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¨To send a copied and pasted Facebook Conversation to the superior at somebody's work

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QuintessentialOldDear Mon 26-Aug-13 23:08:15

Most of what happens on Facebook just wash over me.
But today I got really really pissed off, and the latent feminist in me made a silent ROAR.

I am a member of a Selling/swap page on Facebook for my home town. A man posted asking if somebody knew a place on Facebook to post a job advert. (Vacant position) He attached a screenshot from his mobile detailing the job. He wrote in slang, outlining it was mostly lifting heavy boxes from delivery vans and putting them in storage, saying "this job is not for women".

A woman posted saying she did not think he could phrase it like that as it was discriminating against women. He replied saying in broad terms "you come and try out this job for a day babe and you will see it is not for women". She replied she worked in health care and did not need another job, she just wanted to point out that she did not think it could be phrased that way. A barrage of abuse from him, and various other men, mocking her being a woman, mocking her working in health care, and saying stuff like "of course, working in health care you have the time to make dumbass replies online" etc

I googled his name. Lo and behold he is general manager of the local branch. He has also taken part in a national reality show similar to Temptation Island, drives a Hot car with a Hot girlfriend in 6th form.

A woman posted saying she did 90kg in weights and would love a job with heavy lifting. He replied, he did not really want to meet a woman who could do that job, as he would not fancy a woman who could do such physical work without problems. He wondered if he should repost on

His girlfriend posted laughing at all the women who felt affronted that they could not do the job.

He wondered if he should repost and hope that he would not get replies from "half brains" and idiots.

It was most absurd, most of the people posting were trying to help him see that it was against the law to post a job advert that was blatantly discriminating against a specific gender, and that not all men would be able to do that job. He was offensive to all of them.

As he is the gm of the local branch of a privately owned medium sized nationwide company, I am so tempted to email the entire conversation, with 30 comments mocking women and generally just being an arse to head office.

I dont know WHY the whole thing has angered me so much.

Should I just let it go thinking "Just another horrible arse" and be glad I dont actually know him at all.

NatashaBee Mon 26-Aug-13 23:10:53

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

MrsMeg Mon 26-Aug-13 23:11:53

Crickey, I would be tempted to forward on too. Is the name of his employer in his profile.

LeaveTheBastid Mon 26-Aug-13 23:13:22

What an absolute dickhead.

I'd send it. And hope its a woman he gets a bollocking off.

QuintessentialOldDear Mon 26-Aug-13 23:13:26

The name of the employer is in his profile, and mentioned in the ad as well as the FB conversation. He is recruiting on behalf of his employer, in this way.

CoolaSchmoola Mon 26-Aug-13 23:13:26

I was all prepared to say don't do it when I read the title.

Then I read the post.

Do it!! He has posted discriminatory, offensive posts in a public site in the company name . The company have a right to know what their employees are doing in a work capacity, which this clearly was, so they can avoid a potential legal issue.

Revengeofkarma Mon 26-Aug-13 23:14:19

There's a whole other thread in legal matters where I keep saying that the reason this stuff keeps coming to light is because of just this. What used to be "he said, she said" is now "here you go. Here's the transcript."

He's made it public. This isn't even the old chestnut of "it was a conversation between me and a mate and I thought it was private." This is advertising for a job on behalf of said company and being sexist as hell about it.

I would send it in, and I would sign my name to it. He does it because he gets away with it. The only way it will ever stop is is someone doesn't let him get away with it.

Which could also be by applying for the job, getting refused and using the posts as evidence of sex discrimination, but that takes AGES!

CharityFunDay Mon 26-Aug-13 23:14:28

A bit stalkery to send it to his boss, but I'd say the little fucker deserves it. Go on.

Hegsy Mon 26-Aug-13 23:14:42

Gives a poor impression of the company. I'd send it. What an arse!

What a twat he sounds. Yes I would drop him right in it.

trixymalixy Mon 26-Aug-13 23:15:50

Please do. What a dickhead.

GetStuffezd Mon 26-Aug-13 23:16:01

I would. Without question.

tywysogesgymraeg Mon 26-Aug-13 23:17:12

Send it! And let us know what response you get.

TheCutOfYourJib Mon 26-Aug-13 23:17:16

Wow what a knob.
Yes send and update here.

wilkos Mon 26-Aug-13 23:17:59

You have to send it, don't even consider it just send. What a twit.

LookingForwardToVino Mon 26-Aug-13 23:18:19

Most definitely send it!

HeffalumpTheFlump Mon 26-Aug-13 23:18:35

I think you should send it. His attitude is completely unacceptable. I don't think the company will be very happy that their name is being dragged through the mud like this. He needs to be pulled up on his behaviour as he clearly thinks there is nothing wrong with it. Definitely send it.

IThinkOfHappyWhenIThinkOfYou Mon 26-Aug-13 23:18:43

I was all prepared to tell you to keep your beak out but having actually read the OP I think you should send it.

FuzzyWuzzywasaWoman Mon 26-Aug-13 23:18:46

Do it. Can you send it to the press too?

meditrina Mon 26-Aug-13 23:18:55

I'm another who would usually say 'stand clear' from anything that is on FB.

But as the company is identifiable, and what he is proposing is illegal, then yes, I think they should be involved. If it's all a stupid wind up, he'll be able to explain it to them. But

volvocowgirl Mon 26-Aug-13 23:19:01

Send it, also screen shot it all and let it go viral :-)

Jinsei Mon 26-Aug-13 23:19:23

Absolutely yes, send it!

Tortington Mon 26-Aug-13 23:19:24

yes yes send and update. well done you

StephenFrySaidSo Mon 26-Aug-13 23:19:24

deffo do it if it mentions the employer in the job description! shock they will want to know!

BadBuddha Mon 26-Aug-13 23:19:37

Agree with all the above ~ YWNBU ~ send it. Awful and outrageous!

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