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to think the 'Pregnancy' board is becoming ridiculous

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ShowYourSeams Wed 13-Jan-16 00:50:48

I got a lot of great advice on there when I was pregnant and have continued to contribute as I feel I can give some advice having carried 3 children.

But at the moment it seems like the huns have all moved in to ask if they're pregnant (despite numerous negative tests) because they have slightly sensitive nipples.

AIBU to think some common sense needs to come into play? And if they must post it should be on the 'conception' board?

Rpj16 Wed 13-Jan-16 00:59:56


Although sensitive nipples were what made me test (and it was positive!) And I was on holiday at the time and wanted to know if I could keep smoking or not!

VocationalGoat Wed 13-Jan-16 01:01:20

YANBU. There's just far too much "Do you see a line?" It's predominantly about getting second opinions on tests. Nothing wrong with the question. It should be placed on the conception board.

It's a bit obsessive over there and it's the wrong board.There are many mums to be who are pregnant and dealing with sensitive stuff. I know that when I was pregnant and having problems (we did lose our DD late in the pregnancy), a bunch of obsessive 'Am I pregnant?' threads would have been difficult to deal with.

sleeponeday Wed 13-Jan-16 01:35:39

Maybe put this thread in Site Stuff, and ask MNHQ to have a policy of deleting or moving to Conception? I agree it would be a PITA; that board was great in my first pregnancy.

Wagglebees Wed 13-Jan-16 02:35:16

I think there needs to be a new tests board. Although the majority, not all, of them need to think rationally and not post in the first place, there will still be more and they're starting to appear in chat and AIBU now. They can be quite upsetting for some posters who purposely avoid the pregnancy boards because of them.

The advice is almost always the same so I can't help but think it's an attention thing sometimes.

1) if your period hasn't started in another 4-6 days, test again. Missing a period occasionally is normal but you could have a chat with your GP if it doesn't turn up at all and you're still concerned.

2) You cannot have symptoms 2 days after having sex. It's medically impossible.

Wagglebees Wed 13-Jan-16 02:35:58

I don't think conception is the right place for them either.

SnackPlease Wed 13-Jan-16 03:46:26

It's fucking ridiculous.

I am bloody sick of reading threads listing random symptoms and dates where no stick has been peed on and no common sense has been applied.

Maybe HQ could set up some kind of magic auto redirect to the Huns when someone posts one of these threads? hmm

SladeGreen Wed 13-Jan-16 05:59:35

YANBU. Some people really do take the piss when it comes to pregnancy testing (if you'll pardon the pun). As for symptoms, well pretty much anything and everything can be a symptom. Just try out the online NHS Symptom Checker - got a sore elbow? Dial 999, it's pre-eclampsia!

Walkingintheraindrops Wed 13-Jan-16 06:04:22

I agree. But take yourself back to trying for your first. I remember all that. I didn't post on Internet forums but it was utterly consuming. Just ignore it and let them get on with it. I think they just want to obsess and chat about it.
There is an overriding obsession on MN with solving problems (which is totally unrealistic anyway) and I think some posters just want a bit of attention and chat rather than an answer.

That said I have found myself laughing hard at the number of posts saying "I had sex once this month using a condom and now my breasts ache am I pregnant? My period isn't due for 3 weeks " or similar.

FatimaLovesBread Wed 13-Jan-16 06:14:45

There's also being loads of 'what sex is my baby' posts as well recently. Yesterday bumping a zombie thread from years ago.

I have no idea, wait till 20 weeks and ask you sonographer

Disclaimer: I have woken up grumpy smile

SladeGreen Wed 13-Jan-16 06:19:57

Fatima Why would they want to wait 20 weeks to ask a sonographer, when a kindly MNer can simply wrap a shawl over their head and wapp the old crystal ball out? grin

ThenLaterWhenItGotDark Wed 13-Jan-16 06:23:20

There are loads of ridiculous threads all over MN.

YABU for thinking it's your job to police one section of them.

Why do you even care?

Just because you've had a baby doesn't make you an expert on pregnancy, symptoms or otherwise. Why not let women who want to chat about the possibilities of being pregnant do so?

And what's with the "huns" comments? Any need?

MadrigalElectromotive Wed 13-Jan-16 06:43:34

Yanbu. I am pretty fed up with it too, along with the nub and skull theory ones.

Katenka Wed 13-Jan-16 06:48:50


There has been a few in here recently and I just hide them.

It becomes an issue when a board is getting flooded with them. Because essentially the pregnancy board is being taken over by people who aren't pregnant.

I think some people are so desperate to get pregnant they do bizarre things. It's probably in their mind and they can't get out to a test. I do think some people become so obsessed, they make the symptoms up.

Some just want a bit of attention.

My cousin does this in real life. She has three kids but thinks she might be pregnant again at least twice a year. This has been going on since before she had kids. Each time she turned out to actually be pregnant, we were all shocked when she actually was.

GreenRug Wed 13-Jan-16 06:50:32

I agree. I have to stop myself, when someone comes on asking if they are pregnant, from saying I don't know, why don't you, erm, you know, do a pregnancy test? But it's such an exciting time for alot of people I'd feel too mean to actually say it!

SomebodySedateMe Wed 13-Jan-16 07:05:13


My favourite one last night - I've had 4 negatives but I'm super fertile and I actually felt myself ovulate so should I go and demand a pointless blood test?

Katenka Wed 13-Jan-16 07:11:16

But it's such an exciting time for alot of people I'd feel too mean to actually say it!

That's why I hide them when they turn up on here. grin

splendide Wed 13-Jan-16 07:18:31

I went through phase of getting extremely irritated with posts asking about implantation bleeding. Yes it's a thing sometimes but if you have some bleeding (including spotting and regardless of DPO) then it's more likely you are not pregnant than you are. I even had some stats about it. I don't know why it wound me up so much, partly I think it was the false hope people were given. Spotting does not mean you definitely aren't pregnant but people often act like its a good sign and it's the opposite.

Here's the graph -

Incidentally that's the best site for wibbling about sore breasts and cervical mucus. I agree it shouldn't be the pregnancy board.

SoupDragon Wed 13-Jan-16 07:20:52

Perhaps we need a "Look at my pissy stick" topic. smile

I just roll my eyes at all the "nub therory" ones and ignore everything that isn't a genuine problem I might be able to give some advice on.

MaisieDotes Wed 13-Jan-16 07:22:24

I agree with thenlater - it's a public Internet forum, you're never going to be able to completely control who posts what.

Every time one of these "could I be pregnant" threads pops up now, there's a deluge of "oh, what, seriously ffs" or aggressive "GO TO CONCEPTION" type posts which are just exacerbating the issue.

It's (probably) not the same poster repeatedly posting so that approach is fairly pointless.

I just either don't bother posting on those threads or if I do, a simple POAS is sufficient. Then move on.

StillStayingClassySanDiego Wed 13-Jan-16 07:22:48

After reading this I had a nosey over there.

Some of those doing this are newbies , maybe they haven't understood that there are separate topics ie conception and headed straight for pregnancy.

Don't get your Huns comment though, didn't see any hunning.

StillStayingClassySanDiego Wed 13-Jan-16 07:25:09

There are also 'am I pregnant' posts that pop up in chat from time to time.

Do a bloody test, for Christ's Sake.

pictish Wed 13-Jan-16 07:27:45

I agree with thenlater as well. It's a public forum and you have no hope of controlling who posts where. I don't know why you even feel the need to.
If I was at the stage of wanting to get pregnant/thinking I might be pregnant/doing a pgcy test/whatever, the logical topic to pick is the pregnancy one. How is anyone just dipping in or new here to know there's a separate conception topic? And even if they do know, why is it any skin off your nose if they don't use it? It's none of your concern.

Hopelass Wed 13-Jan-16 07:27:55

Lol at the Huns grin
Yep I've noticed this too. I inwardly eye roll when I see the title "could I be pregnant" Ffs do a test!

SunnyL Wed 13-Jan-16 07:32:41

I first found Mumsnet when i tested for the first time. I didn't know what the rules of the site were. I didn't know there were all these unwritten rules either about what we could and couldn't say. I was pregnant for the first time ever and despite it being planned was freaking out.

Why don't you chill and look elsewhere if its bugging you.

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