for you. However, you must realise others will see it and say 'oh she's well enough for a day out!'. That might be incredibly ignorant of them, they won't know the ins and outs of your condition. However that's why it's next not to give them any fodder.

honeylulu Sun 04-Sep-16 20:00:30

you should post: "Do you understand? This could be construed as harassment."

sooperdooper Sun 04-Sep-16 20:01:37

Running, not rubbing!

thedaisymeadow Sun 04-Sep-16 20:02:01

My colleagues are well aware of the situation. We're a close and supportive department and I was very obviously struggling before being signed off. (Also was on crutches on the only photo of me!)

I definitely don't plan on restricting activities that I can do, as it actually aids recovery.

OlennasWimple Sun 04-Sep-16 20:02:06

Not threatening, just weird

TeaPleaseLouise Sun 04-Sep-16 20:08:39

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Cherrysoup Sun 04-Sep-16 20:10:14

Was she pissed? It is nothing to do with work what you in your time off sick unless you're off BASE jumping after claiming you're immobile or something. Speak to her or message saying this. What a cow to be messaging you at midnight.

StillStayingClassySanDiego Sun 04-Sep-16 20:14:03

I broke my foot last December 11th and was signed off til February. I did go out in that time, who'd stay in all of that time?

I couldn't work, that much was obvious but I'm not in FaceBook.

thedaisymeadow Sun 04-Sep-16 20:15:40

She was odd when I worked with her but I thought she was nice enough! Now am angry

Marmighty Sun 04-Sep-16 20:17:09

People are signed off for all sorts of reasons, I suspect vast majority stress-related, when a country walk would be just what the doctor ordered. She's an idiot., just ignore.

iamabitnosey Sun 04-Sep-16 20:18:48

Actually, she may be doing you a favour but in a bizarre fashion! Your team might think it's great you getting out and about with the kids while signed off with your injury..,,to your face! Your boss and HR dept may have very different ideas!

Anything found on your FB can and may be used against you. Turn everything private and limit what your co workers/ppl who know them can see.

CandyOcean Sun 04-Sep-16 20:19:18

Remind her you're on sickness leave not under house arrest!

Pseudonym99 Sun 04-Sep-16 20:21:02

I think anyone who uploads photos to Facebook when they are off sick, regardless of why they are off sick, are basically stupid. Facebook and work do not mix. Do not friend people who you work with - you are asking for trouble. Or have two separate Facebook accounts - one for your private life, and one for your work life.

thedaisymeadow Sun 04-Sep-16 20:22:21

iam, it is private.

My boss is very supportive. I used to be a regular church goer but i can't sit on the pews at the moment. It's actually less strain to walk round a park than sit in a church.

thedaisymeadow Sun 04-Sep-16 20:23:13

No, I'm not stupid hmm

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