This may have been done to death - apologies if so.
Have DSD EOW - do not live close by.
I realise as a "step-parent" I am possibly an evil entity here on MN - so not sure if asking for advice or having a vent
Generally have good relationship with their mum - we have fallen out in the past about nits (I have DC of my own - older now but 1 of them has Afro hair).
I accept of course nits is part of having children. My beef is that OH has picked them up from school and dropped them home, seen nits falling out of their hair, mentioned it to their mum and we have had them a few days later for the weekend and clearly nothing has been done as they are riddled. Both have long hair so will take up to two hours to properly go through them both with conditioner and nitty gritty comb.
Today they were about to leave and DSD2 had something on her forehead, I went to remove it and saw it was a nit (we hadn't thought to check this weekend I accept that was an oversight on our part) and checked them both and they both have them, loads of nits and eggs.
I said don't worry it's not your fault etc just tell mummy when you get home DSD1 then said it is DSD2 fault because mummy gives them the nit com and they are expected to go through their own hair with it and DSD2 hasn't been doing it.
I can actually well believe this but I don't really know what to do about it. It's fire fighting getting rid of them twice a month for them not to be checked the rest of the month and whenever OH mentions anything to his ex he gets a load of abuse about what a shit husband he was what a shit parent he is (they split 8 yrs ago and she is with someone else) it's so hard - I just want her to deal with it for their sakes more than anything what do others do?
They were sent a while back and she sent a text telling him they had had nits and for him to "stay on top of it" they were riddled they did not just have a couple of missed eggs and thing is we usually do stay on top of it but it's hard when they don't live with us.
I don't really want them to feel like I (or OH) are obsessively checking them as soon as they walk through the door either.
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What do others do re DSC and nits?
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Cutecat78 · 31/01/2016 19:33
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