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To complain to my next door neighbour who is a childminder

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1mum2boys · 19/04/2016 15:33

We are rarely at home before 6pm but even then sometimes is incredibly noisy. They have quite a few children who at times scream, cry, drag toys on the floor, etc. After a hard day at work and school it is really hard to deal with the noise. My children find it difficult to concentrate on their homework, I sometimes take work home (I am an accountant) and I find it very stressful to work when the noise levels are out of control.
Today I left work early being sick and I cannot even put my head down or feet up and feel better because the noise is just unbearable.
I had the urge to go over and complain so many times but I just think 'love your neighbours!!'
What can I do?

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Millionprammiles · 19/04/2016 16:22

There really isn't much you can do (assuming the CM has the appropriate licenses etc) - its the same as normal family noise (albeit a big family).
At least its only in the daytime, far worse to have students having late night parties IMO.

You could try installing sound proofing, perhaps ask the CM to share the cost? If windows/doors are open though that won't help much.
Are there rooms not adjoining the house/not overlooking the garden that you could use when you're working or the kids could use?

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Ladycrazycat · 19/04/2016 17:38

I think YABU, or you would wh to motion something, not to be irritated by it.

As the previous poster said, it can't really be worse than ordinary noise from a big family and it isn't at antisocial hours. It would probably irritate me as well though!

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kslatts · 19/04/2016 18:15

I think YABU to complain to the neighbour about noisy children during the day.

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KingJoffreyLikesJaffaCakes · 19/04/2016 18:17

Hang large rugs on your walls. Blocks out sound.

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fiorentina · 19/04/2016 18:19

Are they allowed to run a business from home? The covenants on our old house said we shouldn't. More modern properties may have this, however how enforceable it is may be up for debate?

In the interests of neighbourly relations you may not want to go down this route but you could ask for them to put down rugs on wooden floors and politely mention it's very noisy, they may not realise how bad it is?

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GlitteryShoes · 19/04/2016 18:22

My friend was a childminder and ended up with an ASBO over the children's noise! It didn't do a lot for neighbourly relations!

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Gileswithachainsaw · 19/04/2016 18:25

actually I think k she should he teaching the kids to be a bit more respectful and/or diciplining them.

you expect a few tantrums and babies cry sonetimes. bit things like making a massive racket when arriving or leaving and basically being ridiculously loud ( beyond imaging noises ) is a bit much tbh

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ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 19/04/2016 19:02

Maybe it sounds as if the childminder has a lot of children there but there is a ratio of adults to children that she must adhere to. 3 children under 5yrs, or 6 children older than 5yrs.

I don't think it's unreasonable to draw her attention to the noise in a friendly, light hearted way but the last thing you want is a confrontation that results in a row so tread carefully.

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AnnieOnAMapleLeaf · 19/04/2016 19:05

I don't think you are being unreasonable at all and I would absolutely complain. Yes, she has a right to run her business but you also have the right to peace and quiet in your own home.

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NickNacks · 19/04/2016 19:07

I'm a cm and wouldn't mind you coming round to politely tell me it's a bit loud. When you're living it it can be hard to realise how loud it actually is, you do actually get used to it!

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Bruceyboy · 30/06/2020 12:01

I feel your pain. I live next door to a child minder and its okay talking about child to adult ratio but my cm has another adult that helps her (I’m taking it she employs her) so sometimes the noise is unbelievable. We live in small terrace houses which are only one room width so you can’t get away from it. I have lightheartedly said about the noise but you just get “I know especially on the laminate floors but I need them to be able to keep it clean!” There really should be some kind of guidelines on numbers!

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