To want to take a photo or two of my daughters in their nativity?

[BabylonReturns]

Just that really.

Text from school this morning to say photos and videos are banned.

Really annoyed as is dd2s first school nativity, and I've recorded the last 4 with dd1 in, no problem.

[VworpVworp]

Some children cannot have their photo taken for a number of reasons. People posting every picture they take to fb has a lot to answer for these decisions being made.

[17leftfeet]

lots of schools do this but will generally get the children to pose after it's finished for parent's to take pictures of their own children, or will take photos which you can buy for a nominal amount

[RedLondonBus]

Lots of schools now do this, not much you can do about it

[clam]

Might not be as simple as posting on FB but there might be a child/children who are fleeing from an abusive parent whose whereabouts need to be kept private.

[AlpacaPicnic]

Take the pictures at the end of the play, with them stood on the stage together.
It'll be better if not a wee bit posed because you won't have everyone else's heads in the way!

[GobbySadcase]

Yes YABU as you could be putting a vulnerable child at risk.

[FortyDoorsToNowhere]

I feel this will be banned at DD school soon, everyone was specifically told photos/ recording are for personal use and by the time I got home at least 10 parents had broke that rule.

[FortyDoorsToNowhere]

And put it on Facebook

[lilyaldrin]

There may be a child in her class who is at risk and needs to have their identity protected.

Maybe the school could do a photo call afterwards? That way there is a chance to remove any children who cannot be photographed.

[jacks365]

Friend of mine is a foster carer (short term) due to the circumstances behind a child she had the other year she couldn't take the child to a local carnival just in case the child inadvertently appeared on a photo. Sometimes things really are that difficult.

[FruitbatAuntie]

There may well be a child (or several) at the school for whom having their photo published on FB etc. could be disastrous. Children in the care system, children whose relatives may be then able to identify them and locate them - children who need protecting, basically, from their whereabouts being known.

That may sound extreme to you. You may think that you know for certain that this doesn't apply at your school - but are you 100% certain of that? There have previously been cases where local papers have published school photos with awful consequences for families fleeing domestic violence, and I am sure sites like FB have caused similar issues too.

I know it's annoying when this doesn't apply to you, all you want is a memento of a lovely occasion. But you need to think about what could happen if everyone takes photos of a group of kids and puts them online for their extended families to see.

My DS's school tries to get round this by allowing parents to take a photo of their own child only, in their costume, at the end of the show. That seems fairly sensible I think. But I suppose how do you police it if someone decides to take pics of other kids too?

[BabylonReturns]

All very sensible responses and I know you are all right. Just feel a bit sad about it really :(

[Pixel]

Ds had his school Christmas play on friday. We were told at the beginning that we were welcome to take photographs throughout, and that there would be an opportunity at the end to take a group photo of all the 'cast', as long as the pictures were for our own enjoyment and not posted on social media.

I love ds's school, they have buckets of common sense .

[foreverondiet]

Photos in action of school shows never come out well anyway.

Take a photo of your child in costume at the end.

[steppemum]

pixel, that is great and with ds class that is what we are told. But not for all classes. When Y2, 3 and 4 did a play, we were told very firmly that we mustn't take photos, as it puts some children at risk.

I happen to know because I once overheard a comment, that one of the children in these classes have a father who is forbidden to collect them and doesn't know where they are.

It isn't about your school being sensible, or common sense it is about stupid parents who stuck the class picture on fb and then a child LIFE is at risk.

[Nanny0gg]

There is also nothing more annoying than parents bobbing up and down all the way through a play, taking photos of their precious ones.
Not to mention all the blasted flashes going off.

Much better for the school to film/take photos and maybe raise a bit of money towards the costumes.

[Pixel]

No one was bobbing up and down at all . And yes I agree it is the stupid people posting pictures online who have spoiled it for everyone.

[CrohnicallySick]

Pixel- that is the policy our school has. Each parent must sign an agreement which says they won't post photos on the Internet etc etc.

The only thing is, it doesn't actually stop them doing it!

[BatterseaGirl]

I've never really unde

[BatterseaGirl]

I've never really understand why anyone would rather look through a small screen than actually watch it. Does anyone really watch it again - and it's never a very good film anyway with all those heads bobbing about. Can't you just take a photo at home in the costume?

[Monetbyhimself]

My Ex used to spend more time taking videos and photographs to post on bloody Facebook to prove what an amazing daddy he was, than he spent actually WATCHING the shows. Am so glad I no longer sit anywhere near him!

[Artandco]

It's a shame. Many people used to take a film even if crappy as often only one parent could attend due to work so the other would view at home with child. I know when we have to go to shows/ events etc at nursery/ school we tend to take turns who takes time off

[Mama1980]

My eldest and youngest are mine by sgo, and protected by court order. I refuse all permission for their photographs to be taken in any public way.