I started at the company I work for in August last year. I'm a mum of 2 and the job was ideal, I could work from home everyday, n it was super flexi hours. They had an office in London (one of those wework rent a space for a day ones) but said I didn't need to go in, only if I wanted to, maybe 1x a month! I explained my situation and how due to childcare and the hours my kids could be looked after, London was not doable very often for me at all (it's 2 hrs each way on trains) and they said no problem, just when I can or if a company event/training is happening but that's not often. Fast forward to now, I'm 5 months pregnant with my 3rd baby, I've passed my probation, but we have a new office space in London that the company rent monthly now. A new director started a month ago and he's now demanding us all in at least once a week, ideally 2-3 times. My manager now keeps pestering me now about going in 1 day a week to keep this director happy. To do this I need to ask a huge favour of my retired parents every week to get to my house super early and leave super late, to look after my kids, something they don't really want to do (the hours, not looking after them!) as I need to leave the house at 6.40am, and I don't get home until 7pm. My partner finishes work around 6.30pm n leaves at7.30am. My parents live an hours drive away. Not only that, I am exhausted this pregnancy and finding it really tough mentally and physically this time round, still being sick too, everydays a struggle atm! So travelling into London and the underground even once a week is so tiring for me and tbh, I get more done at home anyway, it just feels so pointless. Would you stand your ground here, and say it's not what I signed up for, childcare is a struggle and just refuse? I don't want to lose my job over it (so anxious currently so over thinking everything of course) but my manager says this director seems pretty serious about everyone needing to be in the office more. Help!
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BluebellBlueballs · 05/03/2023 06:47
Of course they can if they have sufficient business grounds and have gone through a consultation
RotundBeagle · 05/03/2023 03:25
If your contract states you’re entirely WFH or your base location is home you have a leg to stand on, however even then they are entitled to just change your contract, with notice.
Really?
I thought an employer couldn't amend a contract without the employee's agreement.
RotundBeagle · 05/03/2023 10:38
Wow. Well you learn something new every day!
What's even the point of a contract if they can just say "oh, by the way we're changing your contract. I know we agreed £60k but it's gonna be £30k from next month."
BluebellBlueballs · 05/03/2023 06:47
Of course they can if they have sufficient business grounds and have gone through a consultation
RotundBeagle · 05/03/2023 03:25
If your contract states you’re entirely WFH or your base location is home you have a leg to stand on, however even then they are entitled to just change your contract, with notice.
Really?
I thought an employer couldn't amend a contract without the employee's agreement.
Toomuch2019 · 05/03/2023 08:37
Clearly your husband stepping up is the answer. It's only one day a week. Your work are not being unreasonable.
twix23 · 05/03/2023 08:25
My parents and his parents share 3 days and 2 days DD is with a child minder, but my childminder doesn't have the capacity to increase the hours (currently 9-4) and I really don't want to move her as she's so settled and loves this lady, the first one I tried didn't work out so well so I don't want to do that to my DD again! My partner has nothing to do with childcare as comments have suggested, I sort it all. My eldest DD (12) is at school so she comes home 3.15pm. I can of course work with her there her being older and shutting herself in her room anyway lol, but I don't fancy her being home alone for over 3 hours at all either.
fajitaaaa · 05/03/2023 07:38
I explained my situation and how due to childcare and the hours my kids could be looked after, London was not doable very often for me at all what's the childcare?
Dyslexicwonder · 05/03/2023 10:26
So the obvious question is why have another baby ?
fajitaaaa · 05/03/2023 08:58
Oh!
Hope that works out for you op
B0g · 05/03/2023 08:51
OP wants to leave her abusive boyfriend, so she needs to figure out how to lone parent her kids. People posted UC calculator etc. on her other thread.
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SheilaFentiman · 05/03/2023 11:37
“It also sounds like the OP already has two children not by DP (or "boyfriend" as someone says upthread - and there's a backstory there too)”
FWIW, the older child (aged 12) is not her DP’s, the younger child is.
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