The psychology of the discussion on MN around ambition and money is interesting.
I agree with a PP that there isn’t much discussion around what women earn. In fact I think there’s still an assumption that women will take up lower paid roles in care, retail, teaching etc. There’s still a high degree of internal and external unconscious bias which drives their career choices.
The fact that we don’t talk enough about women earning a lot, or encourage women to be financially ambitious, means that there is very little to challenge those biases.
Then you see the endless threads about (i) women who earn less and therefore have stepped back from their jobs because their DP is the breadwinner; (ii) families suffering from cost of living issues because they have 1 or 1.5 incomes; (iii) women who can’t get back into the workforce having stepped back; (iv)
women being screwed over when their DH leaves them without their own income/security/pension; (v) women who are terrified of old age because they won’t be able to meet their rent.
Most of this thread has been supportive but there are those who talk about money not being important; doing something fulfilling instead; or making assumptions that the rich are all Epsteins and that it’s all about unfair connections and “cheating” the system. There’s a whiff of wanting to put OP off.
MN often has a problem with people with money. There’s a lot of sneering at the wealthy, notwithstanding their tax contribution. There’s a distaste for ambition.
I think we should be celebrating women like the OP; encouraging girls to understand the financial reality of what settling for a lower salary looks like - not just in their 20s, but the impact on their life into their middle age and old age. We should be encouraging them to aim high financially and to regard ambition as a good thing.