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To call DD's vagina her vagina?

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LauLauLemon Wed 03-Aug-11 15:44:18

I don't think I am but this has now caused hell to the point where my 93 year old Grandmothet has refused to see me, my Bampi is yelling at me and everyone is up in arms.

Apparently it's a sexual term, not one to be used by little girls and I'm a bad mother. It's got to the point where my nosy grandma tried to find in laws in the phone book to complain to them about their horrible son using the word to his daughter "Get your hands off your vagina" after she was messing around.

What exactly is wrong with a three year old knowing her vagina is called just that. I'm not going to make up names for it.

Also, if DD uses this term in nursery Bampi seems to think I'll be called in for a meeting and asked not to return.

AIBU or are family just a load of bonkers twats?

NotQuiteCockney Wed 03-Aug-11 15:45:13

Vagina is a perfectly good word.

But I suspect you really mean "vulva", not "vagina". [pedant]

BelleDameSansMerci Wed 03-Aug-11 15:45:22

YABU because it sounds as if you mean her vulva rather than her vagina...

LauLauLemon Wed 03-Aug-11 15:46:50

Yes, I mean vulva but I thought vulva, labia majora, labia minora etc would be a little difficult to comprehend. Mind you 'twinkie' is the favourite in our family. Like the delicious American treat.

confused

jeckadeck Wed 03-Aug-11 15:47:02

YANBU. Better for her to use a technical term than some silly baby version or worse. What do your family want you to call it?

LauLauLemon Wed 03-Aug-11 15:47:33

If I use the word vulva I'm probably going to get slapped. As too with urethra.

LineRunner Wed 03-Aug-11 15:47:52

Unless she has a vagina on the outside of her body, how is this scenario even possible?

Cattleprod Wed 03-Aug-11 15:48:08

Your family are very odd. I'd see their point if you were encouraging her to call it her c-word, but vagina is just an anatomical term, like nose or liver.

I think a lot of people make up names for the whole area, rather than the orifice itself, as it makes it easier to talk about. Growler is my personal favourite! grin

expectingprofessional Wed 03-Aug-11 15:48:16

I'm with the "vulva" if it's the "vulva" you are referring too!

catgirl1976 Wed 03-Aug-11 15:48:31

YANBU. It is far better term than twinke, front bottom or whatever other twee name your family would prefer.

LauLauLemon Wed 03-Aug-11 15:48:38

Anything other than a technical term for anything in that region. Twinkie or twinkle have been tossed about (and quickly tossed aside).

TheMagnificentBathykolpian Wed 03-Aug-11 15:49:04

vagina/vulva just describe part of the body.

May as well bring out the smelling salts if you say arm or leg.

I will never understand people who can't deal with perfectly normal words.

If the proper word for vulva was twinkie would it be oooh no, can't say twinkie, that's the actual word. Must use another one.

ffs.

pjmama Wed 03-Aug-11 15:49:09

Bonkers twats.

everlong Wed 03-Aug-11 15:49:49

Why are you being so pedantic about it? Fwiw I think yabu. Little girls don't need to know the correct term do they? Are you trying to shock people?

nickelbabe Wed 03-Aug-11 15:50:46

use vulva, because your Bampi has probably never heard of it.

fancy thinking a correct anatomical term is swearing! (it would be "correct" if you were referring to her vagina, but i'm sure all the pedants who pointed this out realise quite well what you meant)

cankles Wed 03-Aug-11 15:51:09

vagina is fine, dd3 (8) calls hers her fanny, not sure that we shouldn't have stuck with vagina!

LauLauLemon Wed 03-Aug-11 15:51:13

No, not trying to shock people at all, I just think that if you say a nose is a nose and an arm is an arm that your vulva shouldn't have to be substituted for another word like it's something to be ashamed of.

catgirl1976 Wed 03-Aug-11 15:51:47

What on earth should she call it everlong? Why does she not need to know the correct term? It is the CORRECT term (well it isn't but that is pedantic and beside the point).

You wouldn't tell her a tree is called a trippy tree leafey leafy. It's a TREE. Why make up a word for a part of her anatomy?

LauLauLemon Wed 03-Aug-11 15:52:51

I actially have been talking about her vagina. She pulls apart her labia and has a look etc. that's what we mean by get off it.

She says the whole area including her vulva is her vagina and I've not corrected her as in while wiping etc.

TattyDevine Wed 03-Aug-11 15:53:13

I think you all sound a bit bonkers for it to be such an issue and for you to have posted, to be honest...

Alikersh Wed 03-Aug-11 15:53:35

YANBU. IMO it's no different to calling sheep 'baa lambs' or cows 'moo cows'. It's cute for a while then suddenly the poor confused child gets told to call things by their proper name. Although I am bit pendantic about calling a spade a spade... smile

PerryCombover Wed 03-Aug-11 15:54:23

do you mean vulva?

LauLauLemon Wed 03-Aug-11 15:54:37

We are all bonkers but I thought it was slightly more bonkers to not talk to me about it, slam the phone down, declare I'm a bad mum etc over it. That's why I asked AIBU.

ShowOfHands Wed 03-Aug-11 15:55:23

everlong is right to be fair. Why should a little girl be taught the name for something? I've taken it to the next level. DD has Reachy Grab Grabs (<whispers> arms) and KissyMcLickers (her mouth). I don't want her knowing the correct names for things, otherwise she might, you know, name things and where would we be then?

everlong Wed 03-Aug-11 15:56:12

I know and have known a lot of little girls and have never come across any of them saying vagina, ever.

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