To ask if you've ever known anyone who has never been in a relationship?

[peachblossoms]

And if you did, what were they like as a person? Were they quite peculiar?

[MangoJuggler]

[avocadotoast]

One of my friends hasn't had a relationship to the best of my knowledge. She's perfectly normal! (Late 20s.)

[helenahandbag]

Yes, my best friend is almost 25 and has only ever had one random kiss in a nightclub. She has never had a boyfriend and never had sex.

She is absolutely lovely, beautiful, well educated and makes me laugh like a drain. It's not that she's not interested, she just hasn't found anyone right.

[Shakirasma]

I know a few, all in their 60s now. All lovely and in no way odd.

[cashewnutty]

I have a relative who is almost 50 and has never had a relationship. She is a little bit strange and a bit over invested in her parents but pretty harmless. I have another relative who is almost 60 and never had a relationship and she is FAB. She is slightly eccentric and everyone loves her.

[Hakluyt]

Good Lord. Yes to your first question, plenty. And no to your second. Or no more peculiar than people I know who are in relationships.

[TheTravellingLemon]

Yes, I know someone in their thirties. Not odd exactly, but definitely a difficult person.

[MyCatIsAGit]

Friend in his 50s, don't think he can be bothered with it. Really very normal (well as normal as any of my friends who have been in relationships.)

[SallyMcgally]

I didn't have a relationship until I was 28. I kissed a couple of people. Went out with someone for 3 days and someone else for ten days (but didn't see him for a week of that). Didn't sleep with anyone until I was 28 and he's the bloke I ended up marrying. I don't know if I'd have been described as peculiar. I had a lovely group of friends who seemed happy to spend time with me.

[springalong]

I've known 2 people - both female - both now mid-50s. One is odd (possibly undiagnosed aspergers) and the other is lovely but is like marmite to people - you either love or hate her. TBH I think part of the issues with no 2 is living on your own nearly all your life does mean that those rough edges that get knocked off when you live with others, didn't in this case.

[Hakluyt]

"Yes, my best friend is almost 25 and has only ever had one random kiss in a nightclub. She has never had a boyfriend and never had sex."

Wow- 24, eh? I presume she's resigned herself to a lonely future considering she's still single at such an advance qge!

[peachblossoms]

Yes, I was thinking a fair bit older than 24!

[FluffyJawsOfDoom]

Yes, I've a friend in her 30s who's never been in a relationship. She's not odd in the slightest, just never been in the right place at the right time.

[TheWitTank]

Yes, my friend (male) is in his 20s and has never had a relationship, kissed anyone or lost his virginity. He just isn't interested in all that! He is perfectly normal and very nice, he just has different priorities.

[SaucyJack]

Yes, and yes- but it's highly possible only the "eccentric" ones come to my attention in the first place.

[KittiesInsane]

I have a relative who is almost 50 and has never had a relationship. She is a little bit strange and a bit over invested in her parents but pretty harmless

--I wonder if you're related to my flatmate from college, Cashewnutty?

[maras2]

A woman that I used to work with.She was lovely,kind and well thought of by patients and colleagues.She bred and showed cats,actually 30 years on she still does.

[Biscuitsneeded]

Yes. Lots. A few are genuine oddballs but others are lovely, functional, sociable people with plenty of friends. In a couple of cases I would hazard a guess that it may be due to unresolved issues around their sexuality but that is pure speculation on my part. And they are quite private people so I would never dream of asking them.

[ShatnersBassoon]

Yes, a lovely woman in her 40s. She's very sociable, has lots of friends, has an interesting and worthwhile job, is average-looking, pretty normal in every way really.

I don't think she has any interest in romantic relationships. She just doesn't see people that way.

[SagaNorensLeatherTrousers]

I have a male friend in his late 30's who has never had a relationship and probably never will. He lives the high life in Los Angeles and works on movie sets, and pretty much says he will never "settle down" at this point.

I also looked after an elderly lady who confessed to me that she would die a virgin (she has now died). She said "the opportunity never came up, Dear."

Bless her!

[Betsyblue]

I can think of three off the top of my head- one is really immature, one is terrified of commitment and one is completely lovely and sociable etc. So really, all different to each other- just like people who have had/ are in relationships!

[FunkyPeacock]

DH has a good friend who has never to my knowledge been in a relationship

He is very intelligent & not bad looking either BUT he is hugely lacking in social skills (? Aspergers)

He owns his own house, is very honest, kind and is also great with kids, so would probably make the perfect partner for someone out there but he hasn't met her yet!

[cailindana]

Yes, she's 30. She has what another poster describes as "unresolved issues around her sexuality." I know she feels under pressure to be in a relationship and knows people find it odd that she has never been in one. She is beautiful, funny and kind, but there are definitely issues there. I don't know if she'll ever resolve them.

[EmeraldThief]

I can't say I'm all that interested in other people's sex lives to even care to be honest, but have you ever heard of asexuality? Some people just genuinely arent interested in relationships etc.

[helenahandbag]

Hakluyt

Jesus, that's me told then

I was answering the bloody question, no-one mentioned an age limit! At what point did I say that it was over for her and that she'd end up alone?