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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To go to a Tupperware party with the certainty of not buying anything

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Barbin · 12/10/2014 07:43

I am going to a Tupperware party but I'm not going to buy anything. I see a Tupperware party as similar to a shop, no need to buy unless you really want or need something and I definitely don't want or need anything, so I won't be buying.

My dm thinks iabu and rude and that I need to at least buy something token.

I want to go to see some friends and have a look at what is for sale. Aibu?

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DilligafMyUKIP · 12/10/2014 07:47

I agree with your DM

If you want to see your mates, arrange an outing

Charitybag · 12/10/2014 07:50

Bloody hell, I didn't know Tupperware parties were still going - what a blast from the past!

My aunt is always having parties selling tat of some sort and my mum is always invited along. She goes to be polite but rarely buys anything. If she wanted dodgy handbags, overpriced skincare etc she'd have bought them herself without feeling obliged to.

So no, YANBU in my opinion.

combust22 · 12/10/2014 07:50

If you go then you have to buy.

If you don't want to buy then don't go.

KnackeredMuchly · 12/10/2014 07:51

My friend arranged a candle one, I told her I was happy to go to make up numbers but no way was I buying anything!

KnackeredMuchly · 12/10/2014 07:52

I'm really surprised there seems to be an 'obligation'.

That said, why would you go if you weren't interested in purchasing?

Eminybob · 12/10/2014 07:54

If you have absolutely no intention of buying anything then I don't see why you'd bother going. Just arrange to see your mates another time.

That said, if you get there and don't fancy anything then I don't think you should be obliged to buy anything, it's like going into a shop, you don't have to buy something while you're there.

combust22 · 12/10/2014 07:58

It's not "like going into a shop " though- it's a friend's home. the friend may know the party planner, trying to help or may feel obliged herself in providing sales, or at least have some incentive to reach a bonus.
Either way unpleasant.

moxon · 12/10/2014 07:58

Is it actual Tupperware? Have you checked? I mean, it's not streetslang for Ritalin prescription exchange parties is it?

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Barbin · 12/10/2014 07:59

I want to go to see my friends and have a look at what's for sale. I know I won't be buying as I don't need anything and don't have the money spare for any impulse buys.

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3pigsinblanketsandasausagerole · 12/10/2014 08:00

Fucking tupperware?

EveDallasRetd · 12/10/2014 08:01

I was invited to a make-up party (Vie) and went knowing fine well I wouldn't buy anything (I don't wear make-up). Neither host nor seller minded.

Oh, and a cooking one - can't remember the name, v expensive stuff made of stone. Again didn't buy anything, but that was because I was astounded at the prices. Host again fine, but seller was pissed off at that one - kept saying "but what about the pizza stone everyone needs one of those". She followed up with lots of emails too.

Tupperware is so much cheaper on the high street - I get all mine (and I have a lot) from Ikea. You never know though, there might be something small that catches your eye.

BreadForBrains · 12/10/2014 08:02

Why are you going? Seems a bit odd. I have stopped going to these parties as i was fed up of having a pretend night out and spending money on crap that I could buy in a real shop and have some choice in.
I'm with your dm, you know what the party is for. If you have no intention of buying any of it, I think it's a bit off to go.

SanityClause · 12/10/2014 08:04

I think it's rude to go but not to buy.

But I also think it's rude to host such a "party" where the goal is for the host to make money out of her friends.

So everyone is being unreasonable, IMVHO.

BearFeet · 12/10/2014 08:04

I would never feel obliged to buy. Go, see your friends and then mention to the host towards the end that there was nothing that you really needed.

Hoppinggreen · 12/10/2014 08:06

Up to you but I never go to this sort of thing because if I want to see my mates I can do that anyway and f I want to buy Tupperware/candles/make up/cookery stuff I can go to a shop

JamaicanMeCrazy · 12/10/2014 08:11

I think it's okay if the host knows and doesn't mind.

My friend regularly hosts Ann Summers parties and knows fine that I'm not going to buy anything but still invites me as she wants me there as we have fun.

Contact the host and ask if it's okay

Mmmicecream · 12/10/2014 08:11

I did that last year and didn't buy anything, but then regretted it and ended up going to a second one 6 months later just to buy a couple of things

And I haven't regretted it either. But, where I live, the only place to buy actual real Tuppaware is at the parties, so there are still a few of them around.

Zzzexhaustedzzz · 12/10/2014 08:15

Stay strong op! You'll need to, these parties come with an unspoken agreement to indulge the party thrower by purchasing. Often they and the rep can be quite/ very pushy. Last one I went to was body shop and I got tricked into buying something full price I would normally only ever buy on offer!! (I went by accident, friend of friend) hate the whole pseudo pally bs of it! By not buying you are calling their bluff, don't expect smiles on the way out !

combust22 · 12/10/2014 08:17

I agree with Sanityclause- such events are to be avoided.

In fact friends who even think they are a good idea should be avoided too.

daisychain01 · 12/10/2014 08:24

I'd go along and buy a token item for about a fiver (and say Ive been looking for obe of these for ages) just because

A) it's nice to support friends

B) what's a fiver these days

C) it means you can socialise at the same time

Or else just decline the kind invitation and socialise some other time

MaryWestmacott · 12/10/2014 08:24

Avoid! I haven't been to a "selling party" for years, they tend to be crap and are always selling things for around 50% more than you could buy it for elsewhere...

Eminybob · 12/10/2014 08:25

I don't reckon there will be much available for a fiver. That's why I buy my "Tupperware" from the pound shop

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Barbin · 12/10/2014 08:27

That's a good idea about buying something that costs a fiver. I will do that.

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Eminybob · 12/10/2014 08:29

To be honest if I hosted one of these parties I don't think I'd even notice if someone bought something or not.

I hosted a body shop one years ago as a colleague had just become a rep and I have no idea who bought what.

fatlazymummy · 12/10/2014 08:40

Loling at 'whats a fiver nowadays'. It's still a significant amount of money to some people, and not to be wasted on buying something just for the sake of it.
A 'party' is a social event, therefore no reason why anyone should feel obligated to buy anything. I wouldn't go myself though, because they are really boring as parties go.

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