to absolutely veto DDs plans for Newquay after GCSEs next year?

[AtYourCervix]

Apparently all teenagers go to Newquay after GCSEs. Absolutely everyone.

I have said 'No'. I mean No.

I am a neglectful relaxed kind on mother but Ithe line must be drawn somewhere and this is it.

AIBU?

[bumpsoon]

YANBU but dont expect DD to understand that until her kids are the same age

[worraliberty]

I don't know.

What goes on in Newquay?

[Alibabaandthe80nappies]

YANBU. If this insanity is still in vogue when the DS's are 16, they will not be going.

[sharbie]

no no no no no no

[AtYourCervix]

What doesn't 'go on' in Newquay?

I suspect some underage drinking, shagging and illicit/illegal substance misuse.

yes it might be fun, but no, i don't want my baby doing it.

[AtYourCervix]

and this is a year in advance.

No now, and No then.

[bellavita]

Lots of drinking apparently according to a documentary I watched a while back.

[worraliberty]

Is it some sort of festival or something?

[manicinsomniac]

next year?

why don't you tell her that you'll think about it during the year and see how mature and responsible she is by this time next year.

Then, next year, if you feel the same - say no!

[NotSuchASmugMarriedNow]

I dunno I kinda think that people who do all their rebelling and naughtiness and bad behaviour at 16 have got it all out of their system by the time the hit their 20's.

[illagain]

i went it was fab drinking, hangover learnt a lot survived missed my mum

[AtYourCervix]

problem is she is so very straight and sensible i can't use that against her. but every fibre in my soul says no.

[bibbitybobbityhat]

Yanbu. God, I feel so sorry for the day to day folk of Newquay.

[buttonandjess]

YA definitely NBU - you have to draw the line somewhere and this is it. She may thank you one day - although I imagine this may take 20 years!!!

[AtYourCervix]

Poncy - are you channeling my DD?

[Thruaglassdarkly]

My DDs would have to kill me first. YADNBU!!!

[Thruaglassdarkly]

...before I let them go, not before I vetoed it. Sorry.

[thekidsmom]

Definitely not! We put our foot down over the same thing 2 years ago. And that was the year 2 kids died in separate drunken accidents.

There is nothing to do there after dark except drink and the clubs wont let them in without ID so they all go to the beach where it all happens....

[squeakytoy]

Newquay is the UK equivalent of Ibiza.... drink, drugs, vomiting, lots of arrests... underage drinking, the occasional death due to idiotic drunken behavour, and lots of stomach pumping.

I wouldnt let my teen go, or if they did, I would go with them and completely piss on their parade.

[FabbyChic]

If she is 16 and is going with other 16 year olds why not? You have to let the apron strings go at some point.