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To be sad and quite horrified that this couple aborted their babies...

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MsKLo Sat 08-Jan-11 19:32:25

Couple with three sons abort twin boys conceived with IVF - and they will try again for a girl as their first daughter died

Read more: ns-abort-twin-boys-IVF--try-baby-girl-daughter-die d.html#ixzz1ATR8ExuK

I read this and was just shock

I do really really feel sad for them too, but also horrified that they aborted their boys because they were not girls

So sad

Darnsarfupnorf Sat 08-Jan-11 19:34:01

your not IMHO, i read this too and was horrified sad

sarah293 Sat 08-Jan-11 19:34:09

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MsKLo Sat 08-Jan-11 19:36:39

They already have 3 healthy boys who were conceived naturally too...

I just don't know what to think about them but I can't help but be really sad for the twin boys she aborted...

Shakirasma Sat 08-Jan-11 19:44:37

I think they need some serious counselling! The loss of their daughter has clearly messed their heads up big time!

What I think is really unreasonable is a legal system which allowed them to have the abortion in the first place.

I am pro choice if their are good reasons, this was not. Whatever they say to the contrary, they are trying to replace the lost girl.

ziggyf Sat 08-Jan-11 19:53:56


Mists Sat 08-Jan-11 19:55:28

I'm also pro-choice but my gut reaction is that this is absolutely bloody horrible.

pink4ever Sat 08-Jan-11 20:18:39

I am another pro-choice here but this has really torn me.As someone who has lost babies I can empathise with their desire to have another daughter. However I do feel that if you go down the route of letting people "choose" the sex of their children then we are on the slippery road to eugenics(blond hair,blue eyes,no problem?).
Also I am very concerned with the emotional well being of their surviving dcs. How must they feel knowing they are "not enough"?.

spikeycow Sat 08-Jan-11 20:19:55

Wow. And to tell everyone in a newspaper like they are proud of it!

spikeycow Sat 08-Jan-11 20:21:23

And the H reckons they are due a bit of luck? Those poor, poor boys sad

ilovemyhens Sat 08-Jan-11 20:23:41

I hope the woman ends up sterile and that their three sons dump them permanently once they reach 18 angry

TheManWhoSoldtheWorld Sat 08-Jan-11 20:25:31

Can they be given IVF again and again? Does ethics/counselling not come in to it?

bupcakesandcunting Sat 08-Jan-11 20:26:38

I opened this thread ready to say YABU as I very pro choice but this is horrible.

No, YANBU at all. Bloody shocking.

RevoltingPeasant Sat 08-Jan-11 20:30:03

I feel sorry for their existing sons. Imagine realising what your parents had done and why?

And imagine if they did get a DD, the pressure that child would be under!

I was supposed to be a boy, but, I think luckily for me, I disappointed my parents (and have been doing so ever since...).

expatinscotland Sat 08-Jan-11 20:30:03

I think gender selection should only be allowed in cases where the couple carries a sex-linked disease.

SlightlyTubbyHali Sat 08-Jan-11 20:31:40

I'm pro-choice, but this is just horrid.
You want a little girl so much, go to a country where sex selection is legal and have IVF there.

I don't have a problem with sex selection per se, but I am absolutely opposed to abortion being used to achieve it. Largely, I suppose, because part of my being pro-choice is that I have always assumed that any woman who has an abortion does so for good reason: she can't cope with a child, she could not bring a child up at that point in time, it is not right for her family to add another baby. But just because of the baby's sex ? It's pretty unacceptable.

AuntieMaggie Sat 08-Jan-11 20:31:43

OMG - absolutely shocking!

ChaoticAngelofAnarchy Sat 08-Jan-11 20:32:44

I agree with expat.

5inthebed Sat 08-Jan-11 20:34:14

Truly shocking.

I agree with Expat about the gender selection.

MsKLo Sat 08-Jan-11 20:37:10

I am pro choice bunting

Spikeycow - apologies to you from me for our bun fight last week on another thread - you were being passionate about how you feel and I should not have had a go at you for that so apologies - you sound like a strong woman with strong opinions and i admire that even if we don't necessarily agree!

raspberryroo Sat 08-Jan-11 20:38:36

Again I'm pro- choice but there has to be a limit and am with expat

herbietea Sat 08-Jan-11 20:39:13

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BuzzLightBeer Sat 08-Jan-11 20:40:30

there isn't a limit if you are pro-choice, thats the whole point. Its their choice, not yours.

StiffyByng Sat 08-Jan-11 20:43:15

I'm strongly pro-choice, mainly on the grounds that I believe people's own decisions about their lives should be respected. But this stuff strains my instincts, because it's such a stupid and callous way to behave. And I always find people who complain about their healthy children on the grounds of gender infuriating, even more so when, like this pair, they've experienced the pain of losing a child.

MsKLo Sat 08-Jan-11 20:43:17

It's hard to know how to feel
I am prochoice but I don't think I could ever have an abortion - I just don't know
I definately think the cut off rate for abortion is too high (except in exceptional circumstances)

I really don't know how to feel about this story!

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